I work in an office environment and my co-worker is in the same department I am. for some odd reason he dislikes me and he is rude and conceited and he makes my day feel like crap. i have tried to ignore him, but I can't do that much because our job requires input from the both of us. What can I do?
2006-10-12 07:56:09 · 9 answers · asked by lelahia714 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Take the high road but be direct and consistent. Every time he makes an inappropriate comment, stop everything and tell him why it is not appropriate and why it is not consistent with his job function. After a while, he'll either learn or get tired of treating you like that.
2006-10-12 07:58:20 · answer #1 · answered by gadalian 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why do women take such pleasure in excluding other people? I think it goes back to whole 5th grade mean girls thing. Really, you need to feel sorry for these people. The last time they felt important or good about themselves was sometime between 5th grade and graduating from high school. They were probably some of those really popular snots and they've never gotten over it. Now they've done nothing special with their lives so they try to re-live the only time they were special and that includes putting others down to make themselves feel better. Does it hurt? Sure, same as it did back in school. You're an adult now and can choose not to let it get to you. They're pathetic little people. You can show grace and wisdom by killing them with kindness. You show you're an adult and they're just immature. It's hard but in the long run really effective. It especially will look good to your supervisors when you leave.
2016-03-28 06:40:37 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, no one can make you feel like "crap" unless you allow them to do it.
I would suggest the direct approach.....just ask him why he dislikes you or why he feels compelled to be rude and obnoxious. Let him know that you would prefer he kept his personal opinions out of the workplace and that you prefer he concentrate on doing the job you're being paid to do. Don't let him know how much his rudeness really bothers you because, chances are, he thrives on your agony. I've dealt with this sort many times throughout my years in "Corporate America" and this approach usually surprises them.
If this doesn't stop him, document in a personal diary everything he says and each time he says it.....then report him for harrassment.
2006-10-12 08:12:09 · answer #3 · answered by Rembrandt11 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
TRY INVITING HIM TO LUNCH THAT WAY YOU ARE IN A PUBLIC PLACE AND HOPEFULLY HE WON'T ACT OUT. THEN DISCUSS YOUR FEELINGS BECAUSE YOU HAVE A RIGHT TO KNOW. MAYBE HE LIKES YOU AND DOESN'T KNOW HOW TO TELL YOU. MAYBE HE FEELS THREATEND ABOUT THE WORKING STATUS BETWEEN THE TWO OF YOU EITHER WAY TRY THAT AND IF IT DOESN'T WORK OUT HAVE A MEETING WITH YOUR BOSS THAT INCLUDES YOUR CO-WORKER. GOOD LUCK!
2006-10-12 08:15:16 · answer #4 · answered by Tanya 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to get extra nice and kind with them and you could find out their weakest point and then you can use that to help you be friends and get along with, or you can be just superficial with them!
2006-10-12 08:08:30 · answer #5 · answered by Joey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
kill em w/ kindness.
seems stupid but my step mother is a control physco freak and is loud and rude. drove me nuts for over 14 yrs then I started to kill her w/ kindness.
no matter how mad she got, what names she called me, etc....just smiled and would say thank you, oh you are very welcome, etc. took almost a month (not daily contact) but now not a mean word....she doesn't talk to me much as it is...which is good....but no longer bashes, etc.
it works....just smile and think..."what a morron this person is...wow....how do they even shower and get to work every day?"
2006-10-12 07:59:03 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
My advice to you would be to kill this person with kindness and shame them into being polite to you.
2006-10-12 08:00:10 · answer #7 · answered by nikkio27 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing......why would you want to "get along" with someone of that caliber? Don't you like yourself?
2006-10-12 07:59:07 · answer #8 · answered by asking 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats because your in a crappy job.
2006-10-12 07:59:05 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋