I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years, lived with him for 2. Now I've moved because of college, but still live with him in the weekends. I like his mom, but she's too controlling and ruining our relationship. He doesn't think she's too controlling, but I can't take it anymore. I want a MAN not a momma's boy. She calls him at least 10 times a day to hear what he is doing. When he's visiting me and she calls to get him to come home. He has to visit her every day. She cleans OUR house when I'm not there. She does his laundry. She moves the paintings on the wall. I really love my boyfriend, but it's too much. It's getting worse and worse. How do I get him to realize that it's not normal. How do I get her to back off and let him be MY MAN? and still be friends with her??? I'm really frustrated. Last Sunday he was visiting me, and I hadn't seen him for 2 weeks and she kept calling. I don't get why my boyfriend can't say no to her? She has a husband and another son still living at home.
2006-10-12 07:30:00 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Sounds like you must be pretty young. Your boyfriend, too. Tell him what you expect him to do. His mother is probably, just being his mother. You're not married to him - he's her son - not your husband. That makes a big difference to a mother of college age children.
If you are serious about this young man, tell him how you feel. It's up to him to speak with his mother about it. As for you, try to remember that you may be in his life and his families lives for a long time. Be a little more understanding and patient. His family has been in his life a lot longer then you.
2006-10-12 07:42:37 · answer #1 · answered by Paige2 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
get the hell out of there!!! women always think men will change. He won't. Especially if he doesn't see anything wrong with it now.
Imagine later on when you're married with kids!!!! Always there, always calling, always telling you you are raising your kids right. Run!!!!!
2006-10-12 14:34:22 · answer #2 · answered by Sarah G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YO MAN needs to step up to his mama. As long as HE and YOU allow her do be the boss...she is going to continue to be the boss. Stand up for yourselfs or suffer for life.
2006-10-12 14:32:15 · answer #3 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You've been with him 3 years and he hasn't asked you to marry him? This guy isn't worth it, and neither is his MIL. Get out now - run!
2006-10-12 14:36:25 · answer #4 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
HE is the problem, not her. You cant be mean to her anyways, your not married to him. So just be nice and in due time, everything will fall together
2006-10-12 14:32:00 · answer #5 · answered by Photographer 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
sounds like 'everybody loves raymond'
get out while you can
2006-10-12 14:36:27 · answer #6 · answered by The Weed Fairy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋