I'm 16 and I've been going out with the guy of my dreams for 3 weeks. We're both virgins. We've been talking openly about sex from the beginning of our relationship, but it's happening this weekend... And I am terrified! This guy is wonderful and I really love him to bits, but I can't help but think that this is too fast... I'm not the most attractive girl and I'm so scared he won't like my body and be put off. I really don't want that to happen... I want to have sex, but I'm just not sure that I'm really ready. I'm getting shakes from thinking about it, I'm so nervous, but my boyfriend assumes that I'm very willing and this will definately happen at the weekend... What the hell is wrong with me?
2006-10-12 08:56:45 · 10 answers · asked by Leanne 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
DON'T DO IT!!!! Three weeks isn't long enough to know someone before you give up something so sacred. If you're terrified, then you're not ready. If you're having second thoughts, then you're not ready. Listen to your heart, it's telling you what to do. DO NOT DO THIS!!!! How do you know that he is telling you the truth about his virginity? Tell him your fears, if he truly cares for you, then he will wait no matter what, if he gets angry and leaves, then he never cared for you. Don't let him use you like this. Wanting to have sex is normal, but don't just throw it all away like this. Let the relationship blossom before you decide on anything like this, you're only 16. Don't rush into anything, sex is a dangerous thing these days. Be careful and listen to your heart.
2006-10-12 09:14:13 · answer #1 · answered by Zodiac_Child 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-08 13:40:45 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
3 weeks is not a long time at all, I think you should wait ,and if he loves u like u love him he would wait for u. don't rush into it, it sounds like u really don't want to do it but u want to satify him and thats not a good reason. Alot of people think that ur virginity is not important but it is, why give up the goods with someone u hardly been dating or really love. take ur time girrl and let him wait a little more....
2006-10-12 09:06:15 · answer #3 · answered by Sexy PuertoRican Lady 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're young and THINK you're in love...it's lust, pressure, but ain't love. You don't really know what love is, get to know your own body first! If he can't understand that the time is not right then leave him. Don't allow your first experience to something your not ready for or bad sex.
2006-10-12 09:09:30 · answer #4 · answered by Diva E 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you've been with this guy 3 weeks, you DON'T love him! if you're this nervous and scared then please don't do it!! trust me i learned this from experience, if he truly loves you he won't mind waiting until you're not nervous but excited* about having sex with him. and 3 weeks is not nearly long enough for you're first time, try more like 3 months....trust me i've been there!!! you'll regret it if you don't wait for the REST of your life
2006-10-12 09:02:40 · answer #5 · answered by *KiM* 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't do it--3 weeks is no long enough to throw away something that you are supposed to hold dear and treasure. If he respects you he will understand when you say you are not ready and if he doesn't then you don't need him you can do better..
2006-10-12 09:01:04 · answer #6 · answered by D D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nothing is wrong with you. chill out. you obviously don't want to have sex. so don't force yourselves to do it. this guy isn't going to leave you or dump you just becauase you don't want to have sex. also, it is ok to feel insecure. you just need to give htis relationship some more time. as time progresses ,you willl feel more comfortable around him and you will be able to have sex.
2006-10-12 09:02:42 · answer #7 · answered by blah 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're asking on Yahoo Answers, you're not ready. Ask again in about three years.
2006-10-12 09:04:40 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no.
sex is not required as a rite of passage. Save it for marriage. You'll be proud you did. If YOU do not want to then DONT.. Simple as that.
2006-10-12 09:04:52 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe that you should wait until you are older and married. If you two are really in love, than you two can wait!!!!!!
2006-10-12 09:17:52 · answer #10 · answered by FeEdMeJuNkFoOd 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋