2006-10-12 07:44:17 · 24 answers · asked by mom18 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
At 18 he can leave home and do whatever he wants
2006-10-12 07:46:39 · answer #1 · answered by Dragon Empress 6 · 4⤊ 1⤋
My 18 year old daughter has NEVER had an official curfew. If she is going to be really late for some reason I expect a phone call or advance notice. She took advantage a couple of times this summer since she was working nights, but for the most part she is always home by 11:30 or 12.
I have always told her I trusted her to do the right thing.
He is a legal adult. Unless he is driving your brand new Lexus around town or something, I would tell him you trust him and go to sleep. If he abuses your trust, take away the keys.
Next year he'll be in college and you won't have a clue where he is.
2006-10-12 07:49:01 · answer #2 · answered by kramerdnewf 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I also have an 18 yr old male, and I think a curfew is not necessary as long as he stays out of trouble. Since society says he is an adult, I expect him to act like one. I know it is hard not to worry about them, but if he is raised right he will do the right thing. I only ask my teen to respect us by being quiet when he comes home. He is not working yet, so a curfew would be kind of silly to impose. I quess it all depends on your observation of how responsible your teen is and has been.
2006-10-12 07:53:13 · answer #3 · answered by Ter 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want and expect an 18 year old to follow a curfew, I'd shoot for 2am. It sounds late, but he is an adult, he will want to go out, party with friends, take out girls... If he has to suffer humiliation from his peers by having to be home at midnight, I think he'd sooner just move out so he can have the priviliages that any other 18 year old has. I've honestly never heard of an 18 year old having a curfew. Just my opinion.
2006-10-12 07:50:09 · answer #4 · answered by chalinsumner 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is 18 now... so u can give him a curfew... but he most likely won't follow it... And he's old enough to stay out till he's ready to come home... unless it's a school night... I would just make sure that he tells u how late he's gonna be out... that's the respectable way to do it. Just because he's 18 doesn't mean he doesn't have to let u know when to expect him home! Then u'll at least know when to worry!
2006-10-12 07:55:39 · answer #5 · answered by silvr_chyk_serah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it all depends....
What kind of kid do you have? How much do you trust him? How responsible has he been up to this point? Are you talking weekdays or weekends, or both?
I had a grandmother who said nothing good happens after 12:00. However, I don't know that I absolutely agree with that. I'd say 2:00 AM on Friday and Saturday night is the latest I'd go. Anything before midnight is pretty tough. Weeknights, (if they're in school), I wouldn't go past 11:00pm, unless it involved a school function (sporting event, pep ralley, etc.)
If you're worried about misbehavior (drugs, alcohol, sex), you might wait and talk to them when they come home. Ask specific questions when they leave. Where are you going? Who are you going with? Etc.
2006-10-12 07:55:27 · answer #6 · answered by ezenbrowntown 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
An eighteen-year-old should at this point be mature enough not to have a curfew in place, but if he abuses the privilege by disturbing those within the home if returning at an unreasonable hour then a family conference concerning this issue should be held.
2006-10-12 07:50:16 · answer #7 · answered by mzmscheeveeuhs 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My 18 year old doesnt have a curfew -I trust him full heartedly. The only places he goes is to baby mama house, movies. He doesn't drink or smoke and I have NEVER had problems with him about staying out. Not to mention he has a job in which he has to be to work at 4 am.
2006-10-12 07:47:13 · answer #8 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well now that he is 18 their isn't much you can say about what time he is out till. Unless it is house rule or something.But legally he is an adult and responsible for his own actions now. I'm not some teenager just saying that I'm an adult as well. Hopefully you have raised him right and he can handle himself.But if hes like the majority of young men he may need a cerfew. I've seen 25 year olds who could use a cerfew. LQTM (laughing quietly to myself)
2006-10-12 07:51:24 · answer #9 · answered by Daniel R 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
None.
He's legally an adult and can tell you to screw off if you try to set a curfew.
The most you can do is to tell him to move out if he comes home late all of the time and keeps waking you up.
2006-10-12 07:47:06 · answer #10 · answered by drumrb0y 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At 18 he is an adult...curfews have no place now.
2006-10-12 07:46:49 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋