Do I ever have to tell my kid who is his father?

Question

I am 20 years old and soon single mother to be. The father of the kid doesn't want him.

Answer 1

Absolutely not. If the guy is not going to be around, then he loses that right. You can still bring up a wonderful child without the need for the biological father being around.

Good luck and congratulations!

Answer 2

I think every child should know the name of his father. I know of a little girl, who was conceived at a clinic and Mom did not know the fathers name, it has been really hard for her at school because she can only fill out one side of a family chart, etc.

Whether the father wants him or not, get child support your kid deserves it.

Answer 3

Yes of course, someday. Find him a good father so that he can have the benefit of a male influence. The father might change his mind and th kid should be prepared however.

Answer 4

I was in the same situation and everyone told me to tell her, but....I didn't and she is 8 now. My husband adopted her when she was 3. She knows she had a different last name at one time and Daddy had to adopt her to change her name but that's all she knows. One day she will ask me and I don't necessarily have to lie to her because she kind of but not really already knows. When she asks who "sperm donor" is, (lack of better word) or where he is, I'm not sure what to say. Right now I just want to tell her he is dead. But that isn't right and hopefully I will come up with something better. Good Luck!

Answer 5

Okay, I got this one.

I have never met my father once in my entire life. He ran when he found out my mother was pregnant, she was about your age (21). She was angry and tore up all pictures of him.

I never really asked about him until I was around 5 yrs old. She told me truthfully what his name was and that he wasn't around.

Now, here we are, 27 years later, and I have only seen ONE blurry picture of my father. She says that it was a mistake to let him run like that because, even though he was scum, there is something missing in my life. I never experienced something that everyone else gets to.

So, even though he doesn't want the child, my suggestion would be to let the child know who he is. Especially if they ask. It is owed to them.

Answer 6

I think when the kid gets old enough he is going to be asking questions. By then I'm sure you will have changed your mind about how and when to tell him. Good Luck!

Answer 7

My dad left whilst i become 3 months previous and that i've got continually understand approximately his toddler help money. yet my brother (10 yrs older and assorted father) my mom did no longer tell him till he become grown and shifting out. i think of its a reliable ingredient that the mummy tell the youngster reason the youngster could understand that the daddy is doing something for them. and as for the itemized record properly... in case you have an ok relationship with the mummy she might conform to it. it quite is a sturdy thought yet no longer anybody could want to try this. yet i do understand why a father could ask for one. i've got seen too many mothers getting their nails and hair performed and pass away their young ones in torn-up grimy wal-mart shoes. EDIT: attempt extremely of giving money, stay in touch with the mummy and purchase the stuff the the youngster want so which you understand that your money is going to the excellent place.

Answer 8

my daughter's biological father doesn't want her so i know where you're coming from.... the thing is, when she's old enough me and her "daddy" are going to sit down and explain it to her. i'm not going to make him out to be some horrible person or anything however, i'll tell her what good things about him that i can and then i'll let her make the decision to know him. it's only right. and it's her decision not mine to make for her. i know it will hurt her, but i can only be here for her when it's all said and done. who knows he may change his mind later on down the road. that's between the 2 of them not you and him.

Answer 9

When he/she is old enough you must tell your child about their father. It is not fair to keep that from him. My 12 year old niece has the same issue. She does not know her dad, but when she was old enough to ask her mom about him, my sis told her all she wanted to know. Good Luck!

Answer 10

No,but you should get the father's medical history and his parent's medical history. The child may need these at some time in his life as his doctor may want to know family medical histories to determine what to monitor for.