how do i get a 2 yr old to stop been violent?

Question

my 2 yr old son insists on hitting and kicking everyone it wasnt that much off a problem untill i had another baby help!!!!!

Answer 1

Use some form of behavior modification--you need to reward (quickly) good behavior, be clear of what he cannot do and punish it by removing something positive from his possession like a favorite toy, and speak to him at length at his age level, about what you expect and why. Withholding your love when he is bad is better than using violence to stop violence. Never hit and tell him not to hit--that's confusing.

Answer 2

I don't know where you are, but there have been several TV shows over here helping this situation. The child is probably jealous or attention seeking, so I would advise you to either show him that he does not get attention that way by ignoring it, or if seriouse pull him away and ignore it. do not keep going on about it to him it is just a form of attention.

The other option would be to think of a punishment that you can stick to if he does it, like two warnings and if it gets to the second he gets 5 minutes on the 'naughty step' or the 'naughty corner' or give him a light slap on the legs or bottom, but make sure he knows your serious.

Answer 3

You have to mean what u say, first off. Then you need time out or a spanky to help you out, Its not bad to spank once in a while, You need to show a 2 year old whos the boss, Kids know more than you think, And they also know how far they can take you b/4 you crack, But you dont have to crack to spank them or give them time out, the first time they do it: Time out , It shows them that that is not acceptable.
My mom is a child care brovider and she dont spank the kids b/c their not hers but she does give them time out around 5 to 7 minutes for a 2 year old, and as the age goes up the minutes go up by 2 or 3 (it works). Dont be too linient either. You can be a loving mother with character and firmness. Youll like it in the long run.

Answer 4

You got to let him know that you are the mother and you are in charge of making this behavior stop. He is only two and that is when all this begins. I have a 2 year old son and he does the same thing. Sometimes popping him makes him stop but then he constanly still does it. You just have to teach him what is acceptable and what isn't. I think they will grow out of this behavior if we continue to discipline them and letting them know we not going to accept this. But remember he is only 2 so don't beat him.

Answer 5

Maybe Dad needs to step in...sounds like he has been the ruler of the roost, now here comes new baby....gotta nip it in the butt so he doesn't really Hurt the new baby....temper tantrums etc...sorry folks, but a light spanking would help....cause that time out stuff with a 2yr old, is like talking to the wall...2 yr olds have no concept of time, so 5 min. in time out will seem like an eternity, and at 2 he is Not going to understand it anyway....light spanking, I mean a couple of swats on the behind, not Hitting....let him cry, in his room...."you can't kick or hit people"....period...

Answer 6

funny, my son is doing the same thing at daycare, he's also 2 yrs old. He would get up from the table, walk over to a classmate and hit them! No reason, maybe to see there reaction, i don't know. we don't condone hitting at home at all, we don't even play like that. all you can do is keep correcting the child, let them know it's not right and you don't like it. when i drop him off at day care i tell him "we don't hit our friends, you have to play nice with your friends" he seems to be getting better, slowly. he also has a 4 month old sister. so i know exactly what your going through. I'm not an expert, keep working at it, it'll get better.

Answer 7

Ah. He envies the attention that is showered on the new kid and he is pissed. Give him special attention. Give him special tasks that help you and the baby. When he gets out of control, hold him until he settles down. Don't punish him. Just give him time to adjust. YOu had nine months to adjust. He hasn't had the same amount of time. He is too young to prepare like you did.

Answer 8

My daughter is actual behaved approximately 80 5 % of the time... She went for the period of the comparable area approximately 2 a million/2-3 years old.. shes 4 now. If she didnt like what I advised her she wouldnt pay attention and hit me. despite you do dont take it very own... she in basic terms cant clarify how she is feeling at that 2d and thats a organic reaction for frustration by way of fact she is known with she gets a reaction from you. After she hit me i could ask her why she hit and then sit down her in a "thinking" area of her room and sat on her mattress. i did not consult together with her till she calmed down. If she have been given up, identity positioned her precise back in the area... (in case you get a small lovable rug it works... believe me) after she calmed donw i could tell her I comprehend you have been pissed off, yet hitting me won't help me comprehend why. Then the two she could tell me to be quiet or prefer to speak approximately why she became so mad at me that she hit me... infants are gaining awareness of alot of thoughts and could attempt to "try" how and what they are able to do in basic terms wait and spot and don't take it very own. Its our interest as mothers and dads to assist them deal and react to emotions and to recgonize them besides. stable success! playstation protecting her hands... telling her shes "naughty" for not expertise what do with anger and frustration will in basic terms carry approximately extra undesirable habit... believe me! =) .... set a advantages equipment up for her stable habit and concentration on that... hand her a paintbrush whilst shes out of the thinking area and allow her paint her reminiscence of the habit.. in basic terms some recommendations.

Answer 9

Be firm, do not smack him, maybe find a spot where you can place him for two mins, he is jealous of the baby which is quite normal, remember to love him and involve him with the baby.

Answer 10

Call super-nanny she will come to the rescue! It's obvious that he is jealous of the new baby as he is no longer the centre of attention just ashore him that you still love him, discipline is also needed.