it all started when i went to a funeral with my dad and his wife..at the funeral i met some people that were friends of the family a guy and his brother one was 42 and the other 39...they are both married and one has children my age and one has a daughter 3 years older than me...after the funeral all of the close family and friends went down to the bar to eat (small town only place open that late) and then the guys i had met were buying me drinks like alchoholic ones...and i was getting drunk...most of the family had left and the guys asked my dad if i could crash at their place...and he agreeed and loing story short..they got me really really drunk and had sex with me..both of then i had them separately one after another...and then both of them together....after the funeral i emailed both of them...one of their wives caught them and they got divorced the other one and i have been talking and he wants to come visit me and he is offering to get me a cell phone...ect....what do i do?
2006-10-12 07:51:53 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
First of all not only have you put yourself in danger, but you have also put this mans marriage in danger. Though he is not without fault because he is an adult and should know better, you also knew better, because if not you would not be asking the question. Think of this, if he is the man who has a daughter your age or if he is the man who has a daughter three years older than you he is behaving no better than a pedophile. How would your father react if he knew? How would you mother feel? How would his children feel knowing that he had sex with someone that could sit next to them in class? You may not know it but for you, your attachment to him is much more than sex you are and have the possiblity of having feelings for him. The liklihood of him leaving his wife for you is very slim and you will be nothing more than a sexual object. Nine times out of ten he has offered all of these gifts to you because he wants to keep you quiet to preserve his marriage and his image. Not to mention if your parents press charges he will go to jail. I suggest you take a step back and consider all the people who will be hurt by both of your actions. You need to tell him you are not interested in his gifts or another sexual encounter. What happens if you get pregnant?
2006-10-12 08:19:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Hey I am not here to judge you like some of these folks. You should tell an older adult that you trust preferally a lady. These men have problems with their own wives and it could be a pattern of them longing for something else. You also had problems with all the men in your life. A father who really cares for there daughter would not let them go home with some men they think they trust. I am here to take to if you need any counseling but I am only a teacher with lack of some psychology in this issue. mpcangal is the IM
2006-10-12 08:17:30 · answer #2 · answered by brookie1977m 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know you'll not likely believe me when I tell you this... but the men you've been with are pedophiles.
When I was 15 I dated much older men... older than you've described here. I thought it was because I was mature, cosmopolitan and attractive. But looking back I realize that the men I knew then were child molesters.
No rational, sexually normal man about 40 years of age is going to be romantically interested in a 15 year old unless he's a pedophile. I'm sorry if that hurts, but it's true nonetheless.
Now the one who didn't 'get caught' is trying to bribe you into allowing him to be in your life in a sexual way. Please, don't waste your youth, beauty and innocence on men like these.
Now I've a 15 year old daughter and I'd absolutely ruin an older man who'd do that to my daughter.
2006-10-12 08:00:45 · answer #3 · answered by clair_dlune 2 · 5⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-16 04:39:45 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't even want to read that passage, u are 15, god knows how old he is , and MARRIED, little girl, focus on school work and stop playing the fool, and i bet u think he loves u, just remember that he is a lot older (don't know how old he is but if he is old enough to be married, try your very best to stop the ****.) and can tell u a whole lot of things that u feel is nice and romantic and since u want to be with a big man, try growing up and BE SMART!
2006-10-12 08:08:01 · answer #5 · answered by ducky 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Very poor situation. Get out of this right away. What happened was rape of a minor. Both could be jailed for feeding you alcohol and rape. You are way too young to be involved in such a demeaning realtionship. Get out of it now. If you don't do something legally, just remove yourself from the situation immediately. As a parent, if my child told me, I would go forward with legal procedures, believe me, as I had to do this personally once in my life and it awakens memories long pushed aside. Ruined everything in my family for many years. Thank God my daughter turned out alright. Without bragging, her current life is good thanks to my being a caring parent and acting like one on her behalf. She was only 14 at the time.Life is tough for all and we all experience horrible things, but fortunately our LORD provides us with strength to get through it. God bless you and help you to make the right decision soon..........
2006-10-12 08:02:16 · answer #6 · answered by silhouette 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If all this is true, you should think about reporting them.
If you don't want any trouble, step away from the guy who's offering to buy you!
By the way, where were your folks the night the guys had you? Did you ever tell them?
Don't keep this to yourself. Open up to someone who can help you.
I hope you can get rid of this mess. God bless you.
2006-10-12 08:00:57 · answer #7 · answered by Fá 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You should have reported this after it happened! Don't talk to this man, and if you don't want to file charges, you should at least confide in a close family member or friend. This is a bad situation. And even if you were not forced, it's illegal because they are grown men and you are only 15.
2006-10-12 07:59:17 · answer #8 · answered by chalinsumner 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
U and yuor little(married) man will be going to court one day.Why are u with a married man anyway u need to leave older men alone. COMING FROM A 15 YEAR OLD BOY MYSELF.It's not going to cause anything but DRAMA trust me.
2006-10-12 08:30:44 · answer #9 · answered by ~Your Greek God:God Of Advice~ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to stay away from them.... they broke the law one by getting you drunk.. but the worst of it is that you where sexually molested by them... You are 15 and they are 39 and 42... that is not date rape... that is molestation.... you need to tell your parents what has happened as well... so the appropriate authorities can be notified
2006-10-12 07:57:50 · answer #10 · answered by oracle 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋