how do you get over a bad relationship?

Answer 1

there is no easy way.

you just have to get on with your life.

time is the best healer.

Answer 2

Time! It sounds easy but it isn't. You need to go threw all the steps. You will be sad at first, want him/her back, you will remember how "good" it was in the beginning and wonder why it cant be like that anymore and want all your questions answered. You will NEVER get those questions answered so try to not to get stuck on the why and what if. You will get lonely and think that you have nothing to offer another mate or think you have the world to offer but why are you not getting the mate you deserve. You will get hobbies or find some way to keep your mind of it. You will start to date or go out with the girls/guys and cry the ride home. You will start to go out more in search of Mr./Mrs. Right and find they are not around and wonder. You will want to call the EX just to hear if they are feeling some of the things that you are, some how this seems to make you feel better. You get mad at them and start to remember all the crap they did to you. And you go out to get "even". It doesn't work or make you feel better after but in a way you have reached a hurdle. You will know now what you want in a guy/girl and not settle for anything less. It might take time and you might go threw a few dates etc...before you get there. But you will find your Mr./Mrs. Right. and it will be well worth your wait. Good Luck!

Answer 3

You don't "get over" the relationship, you get over the person. If the relationship is "bad", why would you want to be in it in the first place? Just chalk it up to life experience and move on to the next one. With every bad experience in life there are lessons to be learned and strength comes from the experience.

Answer 4

Spend time with friends, seek counselling, talk about it, and evaluate what was wrong in the relationship in the first place....if you can identify what the problem was that made it a bad relationship then you will know what you don't what the next time around.

Since every person is different and deal with matters in different ways, you yourself are the only person who can really know how to deal with your emotions to move on.

I wish you luck....I've had plenty of my own bad experiences, but I have moved on....met a wonderful man and love him very much.

Time heals all wounds :)

Answer 5

You know that is a question that if one was able to answer it, then they would be rich because it plagues us all. It is nice of you can tie up the loose ends and call it a day with no hard feelings, but that isn't always possible is it?

Other than that, plus the mundane things that people will say, like volunteer to do some good thing for another or a group to take your mind off of it, is to, own your mind. Not to allow the negative feelings about this person or this person, space in your mind to chew it up over and over again. I used to have a bad boss. I mean he was a really cruel man and he delighted in making the office hard for all his employees. (It drove him crazy if people were smiling or happy and he would insult them in someway and whipe that smile off their faces.) I found myself thinking about him all night long. I mean here that guy was ruining my day and at night I was voluntarily thinking about him.

I learned to shove the thoughts out of my mind at night and refuse to even discuss my day so I could have the freedom of my own thoughts. I would not let him live in my head.

So when this person crops up in your mind...gently thrust it away. You will probably have to do this over and over and over, but as time goes by it will become easier to do so. It is also a great way to learn to not let your thoughts possess you instead of you them. A good life lesson.

Answer 6

First off, I'm sorry for your situation. I would start by doing things that make you feel good. Its all about you now. Go buy some new clothes, get your hair done, manicure, pedicure- that's a good start. Try not to think of the person and the relationship. I write my feelings in a journal when I have to. It makes me feel better. I hate to say it, but spending time with someone who takes your mind away from him/her does allot. I guess that's what "rebound" relationships are. They aren't healthy, but you don't necessarily have to be "dating." Just do you, what feels good to you and in due time, they'll cross your mind, only briefly, and you will smile to yourself, because your in a better place now! Good luck!

Answer 7

Get out of the bad relatioship ASAP. Stop ALL contact. Get rid of all of his/her stuff, including everything that reminds you of him/her. I recommend a nice cleansing bonfire. Delete phone numbers from cellphone, Blackberry, speedial, etc. Have a "you" weekend; unplug phone, camp out on couch, rent favorite dvd's (action/chick-flicks), eat junkfood, etc. Get a total makeover, including that tattoo/peircing you always wanted. Redo your room/apartment/house. Go out with friend and get really drunk and dance like a slut. Have really loud bouncy rebound sex.

Once you have done all of these things, you should be over your bad relationship and ready to move on :)

Answer 8

A BAD one shouldn't be hard to get over! A GOOD relationship is harder to get over!

Answer 9

That's a hard one I have been there we broke up 1 year and a couple months ago and I'm still in love with him. My advice is don't call your ex if they love you they'll come back and if they don't then it wasn't meant to be. It takes time to get over somebody take it day by day. talk to someone that has been there email them if it gets real bad you can email me [e-mail]

Answer 10

Time, love and tenderness. Don't stuff down the negative or painful emotions. Let them out, (but don't take them out on someone else.) The sooner you can get them out of your system, the sooner you can move on to bigger and better things. Stuffing the emotions inside will take it's toll on you later or take it's toll on a potentially good relationship.

Answer 11

Trying to recall the good things out of the bad over some chocolates!! ;-))