My boyfriend and I have been together for two years and we have been living together for one year. He drinks every night. When he runs out of beer he hits up the liquer cabinet and when that is empty he gets those little souvenir bottles of liquer and drinks those. He doesn't act insane when he drinks but every so often his insecurity of women kicks in. Drunk or sober I am blamed for everything that goes wrong. He can turn anything around on me that I have nothing to do with. He is insecure about himself and about us. He has a really bad relationships in the past with ex-girlfriends and his ex-wife. They all seem to have cheated on him. I have never given him a reason to think that I would do anything to jeopardize our relationship or hurt him. I have a 4 year old son who adores him and knows him to be his father. I don't know what to do. I love this guy with all my heart. When I point out the issues that he needs to work on I seem to be the bad guy. I need advise. What do I do?
2006-10-12 08:52:46 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Ohhh honey… im sure you love him and would do anything for him… but im telling you this from experience…. It will only get worse unless he gets help and he has to want to get help or it wont do any good!!! I have an alcoholic father and one of my X-bfs was an alcoholic… I put up with his stuff for 2 ½ years and after every fight (which was verbal and physical) he always swore he would change and go get help…BUT NEVER DID!!! He was always convinced that I was out running around him… I would be at work all day long… working two jobs and some how or another he swore up and down I was out doing something I shouldn’t of been doing…. He cost me a lot of great friends and a lot of pain, tears, but has also made me the person I am today… I will never let another man treat me like that again… NEVER… Seroiusly it only gets worse… right now it may be just yelling and stupid stuff but they do get physical…. And they leave scars that will never heal…. Don’t let any man put you through that…. and dont let your baby see you being mistreated... and somehow or another they seem to turn every argument around on you.... i could go on and on forever about this.... buti wont... if you have any questions e-mail me @ BCANAAN@biloxi.ms.us
Best of luck to you!!!!
2006-10-12 09:29:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is a to the T alcoholic...and probably why he has been cheated on.. He drinks because he is insecure wiht himself! And won't get secure until he stops it all a downward spiral hon. I am speaking from experience. Go attend an AA meeting and you will see how everyone is just like him, but as long as you put up withit he will do and nothing ever changes when you drink its always the same end result.
2006-10-12 09:36:17 · answer #2 · answered by jean h 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my boyfriend was like that in the beginning. i made it clear if he got drunk around me, i would take off for a few days. drinking will make him act like that, and if you don't like it, force him to remove the catalyst, or get out permanently.
2006-10-12 08:56:55 · answer #3 · answered by raven_roycroft 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Videotape him when he's drunk, and show it to him when he's sober. Tell him he HAS to get treatment - AA, Betty Ford, whatever is available.
Then you have to decide - are you better off with him, or without him.
2006-10-12 08:57:59 · answer #4 · answered by Ralfcoder 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get another boyfriend, one that doesnt drink
2006-10-12 08:54:27 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
GO TOO AL-ANON --------YOU WILL MEET OTHERS JUST LIKE YOU-----GOOD LUCK
AB
2006-10-12 08:58:59 · answer #6 · answered by alice b 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋