My girlfriend has been there for me endlessly. When I broke up with my boyfriend, she was there to catch me. Lately, her 5 yr old daugther has told me in her own little words that men have been coming in and out of the house every night. Different men. I don't want to tell my friend what to do but there's a little girl at stake here. I have asked her is everything O.K. and she says yes and that's it. Usually she's talkative about things that are going on but not lately. Any suggestions????
2006-10-12 07:53:36 · 6 answers · asked by hope 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Be a friend not only to the mother but to the little girl as well. The child is asking for your help or she wouldn't have mentioned it.
Talk openly and frankly with your friend about what her child has confided to you...don't beat around the bush. This is not a time for you to worry about consequences concerning the friendship. The simple fact your friend is not being talkative any longer indicates there's a problem. Talk to her and DO IT NOW!! But, do it without judgment....and be prepared to help when you find out what is really going on.
Good Luck!
2006-10-12 08:41:54 · answer #1 · answered by Rembrandt11 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, She is making a bad choice by letting men come in and out of her home, and a few of them could be the wrong men to have in her home that she shares with her child. That's dangerous. Second, It is not healthy for her child to witness this. She may grow up and do the same thing because she saw her mother do it. Your friend is not only a mother, she's the role-model. I think you should talk to your friend about the situation, but the approach really matters. If your approach is accusatory or too judgmental, she could think you are trying to call her an un-fit mother and things could go the opposite of how you planned. Just let her know that you care about her and her daughter.
2006-10-12 08:23:03 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep a close eye on the little girl make sure the men aren't going into her room. Talk to your friend. The girl could have already spoke to a teacher. Kids come first and your friend should be conducting her business when the kid is not home.
2006-10-12 07:56:11 · answer #3 · answered by Pantherempress 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would tread very lightly in a situation like that.Continue talking to the girl and her mother.Try to remember that children don't always convey things well and do have active imaginations.Your concern is admirable, but don't rush to judgement.
2006-10-12 07:56:42 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
the only thing you can do is let her know in a nice way that her daughter is aware of this. perhaps she thought she was being discreet, but when it comes down to it she may be totally surprised that her daughter knows. that may be enough to change things.
2006-10-12 07:57:13 · answer #5 · answered by Rachel D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is you BF be straight forward
2006-10-12 08:04:09 · answer #6 · answered by Tricia P 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋