he watches it when i'm sleeping right next to him on the internet and i kno wthis beacuse i just found the video he was watching.ok we are newlyweds and no i didn't know he did this prior to us getting married i do talk to him about it even have yelled and cried. we go two months sometimes without him touching me. i'm gorgeous too and ypung only 23 years old. he doesn't like watching porn with me i have already tried that. if he does it'll last for like 5 minutes because of it. i know this is horrible.
2006-10-12 03:35:29 · 31 answers · asked by sweetiepie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Tell him its the manky strange virtual ladies or you.
Ultimatuns can sort out most problems.
If he picks porn then you are better off without him.
When he realises there is a layer of glass between him and the "ladies" he will snap out of it and come crawling back to you.
2006-10-12 03:38:48 · answer #1 · answered by specs appeal 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
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2016-07-20 15:59:51 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, let me make something clear. Practically every guy will watch porn, regardless of his relationship. Girls like to shop, guys like to watch porn - it's a fact of life. It shouldn't be a showstopper when getting married, otherwise there'd be no marriage ever.
If and how this porn is affecting your sexlife and overall relationship is the real question here.
You will have to sit him down (with no tv on) and be frank with him and ask him to be up front as well.
Let him know that you are not going to get angry with him. Also let him know that you are not looking to start an argument.
Ask him why he is not sexually attracted to you. He could have some mental issue (eg. you remind him of his mum/sister/etc).
What sort of porn is he watching? Is is straight hetero stuff or extra kinky weird stuff? If he is watching far out stuff, he might need extra work to get him excited.
Last but not least, if you find any M/M stuff, he could be bisexual or gay.
Don't let him leave the discussion until he gives you an answer that fits the symptoms - not just a throw-away excuse.
Good luck.
2006-10-12 03:48:13 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure what this all really means. There are some that suggest a man that watches to much porn is afraid of being intimate. I don't really know for sure. I do think that if you have only been married a short time and he goes for 2 months without touching that you have some very big issues going on there. Perhaps a professional is needed.
2006-10-12 03:40:38 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Geez. I'm sorry. He might be embarrassed to watch porn with you, but then he shouldn't be watching it with you in bed next to him if that's the case.
Sit down with him, be serious, try not to cry and tell him very clearly that you are NOT ok with this. He needs to make a compromise with you. If he does not or thinks it's ridiculous because "it's just porn". Tell him that that is how you feel, and it is a worthy opinion.
He's lost intimacy with you. That is not okay. He will probably not respond well to this. I think you'll have to go into some counseling with him, this is a serious issue and do not let your feelings go on the back burner. Try to help him, if he doesn't want help then you might start making other plans.
Best of luck.
2006-10-12 03:45:59 · answer #5 · answered by Lola 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not horrible... Its is natural for men to watch porn. You just somehow have to find a comfortable way to do it with him. How old is he?? Is there something lacking in your relationship? months?? There is something going on outside of the porn I would say... You two need to sit down and have a heart to heart conversation and lay it all out on the table or you will be going no where but to divorce court. Im sure it hurt's your feeling's and you feel as if the computer is better than you. There is someone out there that would not trade you for some porn!! Good Luck!!
2006-10-12 03:39:37 · answer #6 · answered by Niecy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmmm......something is rotten in Denmark. Although most males have no qualms about eyeballing porn, it's difficult to beleive that being a newlywed to a 23 year old female who attests to be "gorgeous" and has willingly even watched this stuff with him is left out in the cold.
Strange indeed. I'm afraid I haven't any solution at this juncture. Persons who may say "divorce him" don't know the aggravation and mechanics of divorce. It isn't as easy as walking out the door. I do find it troubling that he sits in bed right next to you and does this. That in itself is rather strange. I don't know what else to say and quite frankly...any advice I could give would not be acceptable to print here.
2006-10-12 03:54:03 · answer #7 · answered by Quasimodo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have read some of the answers you have received and I am saddened by what our society has excepted as normal.I now can understand why they vote for who they vote for and why so many children are so messed up and the Divorce rate is so high.Your husband is in need of some help he knows what he is doing is wrong,destructive and will end in a divorce.He knows this because when you try to participate with him he can only do it for a little while and then stop because the guilt and shame is to much.I'm very sad for you and your future with him.Is his behavior something you want to put up with for the rest of your life?do you want him to teach your future sons or daughters that then is "normal"? There is Sex and the perversion of it and there is "The act of marriage" that pulls and man and a woman closer.( The act of marriage, by Tim and Connie La Hay) I don't have time today to give you more but if you want more of my advice bingecom@yahoo.com My heart goes out to you.
2006-10-12 04:48:47 · answer #8 · answered by archer 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
a man watching porn is no big deal really unless it causes issues. It sounds like it is though.
if he is this inconsiderate of your feelings on this subject... I would recommend counceling... if he has no desire to help you feel better about his "hobby" then maybe you should stat considering other options. As hard as that is to hear... imagine feeling the way you do now 10 years from now... ad ask yourself if you are strong enough to withstand this? The answer you give yourself is the one you need to run with.
JMO
2006-10-12 03:42:18 · answer #9 · answered by cookie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gosh....I responded to your first question. Maybe your husband "just likes to watch". Some guys actually prefer to just watch sex on tapes and satisfy themselves. It takes alot less time, there is no emotional connection and they don't have to talk to the tape. I think he has a fetish. Guys do not like to talk about things.....at all. While you are talking......he is probably not hearing a word you say. He is probably just rewinding last nights movie in his mind. Tell him he needs to get some help, open up to you or you are going to satisfy your needs some other way. Buy yourself a vibrator and pull it out right in front of him. Please yourself and go to sleep.
2006-10-12 03:43:02 · answer #10 · answered by emotional blonde 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋