2006-10-12 08:06:11 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Trying to Conceive
What about getting married? Try suggesting that before having a baby.
Our daughter is 5 years old, and I have to tell you that it is hard enough being a parent when you have a great marriage to someone who is your full partner...if you have a so-so relationship, or lack the commitment of a marriage, you are in for some difficult times ahead.
Babies take a lot of time, and money, and love and patience and attention. You have to be mature enough to put the baby's needs before anything. You have to be strong enough to function on very little sleep. You have to set a good example and teach your little one how to be a good person.
It is wonderful and rewarding, but hard work. If you can avoid it, don't do it on your own. Having a baby outside the commitment of marriage is just not something I recommend.
I would say - finish school (college), get good jobs, make sure you really love eachother and he is the one for you, get married, get a place of your own, then start trying for kids.
Good luck to you.
2006-10-12 08:07:54 · answer #1 · answered by ItsJustMe 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you nuts? You really want to risk your entire future on someone whose idea of a great basis for having a child is living under the same roof?
"Boyfriends" are for now. A baby is FOREVER - even when you're 80 and they're 60!!!
Is this guy good "future" material? Does he have an education? A good job with an opportunity to make real money? Bad habits that seem OK now but in two years will drive you insane? Drugs? Alcohol? Crappy friends? Is he the kind of guy that in 10 years you can take to your high school reunion and not be embarassed about?
If so, then insist on marriage before moving in. If not, why are you sticking around?
2006-10-12 08:15:18 · answer #2 · answered by kramerdnewf 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you nuts... First you need to know that you love each other a year and half is only (working on knowing each other stage). Moving in with each can help with that stage. But do not rush into having a baby until you and your "boyfriend" having a baby. You need to make sure he's committed to you. If you both go into owning a home or condo together - that makes him put some investment into your future and then you can kind of tell what will happen if you both decide to have a baby.
2006-10-12 08:13:16 · answer #3 · answered by APBEAR16 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should first try and move in together for atleast a year if that works out talk about getting married, then maybe trying to have a child together cause it does change when you live together but I would most deffinately try that out before anything else good luck
2006-10-12 08:46:24 · answer #4 · answered by Lisha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, i would say don't do it because my boyfriend and i live together and we are also trying for a baby. Make sure this is what you want and don't let him force into doing something that you want too. If you are still finishing up goals that you had originally planned to do before a baby then i suggest you finish and plan later... it is all on what you want and if you are ready..
2006-10-12 08:09:02 · answer #5 · answered by DO IT! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is this thing called "GETTING MARRIED" that you are missing. Once you are married you 2 should start thinking about this.
2006-10-12 08:15:31 · answer #6 · answered by Jennifer W 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if ur asking us for answers, perhaps u should be talking to him first, doesn't sound like u want to
2006-10-12 08:08:39 · answer #7 · answered by ms.chic 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
GET MARRIED-THAT USUALLY COMES FIRST!
2006-10-12 08:18:36 · answer #8 · answered by Sakora 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont do it.
2006-10-12 08:08:01 · answer #9 · answered by nikkio27 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Huuummmm......... and your question is..............?
2006-10-12 08:19:35 · answer #10 · answered by JEJEMMY♥♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋