2006-10-12 04:13:21 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Your wife cheating is not neccesarily pertainent to answer if it is wrong or right for you to look - as you can see from other answerers many say that looking is normal and I agree that in todays society it is the status quo norm.
What is pertainent are your morals of wrong and right. Since you asked, I know that many use the Bible to judge what is wrong and right and according to the Bible, it is a sin for BOTH her cheating especially if she committed adultery and it is also considered sin for you lusting after another woman other than your wife to even be just looking at them whether or not you touch them. The lust in your heart/mind is also considered a sin. We are all human and we do all sin, if you want to say that her cheating is a "greater" sin than your sin of looking and lusting; consider that any sin is still sin.
I say (because the Bible is clear) that it is wrong for you to look at other women.
By the way, while the Bible says that God hates divorce, commiting adultery is one of the reasons in which it is Biblically acceptable to divorce (not that by todays standards it is followed) It is also clear that you should forgive your wife even though she was wrong to cheat whether or not you choose to stay with her. It is also considered wrong and a sin to fornicate (have premarital sex) and this in todays society is rather accepted by many teens. It doesn't make it right. It is still wrong because it is still a sin.
Hope my boldness has helped answer your question. I know that I have sinned and I know that I am forgiven.
2006-10-12 04:57:41 · answer #1 · answered by bold_artistic_forgiven 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your wife cheating is irrelevant to the question of whether or not it is wrong to "look" at other women. We all have a right to look. But are you asking if it's OK for you to cheat? No! Two wrongs do not make a right. Take the moral high ground, and be as good a husband as you wish your partner was a wife.
2006-10-12 04:17:09 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not wrong... But don't over do it. Just because she cheated, does not give you the option to do the same.... Two wrongs do not make a right!!! If you are accepting her cheating and still wish to stay with her, then you still have to keep that vow you made when the two of you walked down that isle... But if you are not accepting her cheating, give it space, another chance, or marriage counseling. People do make mistakes.
2006-10-12 04:45:43 · answer #3 · answered by Alex R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it is looking...well that never hurt anyone, it depends on your intention. If you are going to do something with these women, then Yes it is wrong !! Two wrongs do not make a right.
You either choose to forgive and move on, or decide that you cannot do that and go your separate ways. Then and only then is it right to have other encounters.
I hope you can work it out, but either way...be happy !!
2006-10-12 04:16:53 · answer #4 · answered by Wee Eck 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If the two of you are trying to work on the relationship then yes it is wrong.Remember two wrongs dont make a right!If you want this relationship to work then you and her need to be putting 100% in to it right now.If on the other hand your over it then look at all the women you want.
2006-10-12 04:33:43 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Looking is fine..touching is not. Two wrongs dont make a right. Maybe instead of getting revenge you should try to work out WHY she cheated. If you dont want it to work out between you then split up and you can both do whomever you want but dont play games...its childish.
2006-10-12 04:17:15 · answer #6 · answered by dragonrider707 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, it's still wrong...just as it was wrong when she did it. You may want to go seek counciling, or a lawyer.
You adding to the problem by cheating is not going to help anything.
2006-10-12 04:19:04 · answer #7 · answered by Joe 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first you need to decide if you are going to stick with the marriage or not..i would say its ok to look at other women if you know, and she knows that you are not going to stay married. if you decide to stay married then you need to work on your issues..but your cheating isnt going to accomplish anything.
2006-10-12 04:17:40 · answer #8 · answered by Frank 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to the same thing you could leave her or try to work it out two wrong don't make a right. Good luck
2006-10-12 04:40:18 · answer #9 · answered by caribbeangal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why not u ask her.ls that wrong for her to look at the men.
2006-10-12 04:40:48 · answer #10 · answered by gen2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋