Anyone gone through abortion before during the early weeks? Like 12weeks or less? How's the procedure? How long does it take? And how you feel post abortion? Preferably in singapore.
2006-10-12 06:06:35 · 13 answers · asked by ddko 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
I had an abortion between 7-9 weeks. The procedure was simple.There was a lot of people waiting to get differene procedures that day. I waited with everyone else, and then they called me into the operating room. Once inside the doc verified my id and asked me once again if i was sure this is what i wanted to do. After saying yes, he had me lay back and put an oxgen mask on my face. I counted backwards from 10 and i was out. I woke up so groggy i forgot where i was. They gave me some candy and water and had me sit up. There wasn't any pain. I swear i don't know how i made it home because i was drugged up. I finally made it home and slept for a couple of hours. After i woke up thats when i had a few pains. Later that night it hit me that i had killed my baby and i cried myself to sleep. I work in retail so i see babies and pregnant woman on a daily basis. I would run into the bathroom and cry my eyes out. I felt like dirt. For the next couple of weeks all i did was cry, wouldn't really eat and distanced myself from others. I decided to go speak to a couseler because i knew that something was wrong. She helped me to understand that i had to forgive myself first before anything else. That is an experience i wish on no one. No matter how strong a person thinks they are. It is something that i think about once in a while because the baby would be around one now. I try not to dwell on it because there is nothing that i can do to bring the baby back. I am currently 36 weeks now and i can't wait to hold my baby. Think about if this is really what u want to do. Once its done, that baby is not coming back.
2006-10-12 06:55:40 · answer #1 · answered by omarion's mommy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a fairly quick procedure. I've never had it preformed myself but I've gone with a friend and it's really sad in those clinics. I saw a woman cry because she couldn't get an abortion because she was too far along. I think I cried more than any of the women there. I'm told it's quick and fairly painless. The girl I went with to the clinic was a morally deprived individual and she felt no remorse for what she did. My other friend was truly depressed afterwards. She wasn't the same for about a year, and she always carries the weight of what she did on her heart. I'm pro-choice. You have to make the decision that's right for you, but make sure you really think through the consequences of your actions. I always thought if I were pregnant before I was ready that I would choose to abort, but that was until I was actually pregnant then I realized that I couldn't live with myself if I did that. It's a personal choice and I hope all goes well for you.
2006-10-12 13:24:52 · answer #2 · answered by jill_valentine_otaku 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did it cuse Planned Parenthood didn't explain Medical to me. I was working but my insurance wouldn't cover it (this was many years ago). Planned Parenthood said I couldn't care for the baby and that it was the only viable option. I was 18 and had no support. Planned Parenthood said they had exit counseling. I thought if this is such a great option, why would someone need counseling? Well, I found out. It was the most regrettable thing I have ever done. It wasn't just a piece of flesh, it was my baby and I will always regret it. No one wants to talk about the horrible feelings you have for the rest of your life. Post Abortion Syndrome is a part of that. But MS magazine states, "Post-abortion stress syndrome" — PASS or PAS — sounds scientific, but don't be fooled — it's a made-up term. Not recognized as an official syndrome or diagnosis by the American Psychiatric Association , the American Psychological Association, or any other mainstream authority, it is a bogus affliction invented by the religious right." (http://www.msmagazine.com/aug01/pas.html)
You don't need to be Christian to feel this, as when I went through it I wasn't. I don't understand how a magazine that is supposed to be supportive for women, denigrate their feelings cuse they don't jive with their ideology. But I digress.
Think carefully before you take that step cuse it is irreversible!
2006-10-12 13:23:23 · answer #3 · answered by yiqqahah 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I don't know how it works in singapore...But from personal experience (I was 8 weeks along) it isn't too bad.. I opted not to have the stuff that knocks you out. It takes about 3 hours total at the clinic (the procedure itself is only about 10 minutes) but you have lots of things going on before hand & after. Afterwards, I felt fine...a little spotting but that was it.
For all the people out there who are against abortion...I was already a single mom with no help from her dad....I was on birth control & must have fell into the 1% chance you might get prego on bc...I still think about the child I could have had...
2006-10-12 13:16:58 · answer #4 · answered by Sugar Magnolia 6 · 2⤊ 2⤋
I live in Utah, usa and it is a horable experience. I was young and did it because that is what I thought the only option was. I was about 12 weeks. They took me into a room and gave ame a pill that made my cervix open. Then about 30 minuts later, they brought this vacume indto the room and layed me down. They then put me under laughing gas. Believe me, it was worthless..... They then held me down and vacumed out my insides. It hurt like hell and I screamed verry loud. I suggest never going threw this. I can't even imagine what it would be like in Singapore. It can't be better than this. I promice. I suggest that you give your youngsert up for adoption. It is such a better way to do things. This is from someone who has been threw hell, I will never do thatagain. I often wonder how things would have been if I saved that baby. I still to this day feel like a murderer. Its is not worth it.
2006-10-12 13:13:42 · answer #5 · answered by sr22racing 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I went through it before i was 6 weeks i didn't feel any thing because they put me on some kind of medication it was very quick about 3 to 5 minutes at the most the worst feeling is after wards when u think about what u could've did !
2006-10-12 14:32:00 · answer #6 · answered by Ms.Donna 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
For Itsme.....I'm also a single mother with no help from the father. I too am on birth control as I don't want another child. It's called abstinence. Works great with a 0% of having to have an abortion...........
2006-10-12 13:21:06 · answer #7 · answered by bradys_mommy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it also depends a lot on where you go. i've been told it can hurt quite a lot. im not saying it will, but it might. plus, even though the actual procedure is quick, you will have a lot of paperwork, as well as a wait of a few hours before it actually happens.
2006-10-12 13:15:29 · answer #8 · answered by swatthefly 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the procedure is not very long only a five minute process beleive it or not the only thing that takes long is if you want to be asleep during the process or awake eitheir way it doesnt hurt you will bleed after the surgery wich will leave in a couple of days.
2006-10-12 13:12:15 · answer #9 · answered by Jennifer A 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I have had an abortion...Please don't do it. Adoption is available, Its very hard and although not too painful. The mental pain is terrible, Its not a choice that should be readily available.
2006-10-12 14:19:43 · answer #10 · answered by missme 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋