Me and my daughter father has gone our seperate ways.The thing is I still love him very much.We have 12 yrs invested.I let him go because finicially I just thought as a man he could do better.We were always getting eviction notices and he did'nt seem like he was alright with it,but never mde a attempt to beeter himself.Really easy going always calm really mild mannered.He now has a gf with 3 boys and I have moved on to.But I miss him so much.I'm thinking if I gave him so space and time to grow that would help.Im 30 and he's 31.My mom said He's a really great guy but he's use to me oing everything,she said I made him that way.Any advice please help?.
2006-10-12 08:15:55 · 12 answers · asked by dccuttie75 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You most likely miss him more then you LOVE him, you can love someone and it can be never right for you to be with them.
If you get back toegther enter with caution and make him prove himself. A man only does something if he thinks it was his idea to begin with. so if you are getting back together make it because he is working his *** off to get you back, not because you miss him
2006-10-12 08:18:50 · answer #1 · answered by Crystal A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm. okay. Hes moved on and so have you. Honestly I dont see where it is going to work. He will still be the same person with you. The man I am about to marry, well we have been off and on for 6 years and this time we know its going to work. We have made it work and worked out the issues. You can try and ask him if there is a chance, but there is probably not a chance with you two coming together unless you both dump the signifigant others.
2006-10-12 15:20:37 · answer #2 · answered by sexyghostgirl69 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people never reach their potential...either because they're held down or they just don't want to. Your ex sounds like it's the latter for him.
If he's moved on in his life, why go and disrupt it? Leave him be and move on with your own.
He may never change his lack of enthusiasm for supporting his family, leaving it all to you. Some people are ok with that; you on the other hand do not sound like you're good with that type of arrangement. You probably would only end up breaking up again when he can't hold down a job.
Be nice to each other for the sake of your daughter, but find someone you're happy with in every aspect; don't lower your expectations just because you miss having a person in your life. Find one who's got that extra gumption your ex didn't.
2006-10-12 15:21:34 · answer #3 · answered by Brutally Honest 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is possible if both of you have learned why it didn't work the first time and made changes so that this wouldn't be continued issues in your new relationship. It sounds like he is happy with a new girlfriend and if y'all have both moved on, maybe it isn't so much him that you are missing as much as the comfortable feeling you had with him. People hate change but they love nostalgia. You could just be feeling nostalgic at the moment.
2006-10-12 15:21:50 · answer #4 · answered by heaven o 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can still love him, but not be with him. Love him as a friend, for your daughter's sake, but you need a financially stable home for her to grow up in. It sounds like you made the right decision. If he was 21 y/o I would say give him some time, but 31?? Nope, not gonna happen!
2006-10-12 15:26:18 · answer #5 · answered by Nels 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So you had a child with him and then decided he could do better financially and left him. Seems like that would have been something you were pretty sure of before bringing an inocent child into it. You need to try to work it out for you childs sake. Not sure if you were married or not but if you were do you remember the part "for better or ____." Here is some food for thought before you bring another child into the world.
Reports show that approximately 85% of youth in prison, 85% of children with behavioral disorders, 75% of adolescents in substance abuse treatment centers, 71% of all high school dropouts, and 70% of adults serving long-term prison sentences come from fatherless homes. Fatherless children average significantly higher in terms of teen suicide, illegitimate birthrates, incarceration and unemployment. 63% of youth suicides are from fatherless homes. 90% of all homeless and runaway children are from fatherless homes and 85% of all children that exhibit serious behavioral disorders come from fatherless homes. Because only a portion of each age group grew up in a fatherless home, these statistics mean that children from fatherless homes are 5 times more likely to commit suicide, 9 times more likely to drop out of high school, 10 times more likely to abuse drugs, 20 times more likely to end up in prison and to have behavioral disorders, and 32 times more likely to run away than their peers who grow up in intact families with both birth parents. These trends persist even when socioeconomic factors are controlled for.
2006-10-12 15:21:28 · answer #6 · answered by Allinwiththenuts 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, if you both want it. but before you both decide to try again , i would get everything out in the open and talk about it. you know why you went your separate ways in the first place. after you talk you may decide its not really what you want. but you need to be honest with each other.
2006-10-12 15:26:26 · answer #7 · answered by Brenda R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You didnt make him that way, he did it to himslef and he will never change. I have seen this many many times. You're best bet is to move on with your life.
2006-10-12 15:19:26 · answer #8 · answered by Val 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes
2006-10-12 15:25:44 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes
2006-10-12 15:16:52 · answer #10 · answered by Mikayla 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋