Me and my partner are desperate to have a little boy, We already have 2 beautiful little girls who we wouldnt change for the world,But both times i was pregnant we were secretly hoping for a boy.The problem is my partner wants to try again to see if this time i can give him a boy. But i cant help feeling that we would be acting selfishly after all the chances are 50/50,and if i did indeed have another girl i couldnt face the thought of been disappointed, Because this is a life were talking about.I know people are going to say you should be grateful you have 2 healthy daughters and believe me i am.But this problem has been on my mind alot recently. Is wanting a boy so badly a healthy reason to get pregnant? or will it only cause heart ache and dissapointment.Or do i just enjoy my 2 daughters and except the fact that wanting a boy and only a boy is not a good enough reason to get pregnant???? I would love peoples opinions because i feel like im going around in one big circle.
2006-10-12 09:21:10 · 28 answers · asked by cheekychimp 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
O-M-G you sound just like me! Four kids - one boy. Ask yourself if you want another child (in general). Would you be okay if you had another girl? If you can't honestly answer yes, I wouldn't do it yet. If you're okay with the possibility of another girl, go for it ... but yeah -you're facing the exact same issues I faced with my husband! We had our two oldest daughters, then tried again, got a son, then (oops) another daughter. I love them all to death and wouldn't trade any of them for the world! And don't get yourself too stressed.
2006-10-12 09:29:24 · answer #1 · answered by Ma'êšeeonáhe 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I don't even know if you chances of having a boy are 50/50. I know a lot of men who have either all sons or all daughters, so it seems that some of them are prone to passing on either the x chromosome or the y chromosome each time. My brother-in-law has 4 boys, I knew a family that had 12 kids, and 11 of them were boys. If you want another child go ahead and try, but not if it's only because you want a boy because like you said, you don't want to feel disappointed with any baby, boy or girl. Good Luck to you, no matter what your choice.
2006-10-12 09:28:34 · answer #2 · answered by nimo22 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't feel bad! I think there are many others in the same boat. My friend had 4 children, all boys, and was hoping for a girl from the start! It's only natural to want both sexes. What you have to ask yourself is, will we be able to cope with another 1 or maybe 2 more children? If the answer's yes, then go for it and hope for the best! If it's not meant to be, then you still have been blessed, with with God chose for you! Good luck :-)
2006-10-12 09:35:21 · answer #3 · answered by miss_ruby_topaz 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wanting a boy for a Baby is not a Bad thing.
I have 2 boys already, and I was hoping that my second baby would be a girl but it turned to be out a Boy.
Am I disappointed? No Im not.
Wanting to have a specific gender for a Baby is not a bad thing but there is some kind of disappointing factor.
But if you really wanna have a baby boy next time go consult a doctor they can advise what The right time to have sex to have the baby boy next time.
2006-10-12 09:34:12 · answer #4 · answered by Warhorse X 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Girl I did everything in the book to have a boy the 2nd and 3rd and 4th time but ended up with all girl. I love them but I should have stopped now plenty of boys will come around later. My husband wanted to keep going, problem it's too expensive to have more kids and I do have my hands full. Heres another my dad wanted boys too and my parents have 10 girls and 2 boys. I'm so not kidding. Thats what he gets for wanting boys. Just be happy with the ones you have and if you can afforded it and know you'll have time every day to spend time with each one of them no matter what and one on one then go for it. But it is hard with work and school and sports and dance. I hardly have time for anything. Good luck it's all up to you.
2006-10-12 09:32:05 · answer #5 · answered by Sissy Girl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would have loved a daughter , but I had a feeling that we would have another boy., so we stopped at 2 boys. My husband is from a family with mostly boys on his side. He has one brother, his dad is one of three boys, and his grandfather is from 6 boys and 1 girl.
If you feel that you will be disappointed if it is a girl, then don't try for another. I don't think it is healthy to get pregnant purely for the desire for a particular sex.
2006-10-12 09:36:14 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There's nothing wrong with hoping for a baby boy, so long as you both are prepared for the fact that you may have a girl. It disturbs me that you use the terms "see if this time I can give him a boy." I hope your partner understands that he is the one who determines whether the baby is a boy or girl, not you. He has X and Y sperm, and you have only X eggs. XX is a girl, YX is a boy. So if you do end up with another girl, it's because of his X sperm!
2006-10-12 09:40:03 · answer #7 · answered by Mrs. Strain 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can WANT a boy, but it isn't guaranteed. I wouldn't say that it is "wrong" to want a boy. But you will need to understand that (like you said before) there is a 50/50 change. If you are willing to love another girl, then I would try again. If you aren't willing to love another little girl (with a 50% change it will be a boy) then i wouldn't try.
Everyone WANTS something. But it is the NEED that is important.
2006-10-12 09:31:25 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
ok. I got preggers wanting a girl. I got a boy. I love him more then anything. We are getting preggers in Dec. & again I want a girl. but i know I am going to have a boy! I am ok with this. (my husband has a son from a highschool opps)
since you already have 2 girls chances are your hubby is a girl maker!
1- nothing wrong with trying as long as both you know it may be a girl. be ready for a boy or girl. know that yoj can't control the sex of your child & be happy with what you get, even if it's not what you wanting.
2) we are trying again for a girl. (i am convinced it'll be a boy, my husband says I am jinxing us) but i am still going threw with it cuz I want a girl but I know I will be just as happy to have a another baby regardless!
3) adopt a boy. my husband & I have agreed to adpot a little girl if we can't have one. I don't care where my baby comes form cuz in the end. it'll be my baby!
Hope that helps. & good luck!
2006-10-12 09:30:01 · answer #9 · answered by bubbagaloosch 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
put aside the gender of the child and just think about whether you want another baby period. If you don't want another kid...don't do it. but if you would be happy either way go ahead.
My hubby and I wanted a boy, but we have a very beautiful daughter. We are TTC and again are hoping for a boy, but I know I'd be happy with another girl. I already have a name picked out either way.
You could always adopt. It isn't quite the same, but you obviously have more control over the gender.
Good Luck.
2006-10-12 09:25:11 · answer #10 · answered by Laura R 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋