The dad said he doesn't want to be part of any of this, and I don't really have anyone,...I don't believe in and don't want to abort...Can anyone give me any ideas on what to do,...who to contact,...maybe if there is any organizations for young, single moms in and around Houston, Texas?? Any help at all PLEASE?? This is my first pregnancy,...I'm really scared,...
2006-10-12 08:31:09 · 21 answers · asked by Killian's Mommy 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
If you are that scared and worried etc, why don't you put the baby up for adoption. You would be doing a good thing for people that cannot have babies. I am 23 years old, and am not ready to have a baby at all, if I were pregnant and didn't get an abortion and had no father in the life of the baby, I would give the baby up for adoption.
2006-10-12 08:34:10 · answer #1 · answered by darcilynn83 4 · 1⤊ 3⤋
Sure thing! Ok, first of all, CONGRATULATIONS! Now, I know you're feeling all kinds of emotions (including panic maybe?) I used to be a crisis counselor for an organization that helps women who find themselves dealing with an unexpected pregnancy. You do have options, like open adoption where you let another couple raise the child, but you stay involved--sort of like a visiting relative. You also have lots of options as a single parent, and as far as the dad goes, he doesn't get a choice about paying child support--just so you know he has to take financialy responsibility, even if he never sees the baby. As far as local resources in Houston, Texas, I'd surf the web (and phone book) for the following in your area:
* Children's Home Society
* New Life Family Services
These organizations have great social workers who will work with you regardless of the choice you make (to raise the child yourself or find adoptive parents). I really hope that helps!
2006-10-12 08:39:03 · answer #2 · answered by Zebra4 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Contact your local Helpline agency. They can give you lists of housing locations. Get involved in a pregnant mothers group near you so you can learn and make friends. Contact the fathers family if you know who they are, they may want to be a part and help. Get all the paper work you will need to file for a DNA test and childsupport once the baby is born, turn it in once your baby has a birth certificate. Get your baby things from second hand stores that hold a good reputation and yard sales to save on money. You can get a lot of really nice things this way, more then what you could get at Wal-Mart.
Good Luck
2006-10-12 08:35:54 · answer #3 · answered by erinjl123456 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I Just turned 20 in June and Im 35 weeks pregnant. Now I do have her father by my side but I have single mother friends with horrible family that does it. First of all, I give you Props for being against abortion. at least someone in this day & age has some morals. But you can do it. There are plenty of resources today for single, young mothers. My heart goes out to you and Ill help you find whatever you need in the texas area to make it easier on you. email me llaspina@comcast.net. I really think that you will be so happy to have a little baby, though stressed too. but my mom did it too when she was 19 with me. She left my father because he was abusive and her fam. wasnt very supportive. But she loved me and I love her for not giving me up. I really can help you and Im eager to help you. Hope too hear from you soon.Lauren
2006-10-12 10:29:31 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First things first, calm down. I understand you're scared but worrying wont make anything better. First off you may have 7 mths or so to prepare. Make sure you have a job (part-time or whatever), save as much as you can, if you cant afford health care get the phone book and look for a free healthcare clinic that does prenatal care, try not to stress too much bcuz it may cause problems with the pregnancy, everything is not gonna happen overnight so dont expect it to. If you dont want an abortion, there's always adoption and open adoption (you're allowed to be in the child's life). If you wanna keep it, that's even better :) . Dont worry, you're gonna be okay.
2006-10-12 08:39:46 · answer #5 · answered by jaye 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Trust me, everything will be OK. There are a lot of organizations out there to help single moms. I don't know how you feel about welfare, but if you have to be until you can get on your feet, then do it. Are you going to school and/or working? Try calling the Department of Human Resources and see what type of assistance is available to you. Don't worry about the father, he will most likely end up having to pay child support and do his part, meanwhile, enjoy your pregnancy, concentrate on you and your baby and things will play their part. There are many men out there that are good guys and you will sooner or later find someone that is right for you and your baby. Good Luck and keep your head up!
2006-10-12 08:45:47 · answer #6 · answered by sonia 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
At 24 I moved in with my grandparents and I'm still there today (3 years ago 10 weeks pregnant). I'm currently in school to be a Labor and Delivery nurse. Family can be a huge help or friends during this time. When you go to these agencies for foodstamps, medicaid and WIC, there are usually other resources there to give you further instructions like helping you find a job or even a house! There are also all kinds of pregnancy help centers like everyone else is saying. Pray and listen. You'll find your answer.
2006-10-12 08:48:28 · answer #7 · answered by texasgirl1204 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I once was there. Take a deep breath. First contact Social Services. Apply for pregnancy Medicaid. This will cover the care of you and the baby until the baby is 1 year old. Sign up for WICK. And you could even see a doctor there free. Look for pregnancy centers. Most cities have crisis pregnancy center that will help provide someone to talk to, supplies, and connections. Check into it..it was a life saver for me. Most of all swallow up your pride for you child's sake. That was the hardest thing I had to do....ask for assistance. My child is now 3, and the best part of my life. One day you will help someone else. I admire you for your courage, and your wiliness to give this blessing life. No matter what he/she is a gift. I will be praying for you, and hope this helps.
2006-10-12 08:37:08 · answer #8 · answered by signforlife 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What a jerk. well hey one thing you dont need a guy to have your baby and believe me you will get through it better alone then with someone like him. keep your head up. I dont live in Houston but Im sure you will find help and believe me your parents will definately help you out. have you told them yet by the way? Well they might be a little disappointed but through out your pregnancy they will be happy for you and your unborn child but one thing your parents are the ones that are going to stand by your side no matter what. Im 21 my self and Im pregnant almost due in two more weeks and what I've learned through out my pregnancy is that my mom is always going to be there for me regardless. hey good luck and you will make it through. just keep on thinking positive alright and if that jerk decides he wants to be a part of your baby life thats up to you to make that decision but if he already said he dont want nothing to do with you and your baby then the best thing for you to do is to do it on your own. I hope everything goes well for you.
2006-10-12 08:58:28 · answer #9 · answered by precious_vanessa_04 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I guess you learned the hard way. Most of us guys will say and do just about anything to get in your pants. I say this cause I had a girl taken away from me by some guy that seemed to be the world for her but when she got pregnant, poof he disapeared. What kind of a show did he have to put on to get her to believe he loved her when he can just turn his back not only on her but a little baby at the drop of a dime. In the future look for love and sincerity, not looks, money, or social status and you will do better.
2006-10-12 08:38:12 · answer #10 · answered by abel g 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋