My sister is supposed to be living with me as part of her parole....?

Question

but she went to live with her bf whos shes not supposed to be with as part of parole and I want to tell her parole officer because im tired of lying but my dad keeps telling me not to tell I am so tired of lying. Plus not only that she is commiting welfare fraud how do I report her anonymously, because she screwing off already its just gonna get worse and Im tired of it - so are my other sisters but our dad dosent want us to say anything. What would you do?

Answer 1

I would tell. Who needs that crap. Life is stressful enough without an albatross like that hanging around your neck. Find out what the policy is about reporting parolees to see if they would tell who reported and if they don't tell then do it. Why should you and your sisters suffer for your sister's nonsense. And if anyone ever does find out you told on your sister and gives you a hard time then tell them to bite you.

Answer 2

I would do the correct thing and NOT listen to your father, who may love his daughter dearly but is blinded by his love. I am a mother of two small daughters, so I understand that love, but it isn't good for your sister in the long run. She must deal with the messes she makes, and you are obligated to not only help her address those issues but to report her to her parole officer. Lying is not a good idea, as I know that you know. You may make your father unhappy with you (I hope not angry with you!) and you certainly will make your sister angry, but that is simply because she is an immature, self-centered person who won't understand your motives, even if you explain them, until she grows up. So don't expect her to warm up to you for a while. And don't ask for forgiveness from anyone, as you will be doing the right thing. You should probably try to have a heart-to-heart with your dad, though. He needs to realize that you have to do this BECAUSE you love her.

Answer 3

I assume you are over 18? Maybe it would be a good idea to tell her ahead of time that you are going to tell her p.o., not so she can "escape" but kind of as a warning, so maybe she will come back to you. Your dad has no right to manipulate you like this. Chances are nothing you do is going to make him happy - if she keeps living with the bf and she screws up again and ends up in jail, he'll be mad at you. If you tell her p.o., he'll be mad at you. He's just trying to shift the focus from her actions, which probably embarrass and shame him, to something he can more easily control -- you.

If you tell her p.o., you might be saving her life. He will be mad at you, and then he'll get over it. Be true to yourself and stop lying.