SO, ME AND MY HUSBAND HAVE OUR DIFFERENCES AND ARGUMENTS. BUT WHAT IF EVERYTIME AN ARGUMENT OCCURS HIS FEELINGS FOR YOU ARE NO LONGER THE SAME. HE TELLS YOUR MUTUAL FRIENDS THAT I CAN'T STAND HER, AND SHE ALWAYS HAS SOMETHING TO SAY AND EVEN SAYS LETS DIVORCE OR HE DOESN'T WANT TO STAY IN THE RELATIONSHIP. BUT THEN, YOU AND HIM TALK IT OUT AND THEN HE SAYS, YOIU KNOW I'M NOT GOING NO WHERE, ITS JUST THAT I HATE THAT WE ALWAYS GET INTO THE SAME ARGUMENTS. OUR MUTUAL FRIENDS HEAR MY SIDE OF THE STORY AND SAY, (THE WIFE) HE DOESN'T WANT TO BE THERE. HOW WOULD YOU HANDLE THAT OR WHO WOULD YOU BELIEVE?
2006-10-12 02:48:26 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Your mutual friends have no reason to lie about the things he tells them. I believe he is telling them those things. Whats worse is what he says to you. "You know I'm not going anywhere" ???? Boy, he sure does think a lot of himself. I think what he says about you when your not around is big. I would want a partner who has my back around others not one that stabs it. What kind of a partner is he anyway ? He sounds full of himself. I think you need to listen to what your friends are saying.
2006-10-12 03:00:09 · answer #1 · answered by JustMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay... Well sometimes when people get mad they just say things they dont mean.. Because they want to lash out at you and hurt you. Just to get a reaction from you. Which sucks. But I mean does he love you? Does he show you that he loves you? Tell him that you dont wanna let the arguments get out of hand. And just talk about it with out getting mad. If that does work... Then maybe he doesnt want to be there. How long have you been married? He could be thinking of someone else. Or could start cheating on you? DONT START THINKING HE IS... Im just saying... This could lead to that. You need to find the problem and solve it. I hope I could help you some darlin...
2006-10-12 09:57:19 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would listen to mutual friend, because we tend to discuss our feelings to them better than the other person. We try to save feelings from being hurt. I am in the same state as you and I would honestly love to leave but I don't want to hurt his feelings. So I always say I am not going any where.
2006-10-12 09:55:27 · answer #3 · answered by Lady Dee 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think if he didn't want to be with you honey, you'd know it.
People say things they don't mean when they are mad. I love my man to death but we have gotten into some heated arguments and I told him I hated him, I really felt bad for saying it later but thats what arguments tend to do, they tend to make us say things we don't mean. Guys talk to there friends and when they are upset they are like us and tell them man she's a b**** and I hate her, but most of us do the same things with our girlfriends. Even when we started it all we like to pretend we don't know why they are being like this.
So I say trust your gut and if you feel like he doesn't want to be with you then you would know better than anyone.
2006-10-12 09:58:39 · answer #4 · answered by Jamie M 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Quit telling your friends your personal business. When you get others involved you are adding fuel to the fire. Work it out with only your husband or trained therapist.
2006-10-12 09:52:47 · answer #5 · answered by kitkat 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
DID YOUR FRIENDS SAY I DO WITH YOU WHEN YOU GOT MARRIED??? DO THEY SLEEP WITH YOU AND YOUR HUSBAND AT NIGHT? DO THEY HELP YOU AND YOUR HUSBAND PAY YOUR BILLS???STOP INVOLVING OUTSIDE PEOPLE IN YOUR MARRIAGE.IT DOESN'T MATTER HOW CLOSE YOU BOTH ARE TO THEM. THIS IS THE BEST WAY FOR YOU TO DEAL WITH THIS TYPE OF SITUATION. GETTING OPINIONS FROM PEOPLE THAT DON'T KNOW YOU OR YOUR HUSBAND. WHO'S TO SAY YOUR FRIENDS AREN'T TRYING TO BREAK YOU AND YOUR HUSBAND UP.TALK TO YOUR HUSBAND. YOUR HUSBANDS OPINION, FEELINGS, THOUGHTS SO ON AND SO FORTH SHOULD COME FIRST.WORK IT OUT WITH YOUR HUSBAND
2006-10-12 13:57:27 · answer #6 · answered by sex-c-one 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
We all say things we may not really mean when we're annoyed.
Maybe he's just telling them stuff & they're interepting it the wrong way. Listen to your heart.
2006-10-12 10:04:34 · answer #7 · answered by wolfgang n 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No matter what I tell there isn't anybody to tell you what to do. Your looking for nothing because the answer lays in you.
2006-10-12 09:51:17 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
When he is trying to talk to you or argue, He feels you don't take him serious enough, that's why he throws divorce in your face.
2006-10-12 09:51:07 · answer #9 · answered by marnold7714 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Get new friends and try talking to each other. You ask for trouble when you air your dirty linen outside.
2006-10-12 09:50:28 · answer #10 · answered by blueblossom33 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋