Whenever I invite them to do things, they always have excuses, but sometimes I think they are just making excuses up because they don't want to hang out with me.
Me and my boyfriend of a year broke up about three months ago, and I still get depressed about it. Especially with homecoming coming up, I wish I still had him around to go with me. I wanted one of my two "best" friends to go with me so I could have someone to hang out with, but it doesn't sound like either of them want to go (they both go to different schools than I.)
I wish I could just make a whole new set of GOOD friends who actually want to hang out with me and such. But I'm afraid I won't be able to do that until I go off to college next year.
Any advice?
2006-10-12 04:45:49 · 14 answers · asked by jenny 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
You have been so involved with your friends from different schools that you haven't really bonded with your classmates at your own school. Join some clubs, be outgoing, talk to kids going to the same college you plan to attend next year. You have to find a common thread with these people to bind you to them. It won't be easy, but it can be done.
2006-10-12 04:57:28 · answer #1 · answered by AsianPersuasion :) 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seriously get rid of them, they arent good mates. If they ring you in the future do the same to them as they have done to you.
Quality not quantity is best for friends!
As for making new friends goin some new groups or sports that way you'll meet new people.
As for date, go to a cafe or somewhere you dont usually go to start talking to the guys behind the counter, ask one to go with you - some guys are actually to shy to do this, you try and do the icebreaker!
just make sure you concentrate on your studies, because its likely you wont see these so-called friends again. Therefore they arent important, and when it comes to college you have a fresh start it will be great.
GOODLUCK AND BEST IN THE FUTURE!
p.s. as for the ex forget about him (easier said than done), but he wont be worth getting depressed over, been there done that worn the tshirt you know what i mean, it will just be a waste of time, so get out there and meet more people its never too late.
2006-10-12 13:02:07 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes freinds have to break up. Remember freindship is a 2 way thing and you expect what you give in return. When you go to collage youll be able to start new for now though ask your freinds do fdo stuff if they dont, dont push them and see if you can find other more worthier freinds. Make new freinds with people at your school.Hopefull if they are your true freinds they will say sorry or at least realise what they have done. On the other hand if they are not acnowlaging you have to think what is the relationship acctually and what do you get from a spoiled relationship.
2006-10-12 11:53:25 · answer #3 · answered by Fariy_God_Sistah 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know exactly how you feel, it happens to me all the time, but ive come to appreciate my own company! And if a friend wants to share it then all the better.
It sounds like you will need to meet some new people, and a fresh start at college is the best time!
Good luck!
2006-10-12 11:51:24 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps since your breakup you have been over-dwelling a little on the situation, and perhaps your friends have got a bit fed up of listening to you moaning on about it. I don't mean to sound harsh, most people tend to do it when they are still hung up on a man but it can get a little boring if you are on the receiving end all the time. Perhaps it is time you put on a smile and told your friends you're sorry for neglecting them and their feelings. We can only take so much of someone elses mysery, before it starts to make us feel miserable, and people do not like to be around people who make them feel miserable
2006-10-12 12:38:45 · answer #5 · answered by pamperpooch39 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need friends that have the SAME interest as you. So join a club/society/group. And dont depend on your friends that go to different schools because from experience its never works - u have nothing in common anymore.
Moreover, act confident. Your less likely to attract good attention when your depressed.
Good Luck!
2006-10-12 11:50:25 · answer #6 · answered by poshnosh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing to do in this situation is make your friends WANT to spend time with you.
I know you must be going through a hard time but if they feel as though they are second best to your boyfriend they will be reluctant to see you.
Make them feel special, apologise for not spending more time with them when you were with your boyfriend.
When you do spend time with them try not to offload your worries on them and concentrate on having a good time.
2006-10-12 11:50:55 · answer #7 · answered by Rosie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry about other people... I felt the same way and you know what i figured out.. You make what people think of you... Your friends are blowing you off.. you know what don't call them have them call you to see what kind of friends.. Lucky i didn't call my "good" friends and when they talked to me i sounded a lil off and they got the hint and talked to me about what was going on. Now we chill all the time...
2006-10-12 11:49:56 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok so up until about 2 weeks ago i spent every school lunchtime with a group of people who didnt want me there people who used to be freinds but 'moved on' (without telling me) especially this one girl who used to be my best freind except it was always a one sisded freindship i listened to her 'problems' and she ignored mine then one day i just decided f this and went and spoke to a group of other people who id always found freindly end of story i was always scared of moving away from thee people of the past but its easy you just have to want to get away. (dont come on too strong with any new freinds)
2006-10-12 15:49:34 · answer #9 · answered by AD 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They don't sound like friends. Find something new to do to meet new people & don't worry, college is not far away.
2006-10-12 11:52:50 · answer #10 · answered by Well, said Alberto 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋