2006-10-12 05:39:04 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Have them sit down at the table. Give them 10 slips of paper each and give them a jar. The jar should be labeled "Consequence Jar". The kids need to write some chores or some nice behavior they could do for their sibling in the even that they fight. For instance, one paper might read "Sweep the driveway." One might read "I'll make my brothers bed today and tomorrow." or "Tell your brother something that you like about him."
The kids will comply because they wrote the consequences, and actually they are curious which one they pick. BUT Then, a TWIST.. Now it's your turn to add some. Because the whole reason for this jar is to help them stop fighting. If they know that there are some hard core chores in there from you like" the two of you will sit and talk about something together for one hour." or "The two of you will go next door to offer yardwork help, FOR FREE". This will help them solve their problems after one warning from you before they have to choose a consequence. If they have a tizzy and don't comply, they are grounded to their room. Good luck to you! (Throw some board games in there, too. The fun time together might help as well! :-)
2006-10-12 05:46:10 · answer #1 · answered by mama 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Fighting is normal but you have to teach them how to fight fair and how to talk about their feelings. Sounds like they are really frustrated. Put them in separate areas and make them write down what they like about the other person. Make them read it aloud to you. The other one just might not know that they really are important to the other. Then the next time they fight, have them write down, just what happened and how what the other person did made them feel. Really start listening to them. If they don't like doing this, then tell them to quit fighting and talk it out. That hitting each other and all this fighting is not acceptable and they better think of a better way to handle it. Stick to your guns. You are the parent! You are in charge and they will learn by your consistency in handling the situation. Being a parent is the hardest job in the world. But it also has the greatest rewards.
2006-10-12 12:48:43 · answer #2 · answered by kymmy_kins 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call Super Nanny. Unfortunately, when you kids that are around the same age group, they will fight over everything and anything. If one has one the other has to have one too. I know I have a lot of siblings. You can try to bribe them with something fun and cool that you know they would like. Say something like "If they don't fight for (a certain amount of time) they'll get this or that" You should call one of them nanny shows, they help.
2006-10-12 12:42:25 · answer #3 · answered by Rica 82 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make the children do projects that require that they work together and need each other. ie "here hold this" or "grab this while I take the other side". After working together instead of against each other especially while struggling towards a common goal (canoeing, pitching a tent, lifting heaving objects, building something) they will share in the pride. some fighting is normal. They will grow out of it.
2006-10-12 12:44:27 · answer #4 · answered by singleagain 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find ways to get them to interact together. Possibly a family time where you all are together and enjoy one anothers company. Sometimes kids fight because they seek attention and they fell the other child is gettin more attention. Thats what it was with my friends children until she started family time. After the kids did homework and she cooked dinner while they were doing homework they would have family time beginning with dinner. They would all talk about their day and then after dinner played a family game together. It was nice, so nice we do it at my home as well.
2006-10-12 12:46:07 · answer #5 · answered by DeZigns By Monique 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Force them to kiss and hug each other each morning and say goodnight, kiss and hug before going to sleep. Tell the 8 yr old that if he makes the 7 year old cry he will get a smack and get grounded.
2006-10-12 12:53:38 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am having this same problem with my 9 and 7 year old. i am giving the school counselor a call and see if she can talk with them about ways to try to get along better. as soon as they walk in the door after school they are bickering about something, and as soon as they wake up in the morning etc... i did this last year and she talked to them and it seemed to help for a couple months. you could try a behavior reward chart. you don't necessarily have to buy them something when they reach their mark, but maybe the reward could be special time with mom, going to the library and out for ice cream etc... i have also done that, and that helped. might have to try that again!
2006-10-12 12:44:12 · answer #7 · answered by all 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just give them an incentive to not fight. say that for everyday you don't fight i will take you to mcdonald's or the zoo or some place that they really like. if they fight even once then tell them the trip is off. having something to look foward to will make them try to act better.
2006-10-12 12:41:54 · answer #8 · answered by Sarah 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Seperate them. Have one do an activity in one room and the other do something else in a different room. They probably just spend to much time together where they are so close in age.
2006-10-12 12:41:18 · answer #9 · answered by zara01 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best way that I found was to make them sit in chairs and face each other. They cannot hamdle it and in no time will be laughing at each other. In the beginning though, they would just sneer at each other and make stupid faces. It will al work out though. Good luck... GaryT
2006-10-12 13:02:23 · answer #10 · answered by gary t 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋