Me and my boyfriend have been together for a month & i seem to be the one buying stuff, i mean he has taken me out for dinner once, but as far as other stuff goes its me who pays...i bought a pizza & chips & vodka & lemonade & shopping and i cook it and he doesn't seem appreciative at all...its like him taking me out for that dinner 4 weeks ago is all that matters!!!!!!!!
2006-10-12 04:43:43 · 20 answers · asked by Tamara 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
If you allow men to take you for granted, they will do. You should always start with a man as you mean to go on. If you want respect you have to demand it. Men are plain speaking, they don't tend to bottle things that are annoying them up like women, so they assume since you are not complaining, that you are happy with the situation. Always be straight with a man when something is annoying you. Once he understands your feelings, he should then try to adjust his attitude. If he doesn't, he's just a user and a loser and you can do much much better
2006-10-12 05:33:13 · answer #1 · answered by pamperpooch39 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You may see it like that but how much did the dinner cost!
Pizza, chips a bottle of vodka etc what £40.
Taking 2 out for dinner anything from £80-160.
Maybe he is just broke at the moment, If it is bothering you step back and think about it ( it isnt a lot of money is it ) anyway just ask him to buy the shopping and you will cook next time.
x
2006-10-12 05:10:30 · answer #2 · answered by Fox Hunter 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If things are like this now, they are hardly likely to improve.
You cant change a person, you can try and modify them but in doing that you change who they are.
If he is not that way and it bothers you after a month. Dump him and move on.. whats the point, if you have to work at things after just 1 month.
Hope this helps, not sure its what you want to hear, but it could well be one of many things to come.
Good luck
2006-10-12 04:49:54 · answer #3 · answered by Lady Love 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're being used. Does he work - if he does, he's an a**hole. If he doesn't - he's a bum.
Been there, done that!
Check the waters and go round to his one day with just a fiver in your pocket, say you left your purse at your mums or a friends. If he doesn't step up and pay, or starts moaning and trying to make you go and get it, you've got a loser. Sorry.
If he does, then he's just a lazy man.
2006-10-12 04:56:28 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tamara, it sounds like your dating a real cheap man. It's one thing if he's low on funds, but even then I would do my best to contribute. I wouldn't date at all if I couldn't afford to treat my lady. Have you brought this up with him? If you have and it continues, dump his sorry a-s-s. I despise people who can afford to treat there friends and loved ones, but yet act like there broke. You look like your a hottie, you should have no problem finding a new man.
Remember, no one takes advantage of you without your own permission.
2006-10-12 05:09:28 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate to admit it but your BF is cheap... You'll be lucky if you get him to cough up cash for anything... It sounds like he fished you into something by taking you out to eat four weeks ago... I would find someone who appreciates you more and at least splits the expenses better... it doesn't have to be exactly 50/50, but at least somewhat balanced...
2006-10-12 05:04:14 · answer #6 · answered by deakjone 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
They never realise how much you do for them. I've been living with my other half for 4 yrs and I still buy most of it. I've now refused to get any treats for us until he realises he can't get them unless he spends money but it can be difficult for them if they are on a low wage. My fiance earn a couple of grand less than me.
2006-10-12 04:47:38 · answer #7 · answered by smudge 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would stop buying stuff all the time and see how he reacts, same as when girls do that to guys, some guys don't feel appreciated when girls make them pay for everything. If you are serious with him you should be taking turns or atleast splitting the bill sometimes. :)
2006-10-12 04:51:44 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should stop offering! And if he leaves you when you start saying no, just goes to show he was using you! Keep your money to your self, you deserve to be treated once in a while!
2006-10-12 04:48:19 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like it time to have a talk he needs to do half of the work we have moved on from the stone-age time.
2006-10-12 05:47:55 · answer #10 · answered by stud200_uk 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋