About being gay all the time? They even judge guys about being cute, or sexy. I don't know if they are doing it to make me paranoid or be funny or what. Plus his friend comes over to play video games untill 4 or 5 in the morning when im not here or am sleeping. His friends wife has accused her husband of being gay too. Am I overthinking? What should I do? Is there anyway to find out for sure if he is or isn't?
2006-10-12 06:10:32 · 30 answers · asked by MiZmeL 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I have asked him and he said that he is not gay. (for those who told me to ask him)
2006-10-12 06:43:49 · update #1
first off..
this is a big thing right now--acting gay. as a joke with your male friends. odd but true.
now why dont you stay up and play video games with them one night? or walk in and say "my turn" and hope you didnt volunteer yourself for anything else
2006-10-12 06:12:16 · answer #1 · answered by TheMaverick.The Artist 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie I dont know... Some men joke about these kinds of things.. Because they feel that way. And thats the only way to let it out. Maybe he is seeing how you would react to it? Because he wants to be gay or something.
PS
Dont hound him about it. Because if he is gay you dont want him coming home to you at night getting in the bed with you, after he has been with a man. If you scare him about being open with you...Then he might just hide it from you. I would get you hubbys friends wife to take some rides with you at night or something. See what the are doing. You know, Help each other out some. Just a suggestion.
2006-10-12 06:17:02 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to tell you this, but a heterosexual man will NEVER joke about being gay. That is something straight men just do not do. My boss is a closet gay and does this also. His poor wife is getting the clues more and more day by day that her husband of 20 years is gay and is in love with the other supervisor, who is an older gay man.
2006-10-12 06:39:40 · answer #3 · answered by nido_tr3s 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well ... personally I'd have to have a serious talk with him ... my aunts best friend is gay ... he's having an affair with some married guy ... and his wife doesn't even know it ... she tells me so many stories about all the guys that give each other head ... married or not ... you'd be surprised ... my dad's boss always jokes around with his buddies that way and I thought it was strange ... go to find out later ... he's a swinger and him & his wife swap ... she's bi ... and he's bi ... !
So unless you're willing to truly find out what the truth is ... either leave it alone or really start to bug him about it ... not nag ... just ask questions ... and see where his point of view is ... ask him what he thinks about bisexual guys ... and take it from there ... ask him his fantisies and desires ... favorite sex acts ... you never know what you might find out untill you ask ... good luck with whatever you decide ... !
2006-10-12 06:34:49 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds fishy... But the only thing you can do is talk to him about the long nights and the overage of his 'friend's' visits. Let him know you don't appreciate the attention this other man gets over you... Plus, it's time that his friends wife doesn't get either with her husband.
If you ask him about being gay.. he'll probably put a wall up and be mad that you even asked. (Even if it is true).
If he ever comes out and tells you that he is gay... I guess you won't be surprised! But until then... He is your husband. Love him... and accept his "frillities". :)
2006-10-12 06:18:49 · answer #5 · answered by InnerBeauty28 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldnt put up with a husband that plays video games regularly until 5am. If he's married, hes an adult and its time to move on from the frat boy stage. Let him know you want him to have time with his friends, but that he needs to show that hes serious about you and the relationship. If he cares about you he should care that you are questioning his sexuality becuase he spends so much quality time with his male friends over going to bed with his wife. Even though it might end up as a fight, its better to talk about it rather than doing something sneaky behind his back. You're married now and he should start acting like a responsible husband, simple as that.
2006-10-12 06:33:42 · answer #6 · answered by sadie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think if your husband is gay, you'd know it. If you think you're overthinking, you probably are. It depends. How much do they judge other guys looks. If they do it a lot, that's weird? But if they only do it in a joking way then they are probably playing. My husband's cousin jokes like this. They grab each other's nipples all the time and think it's the most hilarious thing.
2006-10-12 06:16:27 · answer #7 · answered by saveit 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would think if they were gay and both having an affair they definetly would not be joking around you two about it. They would be secretive and sneeking off elsewhere like at a motel room. They are just playing with each other. You two are just paranoid lol.
2006-10-12 06:14:34 · answer #8 · answered by luvlisteningtomusic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would think that if they were actually gay, they wouldnt openly make jokes about it since they are both married. The only way to find out for sure is to catch them doing something.
2006-10-12 06:13:13 · answer #9 · answered by JC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NOt to be graphic but- try this. Go to a porn shop and buy a dildoe. Then- next time you have sex with out him knowing take it out and pretend like you're gonna use it. Suggest to put it in his stuff. HE he lets you put it in his butt- yup! he's gay. There's no other way of knowing even if you ask.
2006-10-12 06:13:48 · answer #10 · answered by Ms.Budonkadonk 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's ok to joke about it. But there is a limit. And if you are questioning it, then maybe he's gone over that limit. Ask him, it's about the only way you can find out for sure.
2006-10-12 06:13:11 · answer #11 · answered by ♥Amanda♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋