My husband's friend is marrried to someone that my husband had sex with in high school. My hubby's friend had no idea that I knew what happenned. About a week after he found out that I knew what our significant others did long ago, he started flirting with me HEAVILY. He even proposed that we start a sexual relationship on the side. I'm having problems in my marriage and so is he, but I know this would be an unwise move to make. I am friendly with his wife and their 4 kids. I am uncomfortabke about this, but also strangely flattered. I'm scared to tell my husband and show him the emails his friend has sent me because he would go BALISTIC. Some advice PLEASE!!
2006-10-12 09:13:10 · 17 answers · asked by PRL8268 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Let it go....stay away from this situation and work on your marriage. NOTHING good comes from affairs....children and spouses lives are destroyed along with your own
2006-10-12 09:16:06 · answer #1 · answered by gina_road 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think what you really need to do is tell this "friend" of your husbands that he needs to back off. If you are having trouble in your marriage than maybe you need to sit down with your husband and try to work things out. You obviously have some feelings for your husband or you would not be asking this question to a bunch of strangers. YOu would go ahead with the affair but that's not going to solve any problems. Sit down talk to your husband, see what he says. Sometimes we have problems in our relationship because we don't communicate enough to our spouse.
2006-10-12 09:19:43 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Strangely flattered because a "taken man" has the hots for you. He's just using you as a means to an end. If your husband hadn't screwed his wife, he probably wouldn't be after you. Now, to get back at his wife and the inner jealousy he feels about your husband, he wants to do you?
That's a little suspect, don't you think? Don't fall for that crap. You'll just ruin your life. And don't tell your husband about the emails. You can handle it yourself discretly. No need fan the flame. It'll only screw things up more and you'll regret it.
2006-10-12 09:18:06 · answer #3 · answered by 11:11 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
The before marriage experience goes in the category of practice. The after marriage stuff goes in the category of lying and cheating. Email this guy and tell him you are flattered but you are not interested in his affection. You are friends with his wife and would not jeopardize that this way. Add that you wish he would be a better friend to your husband.
Put a stop to it and keep your mouth shut. Tell him to keep his mouth shut as well and go work on his marriage.
BTW maybe you can work on yours as well.
2006-10-12 09:19:48 · answer #4 · answered by Flagger 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
This is an easy one. Do you feel guilty not telling your husband what his friend is doing? If so, maybe you should consider telling him. The drama that ensues in something like this is FAR more than the physical gratification recieved. Personally, it sounds to me like as soon as the male "friend" gets his "revenge" so to speak, he wont treat you that way again. Then where will you be? Its so tempting before you do it, but you will always wish you hadnt crossed that line, once you have. I would certainly tell my husband. Any friend of his who tried that, obviously doesnt value his friendship, and will make other efforts to make him miserable, provided this one doesnt work.
2006-10-12 09:18:44 · answer #5 · answered by Erin G 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I can understand the flattery and attention being a rush, but don't let it go any farther. The fact that you've kept it from hubby is a betrayal. Think of how he would feel if he knew.
2006-10-12 09:17:31 · answer #6 · answered by MCS 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Soap opera drama! Just avoid seeing this guy unless in the presence of your husband. Work on your own problems, dont' give in to the temptation to create mroe!
2006-10-12 09:15:59 · answer #7 · answered by Sunidaze 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stay away from this guy, he is totally miserable, and misery loves company. DON'T DO IT i can hear some thoughts of possibly hanging out with this jerk. As far as your husband goes, DON'T ASK DON'T TELL. and remember two wrongs don't make a right.
2006-10-12 09:30:47 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Misery loves company, he doing it out of spite, and although the thrill of a secret relationship sounds fun, DONT GO THERE!! put that energy into making your marriage work.
2006-10-12 09:18:46 · answer #9 · answered by Curious 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Don't even think about it!
You are in a position to learn a thing or two. Just keep your eyes open and your mouth shut.
2006-10-12 09:25:26 · answer #10 · answered by big_strong_one 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋