the only problem is he's since we met he's in and out of prison and always cheating on me or lying to me. he says he loves me and trys to help me out.then all of a sudden he's changes his mind and wants me to be just his friend.i'm tired of it and ready for real love.what should i do?
2006-10-12 05:11:42 · 15 answers · asked by nojpsars 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
there are plenty of fish in the ocean. you deserve better hun! move on and find another guy.
2006-10-12 05:14:20 · answer #1 · answered by jard jard binx 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he loved you, he would have a good job and take care of you. It is very easy to stay out of jail. You just don't break the law.
This guy sounds like a real looser. You have a child now and you need to put that baby first. By staying, you are teaching this baby that it is ok for women to be used and this is the way a man acts. Is this how you want you baby to grow up? This man sounds dangerous and you need to get your baby away from him.
If this man has been in and out of prison, he shouldn't legally be able to have any parental rights, so you need to get out of there. Move back in with your parents until this baby is grown or move to a state that has programs to help single moms get on their feet. Your feelings do not matter anymore. You need to put your child first. It will be hard, but at least you will have your dignaty and your child will be safe.
Please, please get out of there. Good luck!
2006-10-12 12:20:44 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get rid of him. This guy is abviously a loser to begin with. Surely you don't want your child to be brought up in a background where the Daddy is either in jail, or out with some other woman whenever he decides he just wants to be friends. You would be in a state of upset and your baby will suffer for it. Children are very very tuned in to the energy around them and their lives will be affected by everything that touches them for the rest of their lives. A child is molded between the ages of childbirth and 6yrs. Love your baby alot and dump the dad.
2006-10-12 12:19:55 · answer #3 · answered by largerladybug 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have some self respect and find someone who isn't scum and that will be faithful. Don't you want a good role modle for your child?? Is someone that cheats on you, lies to you and is in and out of prision a good role modle? Do you want your child to follow in it's Father's footsteps?? The answer sound easy to me! Why would you have a child by someone like that anyway??? And then you say you still love him??? You should HATE him!!
2006-10-12 12:16:34 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's stringing you along.... he tells you what he knows will get you to stay and then is an *** because he can be, then he's sweet again so you don't go anywhere. He's not worth. You can find someone who doesn't play games. And if he is a real man he'll be there for his kid financially, and mentally whether you are with him or not. So please take the chance and walk....
2006-10-12 12:15:10 · answer #5 · answered by :)*taurus tease*(: 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
love urself more than u say u love him...if he's in and out of jail, and cheatin on u, and constantly changin his mind about his feelings for u, y are u still puttin urself thru this? When will u b fed up enough ? when he gives u some disease he got in jail or from some chic? think girl, ur child deserves more...peace
2006-10-12 12:15:09 · answer #6 · answered by Darsh(Say it like u mean it) 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He'll always be the children's father, although, you must take a stand and learn to grow. You've been to easy on him, give him challenges. Show him a friend that knows how to love. "Only it's herself" !
2006-10-12 12:18:11 · answer #7 · answered by ~Jessica~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find a good man to be a father to your children, and please dont have anymore children until you are in a stable marriage.
Approximately 85% of youth in prison, 85% of children with behavioral disorders, 75% of adolescents in substance abuse treatment centers, 71% of all high school dropouts, and 70% of adults serving long-term prison sentences come from fatherless homes. Fatherless children average significantly higher in terms of teen suicide, illegitimate birthrates, incarceration and unemployment. 63% of youth suicides are from fatherless homes. 90% of all homeless and runaway children are from fatherless homes and 85% of all children that exhibit serious behavioral disorders come from fatherless homes. Because only a portion of each age group grew up in a fatherless home, these statistics mean that children from fatherless homes are 5 times more likely to commit suicide, 9 times more likely to drop out of high school, 10 times more likely to abuse drugs, 20 times more likely to end up in prison and to have behavioral disorders, and 32 times more likely to run away than their peers who grow up in intact families with both birth parents.9 These trends persist even when socioeconomic factors are controlled for.
2006-10-12 12:13:54 · answer #8 · answered by Allinwiththenuts 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The best advice that i can give to you is to love him from a far. You need to leave him alone.You need some one for your self. Not you and every one else.
2006-10-12 12:21:55 · answer #9 · answered by amber 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate to burst your bubble but this guy is only using you when he needs you. You need to get far far away from this guy, he is nothing but trouble.
2006-10-12 12:13:32 · answer #10 · answered by The Nag 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋