have you had this experience?

Question

have you ever felt that you could not find all you want in a man in one man , or all you want in a woman in one woman.
for example for a woman, you meet a man who has the good looks, personality,good in bed, but not financially sound; and then there is the other, who just about is ok in the looks department, earns a comparable salary to yours, has got good prospects, but not good sexually.

now, when i was just dating (i.e. not in a serious relationship), i went out with all of them. one because he was good-looking and good in bed- for social functions, and the other was very sensitive, and we clicked on the emotional level. so the 2 of them together, equalled one good man for me.
has anyone ever done this?

i was not in bed with both of them at the same time!

Answer 1

I haven't ever done that, but I don't see anything wrong with it. Dating is just that, dating. As long as you are not pretending to be committed to anyone, than it shouldn't be a problem.

As far as finding a man that has it all-I think it is possible. Unfortunately we only live an average of 83 years, that may not be enough time!

I would go for the man who has financial stability and a good personality. You can teach him to be a better lover! And at some point in your life sex will not be all that important anymore, but if you can still have intellectual conversations you have a better chance at being happy longer.

Although...........finding multiple people to meet your needs does sound like fun!!! lol

Answer 2

I went through a very similar thing last year and it really broke me in two because it can be really confusing. What is worth remembering is that you are playing with 2 people's emotions here and your own and that could bit you in the backside!

Also remember that neither of these guys could be suitable partners and that there is someone out there who ticks all the relevant boxes, you just have to be patient and wait for him to come along. I speak confidently about this because I went through it myself. Perhaps you are afraid of being "left on the shelf" so you don't want to have to make a choice betweem the two?

Answer 3

Yeah, sure... Most guys I dated "lacked" in one department or another, this is why 99% of my dating relationships did not last longer than a few months. I can't say I have ever met a person who was absolutely "perfect", but I think I've come pretty darn close with my husband.

Answer 4

No because I found that often looks give them a attitude that says I am all that , which runes it for me because there not enough room in front of the mirror, then if they are rich they are too busy making money to spend time with you , and if they are real good in bed they usualy spend that time trying to share with every one. so go for a nice looking, hard working ,ok in the bed man because if they love you they try really hard to make up for what they seem to lack,

Answer 5

nope, I married my husband not knowing how he was in bed. How anyone was in bed. He wansn't the best looking, but I loved him. At the time, neither of us had a good job, but now he makes wonderful money and I work at home until our kids are all in school. He is great in bed. We've been married 12 years and have been happy in most of them. (whoever has been married this long understands that.)

I say marry someone for love and cabatibility. If he's not that great in bed - teach him!! ;o)

Good luck and God bless.

Answer 6

When I was single sure. But after awhile you prioritize what you want and need in a man. You will never find the perfect man but you will find someone who does the things that are most important to you and you will learn to overlook or compensate for any of their shortcomings.

Answer 7

understand looks arent everything and someone that doesnt have alot of money isnt suppose to be an issue, but i can tell it is with u. I mean yea if u are in a relationship u want to have someone who is responsible.. has a job and has a place of thier own.. what u are saying if it is what u are doing.. stop it.. its not right.

Answer 8

thats not fair to either of them

I too have met women who were everything I wanted in one respect,

but could use some growth in another,

You have to decide.
I mean, what if the person you were with felt you were lacking, and went to a second person for the other bits....
how would you feel?

I think most people would feel betrayed.

Answer 9

Ya, you have that experience when you are with someone you arent supposed to be with. When you find the right person, you naturally overlook thier flaws. No one is perfect

Answer 10

Sure. You have to figure out which traits you can live without and which ones are important, and you do this by dating around.