They where in his wallet (I wasn't snooping, my 4 yr. old got to it). There was 9 of them and he said he got them from somone who came into his work. Other woman said this is common, but it bothered me that he didn't tell me about them considering he tells me every other detail of work. Yes, he could have felt comfortable telling me because we have went to strip clubs together. Needless to say, it turned into a fight, yet he still kept them (they are on top of the fridge). When I asked him why he kept them, he said "I didn't know if you would want to go". What should I think about it? Let it go?
2006-10-12 08:18:03 · 22 answers · asked by MiZmeL 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
People need to stop answering with the expectation that I am making a big deal out of it. Im not making a big deal out of it with him, just asked about it here to here people's opinions, Geez people!!!
2006-10-12 08:26:21 · update #1
Honesty is the best policy. He may have forgotten. You have to decide how big this is in the scheme of things. Will this affect your relationship in six months, six years? If he is a good man, father, husband, provider, you may be better off to let it go and move on!
2006-10-12 08:28:59 · answer #1 · answered by lee911 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let it go. What's your problem? That you found them before he told you or that they are still on your fridge?
If its close to his work, then I totally believe him bc I see people handing out passes all the time on the street. Sometime you take a flyer (or passes) from someone and just stuff it in your pocket (or wallet) without thinking about it.
He tells you every details of work? Like every piece of mail he gets and how manys times he uses the bathroom? Every conversation he has about boring work details and boring guy talk? I can't believe that's possible -- where do you find the time, especially with a kid?
Since you have gone to strip clubs in the past, I think that is the clincher. Let it go.
2006-10-12 15:22:06 · answer #2 · answered by Katherine 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should be happy that he chooses to go to a strip club and just look while having a few drinks, instead of acting on an impulse to have some sort of affair with a co-worker, friend,stranger, neighbor, etc. Don't sweat over the small things in life.... my husband used to go to strip clubs and even came home with a stilletto heel mark on the top of his foot. I actually found it to be quite funny knowing he got a lap dance and a reminder that the girl lost her balance while performing for him.
2006-10-12 17:20:25 · answer #3 · answered by "N"saysable 1iric 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it were me, I'd say go, and have fun . . . I'll go with you anytime, or if you want to hang with the boys, that's fine too, and I'll go out somewhere with my girlfriends.
But that's me. Take some time to center yourself and see how you feel.
If you feel jealous and don't like him going alone, focus on communicating that feeling to him. There's no right or wrong about going to a club or having tickets, there's just a matter of communication between you two. He can't read your mind, and if you don't like him going alone, you need to tell him how you feel and ask him to support you in the relationship around that feeling.
2006-10-12 15:25:17 · answer #4 · answered by a_blue_grey_mist 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Strip clubs do give passes to businessmen; they get a lot of business from business entertaining clients.
Also, it's not uncommon to see men with their wives/girlfriends at the nicer clubs. It's a way to get the night going, sort of speak.
2006-10-12 15:22:30 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get a baby sitter and go with him to the strip club. Make a fun night of it!!!
2006-10-12 15:39:49 · answer #6 · answered by Brent 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A little titty and beer never hurt anyone. It was probably just a social gesture from someone at work. Be wary, the next bachlorette party you go to, you could like likea huge hypocrite!
2006-10-12 15:26:36 · answer #7 · answered by Denny M 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you don't have a problem with him going to a strip club then just drop it. Maybe he just forgot to mention it .
2006-10-12 15:23:05 · answer #8 · answered by nana_bad_ass 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let it go, life's too short. If you've gone with him before, then you know it's no big deal. Don't let a bunch of naked women make your relationship sick. Let it go and laugh it off.
2006-10-12 15:26:42 · answer #9 · answered by fatsomoe 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are totally blowing this situation out of proportion!
Maybe he's doing one of the dancers? Is that your thought?
Maybe he forgot about them, maybe they weren't a big enough deal to mention... So a tiny detail about his day slipped his mind. All you have to do is remember where his heart lies and where he calls home!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-10-12 15:22:04 · answer #10 · answered by UNapologetic! 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋