my ex is 21 i am 26 we have a 2 year old son together. he cheated on me and left us for her. she is now being cheated on. do u think its because he is immature or is this just him? is it possible for him to eventually change and want to settle down?
2006-10-12 03:25:53 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
It is possible for him to change, but only if he is willing to. My current hubby is 23 now, but when he was 21, he left me and our children for my best friend. I got my **** together and started moving on with my life. 4 months later, he was calling me, wanting me back. He wanted to work things out and wanted his family back. I told him it would take ALOT for him to prove that it wouldnt happen again. So he did. We have now been together for 5 years, and are happier then ever. He hasnt cheated a day since, and he proves himself everyday that he doesnt. Move on with your life, or attempt to. Dont appear to be to hurt by it if you can help it. He will be more appealed to the new you, who is together with or without him, and eventually if he really wants his family, he will come back. If he doesnt, at least you will have your **** together. Good luck.
2006-10-12 03:33:48 · answer #1 · answered by countrygirl66032 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just realize it is not you, he is the problem, it seems like to me he just want to explore at this point, he is young and right now settling down may not be his choice. You see he has cheated on you and know he is cheating on his current girlfriend. If I was you, I wouldn't worry trying to get him back because he may do it to you again and this is something no woman should go through meaning that you don't deserve a cheater. Take care of your son and just let him see his son and take care of him but far as being with you again, I wouldn't make that choice. Move on to something better, you deserve it .
2006-10-12 10:32:25 · answer #2 · answered by BabyGirl 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He is immature and a cheat--both--and there is no excuse for him. He trivializes relationships and the feelings of others and may even possibly hate women (you know, a misogynist). You're lucky he's now someone else's problem. By the time he grows up, you son will graduate college.
2006-10-12 10:31:55 · answer #3 · answered by heyrobo 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't think it's his age necessarily, I know 21-year-olds who would never behave that way. He's definitely immature though. He might change one day but then I know 40-year-olds who still act like that, so I wouldn't count on it. As long as he is providing support for your daughter, don't worry about him, and move on with your life.
2006-10-12 10:49:55 · answer #4 · answered by katy_bird 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is 21!! That explains it all... He had to get out there and sew his oats and have his fun before he will ever settle down. He has to grow up. Eventually after this game of life that he is playing is over he will... I sure hope he is taking care of his daughter in the process of being a cheater..... Good Luck to you and your daughter..
2006-10-12 10:28:41 · answer #5 · answered by Niecy 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Unless he gets therapy, probably not. I feel that people that cheat have a very low self esteem and they are looking for the feeling of being wanted by others. Cheaters feel like the more people that want to have sex with them the better because it boosts their low esteem. I wouldn't wait on him girl. Be sad, cry, and move on to someone that is confident and self assured.
2006-10-12 10:30:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
i think thats just the type of man he is if he wanted to settle down then he would but apperantly thats not the piont he just looking for a good time and as long as that's what he looking for then he's always going to cheat.me don't stop until they are ready and thats all there is to some dont stop until they are in their 60's.itb just depends on the man
2006-10-12 10:32:22 · answer #7 · answered by laqueeta l 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes, he sounds like a jerk. One day he'll grow up, you're better off moving on with your life. You deserve better. Age sometimes makes a differece but it's all more to do with maturity, respect and communication.
2006-10-12 10:31:02 · answer #8 · answered by ? 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
No.
Once a cheat always a cheat.
2006-10-12 10:28:37 · answer #9 · answered by AppleSoda 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
he is just too young and immature
2006-10-12 10:41:10 · answer #10 · answered by titties 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋