My mother is temporarily staying with me and my girlfriend because she screwed up her life and now has to get back on her feet. Having her back has brought up some very bad feelings but I am dealing. When I tried to tell my girlfriend how I was feeling she said "your life hasn't changed its been temporarily altered, hers has". Because of this I have tried to be more sympathetic to my mother. I thought me and my girlfriend had worked things out and decided that my mother could stay for weeks not months. Now all of a sudden my girlfriend is saying she is going to stay with her mother because she feels "crowded". I am upset because 1. Her mother's apartment is smaller than ours and she will have to sleep on the couch 2. The only reason she wants to leave is because she has to change her shower routine in the morning 3. Because her leaving is a complete contradiction to everything we discussed. I can't please everyone and I can't put my mother out on the streets. Should I be upset?
2006-10-12 07:37:52 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Being upset in this situation would only be natural, but I wouldn't take it too hard. I'm sure that while she was capable of giving you good advice about your mom, she just didn't want to have to listen to it herself. It's hard living with someone else's parent, a lot harder than living with your own. Just give your girl some room and help your mom get on her feet. Once you do that, your girl can move back in and everyone gets to be happy.
2006-10-12 07:46:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not be upset, It is normal for your girlfriend to leave. Let her have some space and in return you can have your space with just your mother. Do not chace after your girlfriend or be mad at her. She will come back in a few days when she is ready to.
Good luck!
2006-10-12 14:42:47 · answer #2 · answered by stephen 1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that if your girlfriend is leaving through a little adversity after giving you contrary advice you need to sit down and have a heart to heart with her because it seems like their may be more going on with her. You need to keep helping your Mom, she's family, but don't enable her...she has to be working at getting out or she may need a push...good luck!
2006-10-12 14:43:35 · answer #3 · answered by onottopilot 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Youy have every right to be upset. Your friend just set you up for a fall then pushed you. If that's the way she treats you over her bloody shower in the morning then she doesn' sound like a very good friend.
2006-10-12 14:41:40 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Boy, you are in a tough place and I really feel for you. I'm sorry that I don't have an answer except to say that your question really hits home with me (for personal reasons) and I'll keep your situation in my prayers.
Best of luck and God Bless!!
2006-10-12 14:41:55 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, take care of your mom first, she may have screwed up her life, but if she is willing to try to get back on her feet, then mums comes first. She raised you, now it is your turn to help her.
Good Luck.
2006-10-12 14:43:37 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Calm down . maybe she is giving you and Mom a little private time .
2006-10-12 14:41:43 · answer #7 · answered by Geedebb 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋