I went through my husbands recent & dialed calls on his cell phone. I also pay the bill so I'm privvy to all incoming & outgoing calls. I usually never look but I did this time and saw some woman named Diane in is address book. Needless to say, I called her. Am I wrong?
2006-10-12 09:10:42 · 15 answers · asked by Tonya L 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
i dont think you are wrong if your married you both should have nothing to hide if having a womans name bothers you ask your husband who it is
2006-10-12 09:13:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anita 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
does he have a problem with it? If so....then you need to ask why. Who is she? and why the heck is he calling her. I don't think you're wrong....a relationship has to be built on trust...but you can't be so stupid as to just offer up blind trust with no spot-checks. If you can't feel confident enought to be able to conduct worry free spot checks and he he has a problem with it or feels he needs his privacy...then where's the trust? He shouldn't have a problem with you checking his email, cell phone, wallet, glove box...etc. And he should be able to do the same with you. But I'm not saying be a drug sniffing dog about it either - because that doesn't display trust. My husband & I have that sort of relationship - every so often, not on a regular basis, but when I think about it....I will check his emails, or check his cell phone, or check his voice mail....etc - keeps him honest...but I also know that he is privy to the same information. We have nothing to hide. And honeslty, speaking from experience, it's better than having something jump out and smack you in the face like this Diane - if there is that total open honesty expectation is in place, you would have already known about her and known every time he talked to her.
2006-10-12 09:21:22 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it's wrong. He should have nothing to hide and if he has nothing to hide then there would be no reason why he would care if you looked. And if he does care and does get mad at you them most likely he's really just mad at himself for having something to hide in the first place. Lol did you get all of that? What happened when you called? I wouldn't put too much thought into it. What does he do for work? Could it just be someone from work or a friend? My husband has all kinds of names in his phone book on his phone and I have no idea who they are but I know he's not cheating on me. Mostly because I know he doesn't have time lol and because I know he wouldn't. But if you are the kind of girl that doesn't like him talking to other women at all then it's a different story all couples have their boundaries. I hope for your sake and his head that he is being faithful. But I would approach it with caution. Don't make him think you are accusing him of anything he will instantly get defensive. Good luck!
2006-10-12 09:16:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
in case you doubt some thing and don't prefer to pass in the back of thier backs, call them to the kitchen or anyplace and ask them to offer you thier telephones. We had no cel telephones whilst i became a toddler, yet whilst my mom doubted some thing, she'd ask us interior the kitchen and we terrific no longer lie!!! For the finished rights and ethics stuff (to be well mannered) once you're a youngster, you purely have the rights which you may properly be held responible for (cleansing your room, leaving you stuff mendacity around, college and area time pastime TO PAY FOR THE CEL i desire). For something, the mum and dad will could answer if thier little ones do some thing stupid. We had no cels whilst i became a toddler (nonetheless do no longer understand why a number of of youngsters have them). everybody is often on those issues texting, conversing etc just to no longer be on my own! The day we've a considerable telecommunication crash, you will see considerable cities crammed with human beings bumping into one yet another and flipping out because of the fact they're on my own!
2016-10-02 05:52:19 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You haven't said if he has cheated on you before.
Are there a lot of outgoing incoming calls from this person? You never know who she could be. Don't jump to conclusions just yet. I would monitor the situation first. Go online to view your billing detail for calls. See how many times this number has been called, how long they talked, etc Go from there.
2006-10-12 09:30:49 · answer #5 · answered by MCS 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not really. It never hurts to be careful cause you never know. Honestly if he has the number actually listed as a woman's name then she is more than likely nothing to him more than a friend. If it was another lover he would probably hide it under a mans name trying to be slick!
2006-10-12 09:15:06 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes , dead wrong, you have violated your husbands privacy and his trust. I wont ask why you did this or if you had a reason to be suspicious of him. Put the shoe on the other foot and imagine how you would feel if he did something similar to you.
2006-10-12 09:22:29 · answer #7 · answered by snoop_dougie_doug04 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In a way you are but at the same time there should not be anything hidden from you or viceversa. Just look throught it with him next to you
2006-10-12 09:21:05 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't think its wrong to go thru if you hav suspicions of something and are trying to get to the bottom of things! You gotta do what you gotta do to get the truth and these days you gotta look out for #1.
2006-10-12 09:26:35 · answer #9 · answered by jean h 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no way, i do it all the time, but it proves we dont trust our men. maybe ur instinct is telling u something. i suggest u talk to him abt whatever it is that is bothering u. this lady maybe any1, a collegue or a friend. u need to talk to him before the situation gets worse....good luck
2006-10-12 09:15:48 · answer #10 · answered by Hatty Sue 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋