I think I may not be the only women in his life
1. he is 42
2. he have children
3. I am 22
4. we never had intercourse
5. first man I ever dated
6. I have emotional feeling about him
7. I love been around him
8. Lately I don't feel the connection like I use to
I am so confused, we have only been dating but I have strong feeling or is it just normal.
Part of me want to stay and other part just want to go and just be his friend.
I NEED HELP!
2006-10-12 05:19:21 · 8 answers · asked by angle2005star 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
looking at it, you have strong emotional feeling about him, but do you really LOVE him? Or is he just a gentle, mature, understanding fatherly figure to you?
for a guy 42 years old, and a gal that's just 22 years old, what you two want in life/looking for would be quite different
age is not exactly a problem in love, though it's not totally perfect, and there's bound to have problems since there's such a large age gap, plus there's the childrens' issue, but if you really love him, and him loving you, you two can try solving problems together
but if you arent sure if you love him or not, then:
you need not denied your emotional feelings for him, but clarify to yourself is this love or something else. If it's not love, you can still stay as friends, gd friends etc, and find someone you really love, and loves you genuinely wholeheartedly back
I am speaking totally from your perspective, if you do love him, then we can all start talking whether does he love you back, or would you be happy if you really be together with him, but if it's not love from your side, then we need not really care about what the guy thinks
2006-10-12 05:25:20 · answer #1 · answered by meow 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have to stay don't stay stuck on one person because you end up getting attached to that person if you feel he is not right for you then take it slow your very young and he is half your age you have a whole life ahead of you.
He has already experience life having kids wife maybe and he maybe now sees he wants to settle down and be with someone again.
Good for you, you don't need to have sex with him because that will get more feelings involved.
I suggest you explore more options go out with friends and have some fun while you can then if you feel like his the one then continue your relationship with him and see where it takes you.
Just let him know you want to part for just a bit it will be fine don't worry you might enjoy the single life I am enjoying it very much was trap with my daughters father for 6 whole years now I'm 24 going out having fun and I love it. I do regret the times I lost out on but you can never go back and change your mistakes so I looked ahead and became positve and still working at my self esteem.
E-mail me if you like to chat. I know your dating a police man I had before as well and so have my friends, and I think there Jerks : )
2006-10-12 09:45:08 · answer #2 · answered by Pretty me :) 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to stop seeing this guy. There is something wrong with a man who is dating someone 20 years younger then him. You are completely normal for feeling confused, listen to that. There is no reason for you to be in this relationship. Get out now before you get yourself hurt. There is no reason for you to be his girlfriend, or even his friend. There is no way this could work out.
If for no other reason, leave for the kids. They have already been through enough. The last thing that they need is to have another woman in their lives. They will feel like their dad has replaced them. They will be angry and hurt & they will blame you for everything.
You have your whole life ahead of you. Wait for a good guy maybe 5 years older then you instead of 20 and start a healthy relationship. You deserve more then what you are allowing yourself by staying with this man.
2006-10-12 05:28:35 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all if he is 42 & your 22 and your not having intercourse then he has another woman giving him that satisfaction until you finally give in. Your still young & he's starting his mid life crisis & thought you would make him feel young again. Quit seeing him & see how he reacts to it. If he tries to reach out to you then maybe he feels something more for you. If he doesn't then you know what he wanted & move on. The world is still there waiting for you.
2006-10-12 05:25:44 · answer #4 · answered by tygernside 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on. That age gap is pretty big. You may be the same age as his children. Yikes!! Obviously you have doubts, so it must not be meant to be. Find that someone who you love with your whole heart without a doubt. That will be the right one.
2006-10-12 05:22:34 · answer #5 · answered by mama 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is normal. A lot of people date someone for years and that person is not necessarily the one for them. You are young. Enjoy yourself. Do what is best for you. If it is meant to be it will happen.
2006-10-12 05:22:21 · answer #6 · answered by grudgrime 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your dating him but no exclusingvely?? no sex yet?? that's odd. Get out of it. You're too young to stick to an older guy like this with kids. You need to explore what's really out there before you can get into the next level of relationships. I know form experience.
2006-10-12 05:23:22 · answer #7 · answered by Ms.Budonkadonk 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
seems like your relationship is headed nowhere. what r u doing with a guy fir enough to be your uncle. you deserve something better than this. you have no future with him. drop him now.
2006-10-12 05:23:39 · answer #8 · answered by karan s 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋