I was wondering if, while in a relationship or marriage, you would be bothered to find out your significant other was viewing pornography?
Also, in the case that it was bothering you, would it be enough for you to jump ship, as in, leave the person?
But if you don't have a problem with it, can you explain to me why or what your reasoning is?
Guys specifically: Why do you watch it if you are in a completely happy and fullfilled relationship?
******Any opinions are very much appreciated! And thank you in advance!
2006-10-12 04:51:59 · 36 answers · asked by AGirl2Friendly 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Yes, I would have to say it would bother me if my significant other were viewing pornography on the computer. I would want to know, for example, how long he has been doing this? why he felt he needed to keep it secret? does he spend hours online? I guess what I'm trying to get at is -- is he addicted? If so, couples counseling could help.
And this kind of follows with the second part of your question -- would it be enough for me to leave? It would depend -- on how our conversations about it went, what the answers were to the questions above, how honest my partner could be about this, if my feelings were honorerd and recognized, if he agreed to go to therapy -- if yes to most of these questions, I would try and work it out. If I wasn't respected and the problem continued despite my efforts, yes I would leave.
As for why guys watch porn? Who knows -- it's different for them than for us. Women need attachment to find the sex satisfying, while men don't need that connection. I'm guessing that's why they're so into porn. It's the visual stimulation and it doesn't matter if there is no other connection there to get off on it. As Elaine says in Seinfeld "I don't know how you guys walk around with those things."
Seriously, though, I wish you much luck and success -- I'll pray for your situation -- peace :)
2006-10-12 05:00:09 · answer #1 · answered by Mag:) 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1) Have you ever viewed internet pornography? Yes/No? If not then skip Q1 and Q2 and proceed to #4 if you wish to answer it.- Yes 2) If so - at what age did you first view internet pornography?-10/11 3) Do you view it on a regular basis?-i did when i first discovered it 4) You do not need to answer this, but in all honesty, it will effect whether you gain Best Answer or not. What are your views on this -what's the big deal? they're just people doing what they wanna do with their bodies "Through recent studies, it is now known that at least 1 in every 3 children will have viewed internet pornography by the age of 10".
2016-03-28 06:25:30 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why is that person watching porn?
What are they getting from it htat they cannot seem to find in the relationship?
You need to sit down in a non-judgmental setting to get these answers. You may not like what you hear, but you both have to realize how corrosive porn can be, as it gives a very warped view of male-female relationships.
Then, you have to help each other to leave the porn behind.
As to why some guys watch it, a little spice and variety may help the current relationship. But only as a potential instructional tool, and not the idea that if this woman wants as many items stuffed into all her orifices, yours will want the same
2006-10-12 04:55:41 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know that the majority will probably say that it shouldn't bother you, but I disagree!! Men are allowed to get away with it because us women don't hold them to a higher standard. You ask if pornography should be offensive, you'll hear NO, NO, NO, but ask if you should be offended if you were to find out your husband/boyfriend were watching two people have sex (for real), your answers would probably be YES!! I don't know what the difference is! All men DO NOT watch porn!
If you feel disrespected, you need to tell your man! If he is not willing to understand and give up the porn, JUMP SHIP!! It can become an addiction, and could lead to other things. His respect for you and your feelings should be stronger than that. Good Luck!!
2006-10-12 05:06:26 · answer #4 · answered by Kailey 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Porn is very much an individual thing, most men find it a real turn on as their sexulaity is based on someting visual, where as a women it is more about feeling's. But then some men really hate it and some women really love it. If you have never watched it then you need to give it a try, then if you really hate it then at least you will know. Some couples watch it together and it can really set the scene for a night of passion. I have friends that love it and others find it degrading to women. All down to personal preference. It wouldn't bother me if my partner was watching it just the fact that I wasn't watching it too.
2006-10-12 05:01:57 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a guy and personally I don't think it is such a big deal.
It's hard to explain, Just because he is watching porn doesn’t mean that we aren't happy in the relationship or are going to cheat!
It is just a bit of harmless, no strings fun.
Men are attracted to women. We watch porn because it is exciting, a thrill.
If you have an open mind you would not leave him for it. If it becomes a problem or an addiction then you might want to leave him but if it is just the odd porno now and again or a mag its no big deal.
2006-10-12 04:56:36 · answer #6 · answered by abluebobcat1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know that you need to jump ship yet. If your sig. other is hooked on porn. (if he isn't, he will be) then that is a problem! He needs to stop immediately. It is dangerous and destructive. He is turning to fantasy instead of dealing with life in a practical way. Also, it's disrespectful to you. Porn seems harmless but the truth is that 1 in 3 men struggle with it. It is trash. If he isn't willing to stop or get help with stopping, you will have to consider losing him. Is he the father of the baby? and how do you have time to sit on the computer w/a new baby? It sounds like both of you need to dump the computer and start having "real people" time. If you are so "in love" with Landon, then do not let porno into your home. You're a mom now, it's not just you that is effected by what's going on. Be wise. Take care.
2006-10-12 17:33:48 · answer #7 · answered by Forever 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When it comes to sex the vast majority of guys are very visual and love to see the action. Possibly, your partner likes to watch as he does something to you or get you to do it to yourself. If not, perhaps he doesn't like to ask. In which case you have communication problems, and need to sort out what you both like and what is acceptable to you both. Even then, he will continue to enjoy pornography and you have to accept this as normal - the only possible problem which may have to be addressed is, how much do you find is an agreeable amount? Good luck.
2006-10-12 05:40:15 · answer #8 · answered by Silkie1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, I think a lot of nonsense is said about porn by people who are either hung up psychologically or just want to dictate to others what is worthwhile, morally right, etc. I'll bet most of them are hypocrites, anyway, who will watch it on the sly. I have heard it said that porn demeans women, but I am one and it never bothered me (except when it was fake and done badly and not truly erotic). I have not wtched that much, BUT I thought variety was the spice of life, and if it turns you and/or you and your partner on, why not? But I do think that you should ask him his reasons, and see how that goes, and perhaps indulge in viewing WITH him, because all such shared experiences are most gratifying.
2006-10-12 05:02:42 · answer #9 · answered by bot_parody 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would bother me if vewing pornography turned into an obsession. Any obsession/addiction would bother me a lot, and, if not addressed in a reasonable amount of time, would probably make me leave the relationship eventually. As long as it's not an addiction, but infrequent casual pastime, I have no problem with porn. I wouldn't watch it with him, but if he did it on his own time every once in a while - no harm done.
2006-10-12 04:58:02 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋