Why is it that when men cheat.?

Question

When men cheat we are thought of as no good a$$holes. When women cheat men did something in the relationship to make them do it. Just courious on how this works.

Answer 1

Men and women who cheat are being disrespectful of their mate and breaking vows. They are self-centered people who only care about their instant needs and don't work to keep a happy relationship. They don't have morals or consideration for their spouses. In this day and age, cheating can lead to picking up an STD or two and that can spread to the spouse....sometimes for life! It's unfair, and it's selfish! The difference between humans and animals is that humans have the capacity to understand how much an affair would hurt their significant other or spouse. If they go ahead and cheat anyway, that shows their lack of caring.

Answer 2

We have all been raised by women. We look at our mothers, unless they are really no good, as though they can do no wrong.

So when we are in a relationship and the woman has an affair somehow we instinctively believe he must have done something because after all woman just would not do that without good reason.

Of course that could not be farther from the truth. There is no difference between the sexes as to what causes them to cheat.
How we as a society look at it is the only difference.

Men cheat because they have lost that feeling they had before marriage. Woman cheat because they have lost that feeling they had before marriage. It is the same but we look at it differently.
Men need sex. Preferably with the one they love but not required.
Women need to feel they are valued, they are the most important thing in this man's life. That goes away, reality or not, she will find it somewhere.

Answer 3

I think that this is not always true, but that it is the assumption because men will cheat for no reason, simply for physical satisfaction. While women, usually are more emotionally involved, and it is usually something that her signifigant other does/how he treats her that pushes her to cheat. Also, typically men are the ones who cheat most of the time, and while this is changing lately, past years have shown that women are always less likely to be the cheater so when a woman would cheat, it was assumed she must have had good reason. It's a bad rap, I'm not saying it's right, just the way it is.

Answer 4

I'm sorry that I can't answer your question. I have no idea why men cheat. I'm a woman and I probably cheated on my man more than most guys cheat on their women. My man was never the cause of my cheating. I was dissatisfied with the relationship. I was too much of chicken to tell him why. I was afraid that he would judge me because he had judged me so much on so many other irrelevant things. Denying my sexuality caused to me to develop negative sexual habits- the cheating. While I denied my sexuality because of man, how I dealt with it was my fault and I took full responsibility.

You're right. When some women cheat, they use the man in her life as the reason for her cheating. The funny thing is, men accept this and beat themselves up as if they actually did something wrong. Your woman says you're not paying enough attention to her, you're not giving her sex right, you don't spend enough on her, you're too this... too that, and so on. She gives you one of these reasons for her cheating, even goes so far as you get support from other women who feel the same way about their man or men in general, and you (the guy) end up saying to yourself that maybe you failed her somehow. But if any of those reasons were actual reasons to cheat, the idea of relationship would be a joke because most men do complain about what they're not getting from their women and vice versa- yet most men and most women don't cheat, they just get disgruntled until the relationship is a pain in the a$$.

A lot of men cheat to just because they want to be sexually satisified whereas a lot of women cheat to be emotionally satisfied. The woman who cheats like a man will accept responsibility for her actions and not place blame outside of herself- somewhere it doesn't belong.

Answer 5

I think that you are a bit off there, cause in all actual reality it is wrong for anyone to cheat and in most cases the women that get cheated on get to hear, well honey thats what men do, If you aren't giving it to him then someone else will, if you don't find him attractive someone else out there will. Give him a few years he'll grow up.

Men do it for no reason other than to see if they can, if a woman does it there are a few reasons for it, they are either getting back at him for doing it to her, or the sex life at home is just not cutting it, or you are not stimulating her emotionally, and the other gentleman has.

Either way it is wrong, can you just seperate and do your thing, I think men won't because they hate the thought of someone else banging their privately owned P****.

Answer 6

Buddy this is all in the eye of the beholder.

Certainly both scenarios do apply. I maintain that your woman situation applies to me.

For example: If I cheat I only did so because the girl I'm with isn't satisfying me sexually or is getting boring in the bedroom. I have tried talking to her about it, but it is not in her personality to be wild. This has driven me to cheat on a few occaisons.

Also, because I am a man...I tend to think if a woman cheats the blame should lie squarely on their shoulders. Women have lesser sex drives. They seem to be able to control themselves easier. They know if they start talking to a guy, that guy is interested in one thing only. All they need to do is walk away.

Again, my perceptions only. For sure, some men(self included) are no good a$$holes. And for sure some women cheat because their guy caused them to want to.

Summary: Women have to want to cheat. Men, swear to god, just fall into the role naturally. Call me a dick, but its true.

Answer 7

There are numerous double standards applied to men and women. For example, young men who sleep around are "stud muffins". Young women who sleep around are "shameless tramp hussies". Get used to inequality.

The one you mention is a product of too many LifeTime for Women movies that portray female infidelity as a deep and complex emotional imbalance that when resolved erases all ill effects of the affair, and male infidelity as some b*stard pig man wanting to bang his secretary and ruining 3 lives as a result. It's no more fair or right than any other double standard. Ya gotta drop it and move on.

Answer 8

So he is having a bit on the side, why make such an issue out of it. Do not be so pushy or you may find yourself alone. Start spicing it up More It is the lack of sexual fulfillment that leads us astray..when was the last time you gave prolonged Oral Anal and outdoor stuff, mix it up a little, maybe some light BDSM...if you don't...someone will do it for you..and the cycle begins again xxxxx

Answer 9

In their unconscious the men are considering any woman as a potential mean for spreading their genes ,when they found another available they are trying ta spread their genes through her and like excuse they name their steady partner of as no good a$$holes ; when women cheat men became afraid of loosing a steady potential gene spreader and for that they are taking attitude for regain her again.

Answer 10

Good point....My ex-wife cheated on me...Thats why she's my Ex now..I don't give a flaming rats a**hole...There is NO excuse for it....Sometimes people need to justify thier actions because they have no guts to face thier own shortcomings...In other words they need to put the blame on someone else ( he made me do it)..I am looking forward to the day when a couple gets married and devote thier lives to each other.When that happens thou,I'll be dead along time...