I have been married 3 years, been with my husband for 6. He has completely changed on me in the last year. I can't talk to him I try and I constantly get my head bit off Just for stuff like asking for help around the house. I broke my foot 2 weeks ago, I had to beg him to take me for medical care. Then he left me on my own to get myself to my appointments of course it was my right foot the one I have to drive with. He has 2 children 11 and 9 and they are no help and we have a 2 year old together of course I do everything for her, she is the only reason I haven't just left. I want out, but I'm afraid it's going to get really ugly and I don't want to loose my little girl.
2006-10-12 03:38:32 · 22 answers · asked by Jennifer R 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Also, I've been keeping a journal of things since April. Also he has already stated he will not go to counseling.
2006-10-12 03:59:10 · update #1
Also the only reason he has the other two is He tricked his ex-wife into signing what he told her was temporary custody and it turned into full custody on her. Well i'm not that stupid I wouldn't sign anything until my lawyer would look at it.
2006-10-12 04:01:00 · update #2
Welcome to Yahoo7 Answers…
I noticed this is your only question so far !
Do you have any family members or close friends who you and at least your daughter can move in with?
You have mentioned that your husband won’t agree to counselling…
Perhaps there is someone who you both respect that could sit down with you both and try to help you sort things out !
You mentioned that he changed toward you over the past twelve months…
Do you know what caused that change, and if it can be rectified?
The thing is, that if you are in an ‘abusive’ relationship, you need to get out of it, not only for your safety, but for the safety of your children as well. If your husband isn’t prepared to seek ‘counselling’ which includes some sessions on ‘Anger Management’, then terminating the marriage may be your only safe option. If you are concerned about your safety, you can approach the police, and explain to them that you need to separate from your husband, and ask them to accompany you whilst you gather your belongings to leave him. Once you have made the initial separation, you can then focus on the divorce side of things. The police could perhaps also assist you to obtain Orders preventing your husband from approaching you after you have separated.
I don’t see any reason from what you have said as to why you would lose your daughter !
Anyway, I hope I have been of some help to you.
Please try the counselling/mediation idea to see if someone you both know can help sort things out.
Good luck !!!
2006-10-12 03:45:28 · answer #1 · answered by I_C_Y_U_R 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
your not going to lose your little girl because if he can't take you to seek medical attention when you have a broken foot....how the he**is he going to be a "fit father" in the eyes of the court?
second....you just need to really sit down and have a long talk with him about how you feel this marriage is turning out. And how it hurts you the way he treats you. Before you jump into a divorce try and work on it. Maybe suggest counseling. If you don't have the money Church's offer marriage counseling at NO cost.
i hope everything works out
2006-10-12 03:46:48 · answer #2 · answered by CMA 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do you have any clue what made him change in the last year.? Maybe he is having trouble at work, a girl on the side or drugs. Try counseling if he will not go get out, it will be better for the little one. You will need to document things like the broken foot and no help so that you get your daughter.
2006-10-12 03:42:55 · answer #3 · answered by Eyes of Green 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can't keep living like this. Confront him, tell him where you stand and that things need to change or your gone. Make sure you mean it. If things don't change, leave. If he loves you enough that will be a wake up call and maybe then he'll start to change. If he doesn't then you know it would've never changed and he is obviously not worth it. Maintain your self respect by not allowing anyone to treat you this way. Your daughter will start to pick up on it as well, and that's no good. You can't just stay together for her sake either. Dr. Phil says any kid would rather be from a broken home, than living in one. Think about it.
2006-10-12 03:45:27 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
As for myself i have never been married. However i have a lot of lady friends as to which some have gotten divorced. Most there husband was cheating as to what you said about a complete change in their ways and actions. The best advice i could give you would be if your unhappy see an attorney file for divorce. By the way the ladys got the children and child support
2006-10-12 03:53:36 · answer #5 · answered by Topper B 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I feel sorry for you, but I think the right thing to do is ask him to spare some time for you some day and discuss you issues with him. Ask him why he has changed so much and what is bothering him. Ask him if he is at all interested in you now. If he says there is nothing wrong with him then tell him what upsets you and what you expect from him as a husband. I think speaking to each other with a calm mind would be a right thing to do before you jump into seperation.
2006-10-12 03:45:19 · answer #6 · answered by Baby 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think in your situation; I would first make arrangements to stay with a close relative or friend, ask if it would be okay to leave your child with them overnight in case there happens to be yelling and fighting your child don't need to be exposed to,then if things do get ugly like you're thinking they will, you won't be stuck in another no way out situation! After making these arrangements; and knowing your child is out of harms way, you can be blunt and really let him know how you're feeling about the situation! If you're afraid of losing your child through all of this; you can call an attorney and get a free consultation, just ask him how you would go about this whole ordeal! Good luck!
2006-10-12 03:57:35 · answer #7 · answered by shelly_mo67 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have to be upfront and honest.
Explain to your husband that you've given your all and tried your best to communicate with him. Tell him that nothing seems to be working and that you want to separate unless he agrees to seek counseling.
If he doesn't agree, take your baby girl and get out because any man that won't even take his wife to medical care is worthless.
If he agrees, give him some time to go to counseling and for his behavior to progress and become more loving. Sometimes, counseling is necessary to change the lives of partners in a marriage.
2006-10-12 03:50:42 · answer #8 · answered by ♪Msz. Nena♫ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just tell them you have been thinking and after you and him have spent 3 long years together and all yall have done is grown apart. But, first start looking for a new place and make sure you have a stable job and you will surly win in court if you or him take it to that extrem!But, if you ask me i think he sound inconsiderate and only thinks about himself not wanting to take you to the medical care center to get your foot checked out. E-mail me back if it works out.---- tgw105@yahoo.com
2006-10-12 03:46:09 · answer #9 · answered by Jessica 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-16 02:51:47 · answer #10 · answered by goodgion 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋