i have been with my current bf for just over 2 years, the beg of the year he cheated on me. we split up and their relationship lasted for 2 days and not long after i took him back. i started to trust him here and there but before he was texting some girl. i asked him who it was he said a mate from college.(he no longer goes to this college) i totally went mate he said it was only a mate but i got insecure as this is how the other affair started. so i was obviously worried. Hes tellin me nothin is or will go on but i dnt know what to believe. he works in mcies and he said she came in for her dinner and they got chattin and he was busy so he gave her his number and vice versa and now they are texting each other. i love him so much i just dont want to lose him. please help!
2006-10-12 08:33:57 · 13 answers · asked by logsy_babe 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
tuff choice....how would he feel if you gave out your number,,if its innocent tell him to invite her round for you to meet her..I've been there and got the t-shirt,it might start off innocent but then things have a nasty habit of going else were..be weary.
2006-10-12 09:23:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is a problem here that it seems that the trust has been severely broken by your boyfriend. The question that you need to ask yourself is whether you can ever see a point where you could trust him in the company of another woman. He is obviously capable of having an affair as he has before, but after last time, would he risk the relationship that he has with you. Although you love him to bits, it may be the case that he is using you to have a stable relationship whilst he plays away. It would probably be a good idea to ask him to invite the friend round for dinner or go out for dinner with her, so you can judge for yourself. If he really is doing nothing then he would jump at this. If he is doing something, then he will shy away.
2006-10-12 15:57:41 · answer #2 · answered by MrKcuf 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, if he makes you that insecure, you are better off without him. Why dont you work on your own self-esteem and confidence. Take some time out - if its meant to be then its meant to be.
Love shouldnt make you feel crap, it should make you feel good, and you are both so young still with a whole load of fish in the sea!! If you are going to be suspicious of everything he does, he will end up doing it, just because you think he is, so what has he got to lose.
And to be honest babe, his excuse seems pretty weak. I dont give someone my number just because I am busy - and I bet you dont either.
2006-10-12 15:41:46 · answer #3 · answered by Moi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have 2 choices, you either trust him and say nothing until you have concrete evidence that he's cheating. or. if you feel you cannot trust him then there is no future for your relationship because you cannot have a full and giving relationship without trust. You will only make your life miserable staying with him tearing yourself apart wondering what he's doing everytime he goes out the door.
2006-10-12 15:41:21 · answer #4 · answered by smileyshovie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2006-10-12 15:38:13 · answer #5 · answered by ~Your Greek God:God Of Advice~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't stop your man from having friends but you should speak to him about your feelings. The two of you need to compromise about this.
For instance, he can be friends with women but shouldn't text them constantly because it makes you feel uncomfortable. Set some ground rules that the two of you could agree on.
2006-10-12 15:38:18 · answer #6 · answered by ♪Msz. Nena♫ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't be dating a guy who works in macdonalds - and he cheats too? not on- no, he's not to be trusted. Give him the old quarter pounder with cheese and find someone new :)
2006-10-12 16:26:24 · answer #7 · answered by Miss Behavin 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
he cant love you or he wouldnt b doing the things he is doing you can love someone esle just the same. he is using you and your best to get out and meet someone that loves u for what you are your only getting hurt
2006-10-12 17:53:37 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
why did he give her his number in the 1st place? yo're right to be worried, i'd talk to him and see if you can meet this girl, if he says an outright no then you know something is going on
2006-10-12 15:51:04 · answer #9 · answered by molly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i just got two points thanx. oh ya about your problem make sure theyre friends if they are then its ok but if they cal each other all the time then thats bad.
2006-10-12 15:38:43 · answer #10 · answered by Chuckie J 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋