JUST DONT KNOW HOW TO DEAL WITH THIS.......
SHOULD I KEEP MY NOSE OUT OR HELP SOMEHOW???
MAYBE IT WILL GET WORST IF I IGNORE THIS????
MAYBE ON THE OTHER HAN... I MAY MAKE THINGS WORST IF I OPEN MY MOUTH AND TELL HER HUBBY???
2006-10-12 07:07:10 · 25 answers · asked by itsalright2lookbutucanttouchmmm 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
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ohhh yes and leave (wrapped & new) condoms all over the house and in their cars ... safety first ...
2006-10-12 07:09:14 · answer #1 · answered by phooey 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
OMG!! TELL HER HUSBAND ASAP!! It is the best choice for this, and will and the least amount of anger and hurt in it, but, if you don't tell him, he may find out the hard way, and there will be even more tears shed, and nobody wants that. You will not make things worse by telling him, and it will get worse if you don't tell him....she may start sleeping with her new bf. I would talk to my sister (if I were you) and if she blows the roof finding out that you know, tell her husband. Tell your parents. If I found that out that my bro was cheating on his wife, I would confront him, tell his wife, and tell our parents. The more people on your side, the safer you are. If your sis gets ticked at you, just say that it was the best thing to do. Do the right thing, and tell someone quickly, not us at Yahoo! Answers.
2006-10-14 08:38:22 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Have a word with your sister in the first instance and tell her what she is doing to her kids - in the long run (if hubby found out) she could lose her kids. Hubby could make it very nasty for her if it went to court. If she won't listen to you then have a discreet word with hubby - he will appreciate it coming from you rather than finding out the hard way, which he will eventually if you don't intervene.
2006-10-12 09:58:55 · answer #3 · answered by pussycat 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First thing's first, speak to your sister. You know what 'Chinese whispers are like, people get their wires crossed. The worst thing you can do is to ignore the situation, even if it turns out not to be true, then at least you will have piece of mind.
On the other hand, if it is true, then you will have to discuss it, as a lot of people are liable to get hurt. Whatever you do, do not say anything to her husband, i am not saying that you are siding with your sister, don't let the information come from you if it is true.
2006-10-12 07:50:42 · answer #4 · answered by classychick 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Whatever you do - dont tell her hubby! Why dont you let her know that you know and ask if she wants to chat about it. Maybe she will talk and maybe she wont. I dont think you will be benefiting anyone by telling your brother in law. There is a lot at stake here and probably lots of stuff that you dont know about - you know - behind closed doors in a relationship is rarely as it appears to other people. Just offer her your support, love and care and most of all your trust.
2006-10-12 07:12:10 · answer #5 · answered by Moi 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If it was my sister I would talk to her openly and calmly.
I would never tell her husband because it may just be evil gossip! And it may be a fling that blows over. She is an adult its her life and with her children involved I would tread really carefully.
It may help to say if you know about it others will find out too!
2006-10-12 10:06:30 · answer #6 · answered by Nicola H 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her and aske herif her affair is worth "losing" her daughters, that should wake her up. Even if she were to get custody, should there be a divorce, her daughters would likely get angry and lose trust in her. My dad was a heavy drinker and though he wasn't abusive, he "lost us", because we didn't want to socialize with him. We lived in the same house, didn't wantour parents to divorce 'cause the thought was scary...Let her know that eventually her secret will get out and while you won't betray her, her children can find out in the same way you did.
2006-10-12 07:27:34 · answer #7 · answered by tyreanpurple 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should not type in all caps IT is rude.
You talk with with your sister first.
Just be honest.
You may find the hubby is an abusive brute.
If you discovered sis' games then other family /friends may also.
And the two may just be swingers.
Keep it between you and sis!
2006-10-12 07:13:46 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Personally i think u should keep ur nose out!!
It doesnt affect ur life whether she sleeps with Tom, Dick or Harry....she will learn the hard way.
If you feel the need to do anything then let her know that ur aware of her little situation but dont condone it.
2006-10-12 07:12:08 · answer #9 · answered by sweetfemaleattitudeuk2076 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yeah! please mind your own business. I am not tryin to be blunt but, your sister is a GROWN women, and KNOWS exactly what position she is setting herself up. Maybe she is having pesonal issues with her hubby that noone knows of, because it is NO ONES business. Look, please stay out of this mess, because Its their household you will be messing with(and you don't live in their household), you butting in will be effecting thier marriage and your neices or nephews lives also. Its her marriage and let her deal with it.
I sugguest you to speak with her in private of what she is doing that is wrong, BUT! please dont put anymore kerosene to the fire that is already burning, try blowing it out with sand(by helping your sis).
My point is, its her marriage(NOT yours), its her husband(NOT yours). would you like it if anyone butts into your personal life?
2006-10-12 07:15:51 · answer #10 · answered by Fairytale_girl 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
tell her you know but dont give her a hard time sounds like she isnt happy with the hubby and you dont know what goes on behind closed doors
2006-10-12 07:13:07 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋