is the 'new man' a myth?

Question

hey there peeps. been discussing this in my as sociology class. the new man doesnt just share household chores, childcare, etc...sometimes they take on these roles instead of the woman. only none of us knows such a man...anyone got any theories???

Answer 1

Yes, my husband is one of those new men. But he is 50 and been doing his share for years now. He was totally involved in the upbringing of our two boys who are now fine young men. He did it all while having a full time business and was a coach forever.

Now that we are older and our kids are on their own he shares too. We do the household chores together and buy groceries together and he does not that enough. Nothing like my father was back in the 50's and 60's. He was a Mans man, rough and head of the house. His way or no way. Construction worker type. He never helped my mom at all and she had four kids.

Men that help with the child rearing and home are MEN WHO LIKE TO PLEASE. They try to please others all through life, parents, wife, kids, friends. They are easy going in nature and like a home that is pleasant and running smoothly (no nagging wife or wife that is angry). To keep a smooth running home they pitch in because the first time they do it they see it works. The wife is nicer, quiet, satisfied, and able to spend some time pampering herself. SHE IS JUST PLAIN EASIER TO LIVE WITH.

The so called "New Man" is a new revolution for the better.

Answer 2

They definitely exist. And they're not all that "new," either.

A good friend of mine raised his daughter--now a magnificent 33-year-old woman--as a single dad starting in the late 1970s.

I've known numerous other men who absolutely did (and do) their share, and sometimes more than their share, of the household/domestic work, including childcare.

Not to say that I haven't known some who didn't. But I don't choose to spend any significant amounts of time with that sort.

Maybe it's a generational thing, because all the men I'm talking about are now in their late 40s or older. Geography and social factors may also be involved: I live in a large city (to which liberated men and women may gravitate, especially if they feel they don't "fit in" in a small-town or rural environment), and I've moved largely in social and professional circles where social justice (including egalitarianism) is highly valued.

Answer 3

The New Man is true, we've now all seen examples of this.

The simple reason behind it was the emergence of feminsim and the rise of the Information Society.

Feminism - Women demanded more rights to a career, independence of men, and recognisment of intelligence. As generations went on, this became more a truer fact of society. Where we are today stands as a good example of a society where women are almost equal in all ays possible in terms of status, power and functionality.

Information Society - The change in society which came from ther emergence of I.T and technology, and the ways in which these means change the way we live. Simply, I.T systems gave humans more flexible working hours, certain admin jobs could be given to robots freeing up women from their usual workplace role , people could work from home, people could exeed the terms of space and time.

Couple these together and we see new Male and Female roles.

Answer 4

I do 90% of the cooking.
Therefore I do the food shopping.
I do much of the other household chores.
I do at least half the cleaning.
I do the little gardening that is done.
Plus I do the DIY, take care of the cars, etc.

My wife does do most of the laundry, though, and all ironing (except my shirts).

Oh, I also work and bring in most of the money.

I think I do my fair share and then a bit, and I'm sick and tired of hearing about how men don't do anything and the poor women have to do it all. Bollocks, I say.

Answer 5

Of course they exist.

I do shift work and spent a lot of time at home.that means I can spend more time with the kids and save a fortune on childcare.
I also do most of the cooking, housework,shopping,diy on my days off.I just can't sit there and be a couch potato.
The guys in my dept are all in there late 20's and early 30's and have kids and there the same.It's quite funny sometimes listening in to some conversations about nappies and the best way to potty train a 2 year old..
I personally think work has a lot to do with the new man,most employees offer shift and homeworker packages to staff to get a good work/life balance..

Answer 6

i think they exist. Mine is brilliant but i wouldnt call him a new man.He is as helpful as i ask him to be.If he loves you then being helpful and sharing the load is part of a partner ship and i dont think it has anything to do with being a "new man".I wouldnt really want a new man coz it would make me feel inferior.I believe life is about give and take and couples must find out what works for them.One woman maybe a career type so may want a "new man" to do alot of the chores etc..but alot of us wouldnt.It all depends on the role of the man in the particular relationship.If it works, theres cirtainly nothing wrong with it and they definately exist, it just depends if you want one or not!

Answer 7

My father has been a union roofer for about 20 years. During the winter, there'd be no work so he'd collect unemployment during those months and my mom had the year round job. During the winter, he'd stay home and clean the house, pick us up from school, cook dinner, etc. It's basically about men and husbands doing and be willing to do what's best for their family, whether it breaks the idea of "the classic man" or not. And that's the idea he passed down to me and my two brothers.

Answer 8

We exist. I live with my girlfriend, who commutes 1hr 45min each way to work, where as it only takes me about 15 minutes. So I take on most of the responsibilities around the house, I cook, clean, do the food shopping, as well as any of the repairs/upgrades that are needed around the house. She helps out on the weekends, but I do most everything during the week so that we can relax once the weekend roles around.

Answer 9

They all shot themselves after learning their wives were unfaithful with the boss at work and then left the husbands to bring up the kids on their own while they set up home with the same boss.

I can imagine the conversation now; 'Oh no dear, status isn't important, that's why I left him for a bastard with a Lexus, I only found out later that he had twenty three of us on the go at the same time, I don't know, men huh?'

Answer 10

Well I think they are out there ... But I think its a money choice not a choice from high school... If the women makes more dough than her husband .. what choice do you have ,, once you have kids its kinda not about you anymore.. Its how to make ends meet in your family. Money is the supreme talker. They are out there ... they are just not in the workplace because they are at home. so you wouldnt run to them in college.