I think I may not be the only women in his life
1. he is 42
2. he have children
3. I am 22
4. we never had intercourse
5. first man I ever dated
6. I have emotional feeling about him
7. I love been around him
8. Lately I don't feel the connection like I use to
I am so confused, we have only been dating but I have strong feeling or is it just normal.
Part of me want to stay and other part just want to go and just be his friend.
I NEED HELP!
2006-10-12 05:18:59 · 15 answers · asked by angle2005star 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
get out of that! you arent experienced enough yet ! find someone your own age, that has common goals with you. do you really think this will go anywhere? what are you going to take care of his children!?
2006-10-12 05:22:18 · answer #1 · answered by John P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course you have those feelings about him- he's the first man you've dated. Plus its been so long, you are emotionally attached. The mere fact that you think he's seeing other women isn't a good thing. He's also way older then you- having "experienced" more life then you have- you're a baby! He'll want different things from you then you may be willing to do/give/offer. No sex? 42? Um...I don't know about that. I'm glad you're not having sex with him though. Just think, there is someone out there closer to your age, who doesn't have "baggage" and won't rush or push you into things you may not necessarily want. I think you should reevaluate your relationship with this man before you make any commitments. You have all your life ahead of you to be someones momma- hell, those kids are probably as old as you! But if you love him, and he loves you, then do what you feel is best. Good luck!
2006-10-12 12:35:49 · answer #2 · answered by shondak 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is a tough one.... I am with a man that is 15yrs older than I am, and there are lots of great things about him and his life experiences that seperate him from guys my age. More than likely your man just has a lot on his plate and doesn't want to stress you with his worries. One thing probably being the kid's mother.... most don't appreciate their ex with a younger girl! And having the children adjust too! Just give it some time and you might feel better about the situation. Talk to him about how you feel when the times are rough, if anything he can give you advice on how to change the negatives into positives!
P.S. have sex with him before you plan to marry him!
2006-10-12 12:29:19 · answer #3 · answered by melissa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is he gay? married? Or are you just arm candy? If he's the first you've ever dated sweetie don't stop there. I'm not saying be a lady of the night either mingle,stay open to meeting new people, your young girl live a little.
2006-10-12 12:25:53 · answer #4 · answered by cwallflower32 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on...
when the connection is off....thrill is gone... and it's gone and will get only more so
he is way to old for you in more ways than you know...
move on... find someone else..there are lots of nice guys out there looking for a nice woman....good luck
2006-10-12 12:23:16 · answer #5 · answered by Blondie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been there. and I got the short end of the stick. I mean we still were close but I knew I wasn't the only one. So end the end, I told him I couldn't do that anymore, cause what I was doing was making myself unavailable to other men that would treat me like a queen. I was wasting my with someone who would have never been with me. So from me to you, I would end it. I deserve better babe.
2006-10-12 12:27:50 · answer #6 · answered by sweetpea 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have a very large age gap, he will not be able to keep up with you sexually in a couple of years and you'll end up a lonely woman. if he already has children, he may not want more with you, and you will miss out on one of the greatest moments in a young womans life...giving birth!
move on and save yourself a pile of heartache later.
2006-10-12 12:25:05 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yuk- he's closer to my age and I woudn't even want to date him!!
He's old enough to be your daddy! Gross.
Find a nice young man closer to age 25 or so -- this old fart is just a mild infatuation.
2006-10-12 12:32:25 · answer #8 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give it up .Please think, this man is old enough for your dad. In about 5 to 7 years you won't have any thing in common. Unless you just want a companion for now.
2006-10-12 14:42:29 · answer #9 · answered by Sugar 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he has children what about a wife? and if he hasn't tried sex then he's getting it somewhere.stay friends , date someone else be free.
2006-10-12 12:26:20 · answer #10 · answered by martha g 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋