What would you do if you found out your husband or boyfriend was going to adult web cam sites? I just found out my husband went to one, He says that he only went once but I don't know if I can believe him. I don't want this to ruin my marriage, but I feel betrayed. I really don't mind it if he's looking at pictures on the web but not live action web cams. Should I find different ways to spice up our marriage or should I tell him we need a break untill he knows what he wants? Any insite on this would be helpful!
2006-10-12 08:44:12 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I went to the same web cam site with him and he turned it off saying "it's too weird to do this with you" and I also tried going to men sites and he tried throwing the computer off the desk. He told me "if I wanted to look at men then I had to do it when he's not here." so apparently he doesn't like it either!
2006-10-12 09:09:12 · update #1
Oh, just leave the poor guy alone already.
2006-10-12 08:46:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
First of all I agree on your dissaproval. I dont think I'd be happy if I found out my husband was doing the same and actually it would be grounds for divorce in my house. But however if you do allow him to view pictures he may think that you wouldn't mind him looking at live cams. The first thing you wanna do is take the cam off. And tell him he's not allowed to use it unless you are around, if that's not a rule he's willing to follow then I would sugest you talk to him about a quick separation. If he loves you he'll back off and agree to the rules if he doesn't then you'll then and there. GOOD LUCK!
2006-10-12 16:13:00 · answer #2 · answered by ~* Pink Princess *~ 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
You need to speak to him about his priorities. It seems you're not bossy about what he can do, you let him have his privileges but he's going overboard.
Explain to him that if he visits a webcam site again, that the two of you will have to seperate. You don't mind the pics, but live stuff just isn't cool with you.
And, while your at it, you should spicen up the sex life this way he's not drawn back to the web cam. Try role playing, sex toys, and other fun things!
2006-10-12 15:47:05 · answer #3 · answered by ♪Msz. Nena♫ 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I don't think that you should go on a break. I mean its just like watching a porno.
I would rather have my husband watch a porno than live cam that is for sure. I think you should talk to him. Tell him what you think is appropriate and what you dont think is. And if he still does it then you need to take your self and go see some mail strippers and when you come home let him know you plan on going often and give him a taste of his own medicine.
2006-10-12 15:49:11 · answer #4 · answered by dido45dido 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
tell him that you don't feel comfortable with him looking at web cams ova the net and ask him if there's something that u can do (if its to out there then don't do it) but just explain to him how u feel about it. You cant freak every time there's a bump in your marriage just talk it out calmly
2006-10-12 15:50:13 · answer #5 · answered by nodaybuttoday 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I don't know what I would have done... I would have probably let it go. I pretty much subscribe to a "don't ask don't tell" policy on porn, and would probably never find out anything unless he told me. Sounds like your husband may have done things you're not comfortable with, but it may have been simple curiousity - just let him know you're not comfortable with it, and let it go. Hopefully, he'll get the message. It's not worth breaking the marriage up for.
2006-10-12 16:00:41 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think I would rather catch my husband than my son. I walked into my son's bedroom, he is 13. Here he was watching a porn flick on the computer. Free porn, live action "Brown and Round". All he had to do was click a button saying he was 21 and he was in. Very graphic x rated 5 minute free preview. Believe me, catching your husband was alot easier, but no matter how old the "boys" are, their fingers on a keyboard will get them into trouble!
2006-10-12 23:00:16 · answer #7 · answered by emotional blonde 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
found my husband a few times visiting live cams sites, but only this one, i guess he found a girl there and he's in contact with her...what to do ?
2013-12-11 18:26:40 · answer #8 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband has looked at these web cam sites and I don't like it at all. Your best bet is to fight fire with fire. Nagging and drama do not work. Start looking at male web cam sites and accidentally leave it open for him to "find." Next when he approaches you for sex say "Sorry I am worn out."
2006-10-12 15:50:27 · answer #9 · answered by jenlovely01 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Well I'd say it depends on how much you trust your husband. Not be sound naive, but he could have been curious, and just wondered on once. If it's a problem and he goes more often, the signs are there you just have to pay attention to them. The most important thing is go with your gut instinct. Best of luck
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2006-10-12 15:51:06 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Get a web cam and send video feeds of yourself to him.
2006-10-12 15:57:12 · answer #11 · answered by Conniebug 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋