I sent two letters to this guy, the first one was not as bad. I was trying to get a little clarity of why he needed his space. The second letter was a little more hurtful. I threaten to go on his job and tell ppl about his sexual behavior. Months has passed and the guy has been on my mind. I want to apologize for my actions. Do you think he will accept my apology or do you think he will get a retraining order against me for harassment? The guy meant a lot to me. I would really like to speak to him again, even if it's just as friends. HELP!!!!!
2006-10-12 04:46:22 · 6 answers · asked by plumprump26 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
He apparently does not want to talk to you - or he would have. This doesn't just depend on how you feel - but on how he does as well. Sounds like right out of the gate he wanted distance between you as that is what you said your first letter was about. (note he didn't and doesn't have to explain his feelings to you - they are his) Then when he doesn't respond you write him yet another letter? He's already showed you twice that he does not want a connection with you. Period. Now you want to write him and apologize? Hon - please see that no matter what you do or say this guy is simply not interested. YES...keep it up and I'm seeing "restraining order" in your future. Let it go - move on and take with you the lessons from the experience so you don't repeat the same wrong actions in the future.
2006-10-12 04:53:55 · answer #1 · answered by svmainus 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well you have really burned your bridges with him and at this point you could apologize but it might not have the effect that you want it to have on him. What you did was really impulsive and you have completely changed his view of you I'm sure. In a situation where a guy ask for space you should just give it to him rather than say and do spiteful things. You displayed shallow behavior instead of respect for his wishes and yourself by acting the way you did. Nobody said you had to agree with his decision but at least respect it. You would have always had the right too move on if the space he needed was becoming to long of a wait for you. At this point I can't really see him forgiving you and jumping for friendship with you. But I do hope that he can find it in his heart to forgive you cause two wrongs don't make a right. Although even if he does I don't think he will want to be friends with you for fear that you may snap again like this on him. But good luck and try to keep your emotions under control.
2006-10-12 12:15:49 · answer #2 · answered by liliw24 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, your friend made it very clear to you that he wanted to keep his distance- twice. Then, you decided to write another letter and threaten him that you will come do his job and talk a lot of uneccessary stuff about him. Your friend doesn't have to explain his feelings to you. I do see "restraining order" in your future because you chose to act foolish and write two letters to him. Move on with your life and learn a lesson from this experience.
2006-10-12 12:35:02 · answer #3 · answered by Lady S 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, in my opinion, if you threatened to go on his job, I wouldn't think it was hurtful - I would look at it as foolish. You probably ticked him off more than hurting his feelings, since he wanted his space to begin with. Depending on how he is, he may forgive you, but would I? Answer is NO. Good Luck!
2006-10-12 12:07:00 · answer #4 · answered by eichele30 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it depends on what the letter said if its was very hurtful than no i shouldn't accept the apology
2006-10-12 12:17:50 · answer #5 · answered by shanea 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think, he will accept your appology.
Moreover, if he has some feelings for you , after your apology he will contact you soon.
Hope you can get along well with him.
2006-10-12 12:44:45 · answer #6 · answered by Saint 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋