I'm in a long term relationship and he was nothing like the kinda guys I use to go for.
Now 4yrs on I've seen someone at work who has made all my old loves come rushing back.
Am I allowed to be friends with him? whats acceptable? Or do I keep on shunning my old life? (He's an ex army, punk Mmmm)
2006-10-12 05:50:00 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Follow your heart - you'll only regret it if you don't. You might regret it if you do - but at least you'll know.
2006-10-12 05:52:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It seems like you are bored with your current "long term relationship" (that doesn't sound like romance). Before you make up your mind on this new guy, you need to evaluate your current relationship. Are you in it for the long haul, or just because it is convenient? Where do you see yourself in a year, two, five years? If your current isn't in that picture, move on. Then feel free to start up a friendship with the ex-army punk yum. If you want to stay with your current guy, stay away form a tempting fling.
2006-10-12 13:00:45 · answer #2 · answered by Kalliope 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know the answer to this, asking us is pointless, you are just abdicating responsibility.
If you still have feelings for your old love, and by your initial statement and the Mmmm I'd guess you do, then the idea of friendship with them could just be a thinly disguised attempt at escape.
The real question may be do you still want to be in your current relationship?
2006-10-12 13:57:05 · answer #3 · answered by garfet 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Friendship is okay, but if you want to be friends with him for the wrong reasons, then it is bad, bad, bad. Think about how you were when you were attracted to your army-punk guys. If you can look back and say that you wouldn't mind going back to it, then get out of your current relationship and date around. Don't take the friendship to new heights though. It will just hurt your current relationship.
2006-10-12 12:57:04 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the only problem with being freinds with someone that has things about him that you like or love. Is that it could affect the relatinship that you are in now. If you know and can handle separating the two i don't see the problem.
2006-10-12 12:53:35 · answer #5 · answered by MIA 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That has to be entirely up to you. That is just too much to put on me (us). I could tell you what I would do, but then I don't want to be responsible for the outcome. So just think it through and see what your heart tells you.
p.s. you could be friends with him, but how do you know it won't turn into something else?
2006-10-12 12:54:38 · answer #6 · answered by Boricua Born 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't see why you can't be friends with him AS LONG AS you can keep your mind off getting in bed with him. If you can't do that, you should reappraise your current long term relationship and where you want to go with it.
2006-10-12 12:53:31 · answer #7 · answered by jbrowning001 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can be friends with whomever you want, but the the moment it becomes something more than friendship, THAT is an issue.
2006-10-12 12:52:03 · answer #8 · answered by danl747 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Unless he is marry or gay yes. shunning is a good term to use.
Remember, "lead us not to temptation but deliver us from evil".
I know you have "evil" intend to get back with him.
2006-10-12 13:41:31 · answer #9 · answered by Kenshin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't be friends with him just because it sounds like you are still attracted to him.It would just turn into a big mess.
2006-10-12 12:52:13 · answer #10 · answered by Maddie H 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you want to lose your man, then hang with the other guy, sounds like you want him around for a reason and you are just kidding yourself if you are claiming you want only friendship
2006-10-12 12:52:47 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋