I dont know what is going on with me Ive always had a problem because I dont like the way I look and it has gotten worser through time. I am not mentally sick or anything like that, but it just happens that whenever my husband and i go out i see other girls that look pretty and i start to feel ugly and lower than every girl out there, my husband is always telling me how beautiful i am and hes always giving me compliments on how good i look with jean and he tell me that he loves my body etc....Every day when he comes home from work he tells me how badly he wants to make love to me he makes me feel so special, but i always ask him why do you love me if i am so nasty looking and ugly, he just looks at me and tells me that i am attractive and nice looking and that i need to sop saying that, its just that when we go out I get that nasty feeling again, I feel so ugly I dont know why?? Is this a serious problem?? Please help.
2006-10-12 09:07:29 · 8 answers · asked by Juliet 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Yes, you do. And i think we all do just different degrees. For example: a hot guy is not so hot around hotter guys, right?
a pretty woman is not so hot around beautiful woman.
I think is more knowing who you are in your soul and accepting this temporal flesh house, wether beautiful or not cant not affect your self worth as a person. A good place to start healing is telling your self everyday that your beauty is not measure by nose,eyes, body and etc... but that you are wonderfully made and beautiful in your every way.
2006-10-12 09:15:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a real condition called Body Dysmorphic Disorder (BDD.) People who suffer severely from BDD often have eating disorders or addictions to unnecessary plastic surgery. If you feel like it's that extreme for you, you need to see a therapist to help you out before you let it get out of control. But I think it's normal for everyone to feel sort of ugly once in a while. I felt like a total heifer on Friday when I saw some REEEEEEALLLY unflattering pics of me that my friend had taken at a bar. I'll tell you what, though- even on days when you don't feel pretty, other people aren't thinking that. The worst thing you can do is put your looks down in front of your man and your friends, because then they'll just give up on complimenting you altogether, and then you'll REALLY feel unpretty. Confidence is the sexiest body part!
2006-10-12 16:16:07 · answer #2 · answered by fizzygurrl1980 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well sweaty the first thing u need to do is believe in ur self so next time when u go out just think that ur cuter than u and if ur man sais that ur fine than sweaty ur fine so don't get mad just stay positive if u are ugly then u should probably think of getting plastic surgery and get a makeover because the way how u say u looko is not lookin 2 well
2006-10-12 16:16:36 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You do have a problem, you need constant reassurance, and it will wear thin after a while, If you continue to display your flaws real or not some one will agree with you. than where are you going to be? You need to get your self more balanced, as people will not be happy to see you and your low self esteem. go and take a life skills course, you have a lot of work ahead of you, but it is workable
2006-10-12 16:20:12 · answer #4 · answered by rkilburn410 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you suffer from low self esteem. There is lots of help available for this, such as self help books. If it bothers you that bad, I suggest you seek counseling. Good luck.
2006-10-12 16:10:59 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you may be comparing yourself with females who you think look perfect... flawless.
Undoubtedly, you're focusing on your own little imperfections... the more you focus on flaws, the bigger they seem to be.
Beauty is in the eye of the beholder... you're beholding them (too focused on them)... quit looking & comparing yourself to other females, & enjoy the beauty of the one you see in the mirror.
If you can't resist looking & comparing, then at least look for their flaws (on purpose).
2006-10-12 16:26:43 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's prob. just your insecurities. One solution is to only go where fat and ugly girls hang out, maybe that'll help you feel better about yourself. Best of Luck.
2006-10-12 16:10:51 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
get over yourself....their are more important things to worry about in the world then your self esteem......eg what am i going to wear tomorow.
2006-10-12 16:21:21 · answer #8 · answered by andy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋