I think I am a jealous person, even if I don't show it, I sometimes hurt inside when somebody is more succesfull, have better partner, look nicer, etc. Why is that? Do you feel the same? Honest answers, please.
2006-10-12 04:58:00 · 37 answers · asked by tulip 4 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Jealousy often stems from insecurity. It's not always that you want what the other person has (money, car, looks, partner etc.)
It's that you don't want to be seen as NOT having those things, worried that people will think less of you because of it.
Jealousy can also be a sign of a lack of imagination.
" I want that cos she's got it, and I can't think of any thing for myself! I want to be the same as everybody else!!!!"
But mostly it's insecurity.
2006-10-12 05:16:46 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No I am not jealous, I know who I am, what I am, the good the bad and the ugly. I feel comfortable in my own skin and I feel comfortable happy and secure in my relationship.
On the outside many people think that others have better lives, better looking partners,nicer clothes, flasher cars, bigger houses and so on. The reality of that is are they happy or is what they have what it seems the answer is no and they feel insecure and jealous as you.Honest things are not what they appear your life I have learnt is what you make of it and anyone can have anything if they want it enough and work towards it.
The grass is not greener on the other side it just looks greener as it is in the shade in reality it is a nightmare one were you will want to fly back to your old life.
2006-10-12 06:47:12 · answer #2 · answered by momof3 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. You are right. Those are all very normal feelings, our innermost feelings of any normal human being. Jealousy could vary though, from killing out of jealousy, to just feeling a ''bit'' jealous when you compare someone else's success (personally, or otherwise) with your own. No one is perfect. It is very very difficult to say I am very secure in everyhting, and that I do not lack anything to feel jealous of others. Thats where they confuse the feeling of security / being content, to jealousy. You and I are secure, have everything great - health, wealth, a great home...but its difficult to really really absolutely say that we do not have even a pinch of ''jealousy'' in all of us. Sometimes we dont even realise when we do get jealous. sometimes its a very ''silent'' feeling within you, at some point or the other, in some way....that would happen. And thats for all sort of negativity, jealousy, anger, lust, sadness...everyhting...all of them in different proportions in different human beings. I think all of it makes us a whole being. All sort of feelings, good or bad (sometimes the 'good' side of a person would show more than the negative thoughts), are a part of our life, and its absolutely normal and nothing to be ashamed of.
But sometimes jealousy could be extreme, leading to actions that should not be committed, so am I jealous enough to hurt someone, or do something drastic against the person, situation, or anything that has provoked me to do so ??, then NO i am not jealous, in those terms. I am contented, materialistically, and emotionally, but that does not stop the green monstor coming out of me once in a while, and of course harmless to anyone who is around me.
2006-10-12 05:32:03 · answer #3 · answered by arya 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do know what you mean. no matter how happy you are with your lot sometimes you see someone with or doing something you'd like and there can be that little stab of jealousy inside.
I guess it only becomes a problem if you let it rule you. If it makes you miserable, then its a problem; if you start acting on it and showing your jealousy to friends etc, again, probably going to cause problems. As long as you still have it inside you to be happy for other people's achievements, even if you secretly wish it could be you, I reckon you're doing fine.
2006-10-12 05:08:12 · answer #4 · answered by Jooles 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nah, I'm way too laid back for that. I put it down to a deep seated level of laziness. I mean, having to constantly make the effort to analyse what other people are doing and worry about it? It's easier to just say, "soddit and good luck to them."
And why is there always some egit spouting bits of the bible as an answer - either you're religious, you've read it and are still asking the question, or you're not, you haven't and don't give a crapp!
2006-10-12 05:25:37 · answer #5 · answered by lickintonight 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jealousy is a negative emotion that simply drains you and makes you bitter and resentful of other peoples happiness so no I try to avoid the feeling if it should try to rear its head - what you are jealous of in others or where their at will come to you oneday through fate or achievement so you would want people to be happy for you at that time i.e. what goes around comes around for the good things as well as the bad.
2006-10-12 05:14:56 · answer #6 · answered by Sassy Sarah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's natural to feel that way. I know that when I start feeling jealous now, I'm usually able to rationalize the situation a lot better than when I was younger with a more volitile personality.
2006-10-12 05:06:23 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a secure person and I know that God will take care of me. That is why my world does not cave in when I see someone and things are going well with them.
I was jealous of a girl once a long time ago. We started out as friends, but I ruined the relationship because of my jealousy of her. That's when I prayed and got things straightened out.
2006-10-12 04:59:52 · answer #8 · answered by LaCosaMasBella 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
im not jealous towards other people who are more successful etc but i am very jealous when it comes to my boyfriend, i completely trust him and know he would never do anything i wouldnt approve of but since my first serious boyfriend cheated on me with my best friend i have this attack of paranoia and where as most people like it when their boyfriends get on with their friends i dont, i get very jealous if they become friends. i dont go loony or anything but i just get a bit funny about it. funnily though it doesnt seem to effect the relationship because at the same time i have a lot of trust which helps a lot!!
2006-10-12 05:08:53 · answer #9 · answered by bella 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think I am that jealous of people, I could make a snide comment or remark and laugh about it, but that would probably be the extent of it! I'm generally happy to see people I know do well
2006-10-12 05:01:04 · answer #10 · answered by Evilynn 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋