If I feel some sort of attraction to the opposite sex, does that make me bi-curious or bisexual. They (women) do not satisfy me, but for some reason I do what I do, have sex with them.
I aslo feel very alone. I wish I did not.
What is your feelings on the subject?
2006-10-12 02:48:01 · 27 answers · asked by ? 5 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
God says, ignore the first answer and any other's like. They are obviously posted by complete moron's who haven't got a clue or a sex life for that matter. Firstly you need more gay friends you dont have enough so there's very few people around you to relate too, that's part of the reason why you have sex with women, because at least then you can talk to your straight friends about it. There's nothing wrong in doing it if that's what you want to do, but please remember that you are playing with another persons feelings and if a woman becomes attracted to you that you may be misleading her. God says, don't let others try and mould you, be what YOU want to be first ...... oh and trust me on this one, you're never alone!
2006-10-12 03:02:43 · answer #1 · answered by God 4 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Experiment, but be safe about it. The worst thing you can do in life is settle because others tell you this is how things should be. This IS your life so find what makes you happy and content.(As long as you don't hurt others in your journey). You feelings of aloneness stem from the fact that you don't have a soul mate who can understand how you are feeling without speaking. A person who with but a gentle touch can make your whole world shine! It may take years for you to find this person or they may be just right around the corner, please don't give up or give in because YOU are special in your own way and somewhere out there is the person who can give you peace and joy. Keep searching and use your heart (even if it gets stepped on!) because in the end only YOUR heart knows whats best for YOU.
2006-10-12 09:59:06 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would suggest a little experimentation. I'm not saying go out and have sex with another man immediately, but maybe pursue this attraction a bit. You may find that you feel less lonely with men, or maybe you might find that you prefer women all along. Either way, it's better to find out with certainty rather than go through life indecisive and unsatisfied.
Ignore the first commentor. There is no guarantee that people always have more satisfying relationships with the opposite sex only and it definitely isn't immoral or wrong to feel this way. Happiness is about what you want.
2006-10-12 09:55:30 · answer #3 · answered by Glory Box♥ 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First you are not alone. Whatever your sexual orientation, many millions of people share it. You probably know some people that have the same orientation, although they may not make it public.
The easiest measure of sexual orientation is to consider your masturbation fantasies - we all have them! If you only or mainly fantasize about sex with men, you are most likely gay. If you only or mainly fantasize about sex with women, you are most likely straight.
If you think about sex acts (not just a three way activity) with both men and women, then you are likely to be bi.
In our general lives, its perfectly natural to view both men and women as beautiful/handsome/attractive; that doesn't mean that your orientation is to have sex with them.
Whatever your orientation, it is generally agreed that by your teens it is fixed, and cannot be changed. Don't listen to people who say it is a choice - they didn't make a choice to be straight - it was never in their nature to be gay, so why would they? And if you turn out to be gay or bi, you won't be making a choice either - it's just what nature has given you.
Relax and enjoy your life; you will discover the pleasure of committed relationships with someone one day, and find that it is SO much more than just what you do in bed together. Don't live in shame or self-hate; whatever your orientation, you are your own special, valuable self, and you are not alone.
2006-10-12 12:08:09 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would not go branding yourself anything at this stage. I would have some fun with boths sex's if that what you like. When you find the right person weather it be male or female you will feel a certain spark inside. If this spark is real you will love only this person and not think of the opposite or same sex whatever the case maybe.
At present, as you have not said how old you are i think you may just be curious.
Go out have a blast and a good time doing it!
2006-10-12 09:52:41 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 6⤊ 0⤋
The real issue to address is rather or not the attraction is sexual in nature. Many gay men are attractive to women beyond the sexual domain. The act of a sexual relationship, has to be inclusive of many other factors such as: friendship, loyalty, trust, love, adoration, and emotional bonding. If you only have the sexual attractions without the mentioned above, you might be bisexual or just not secured in your homosexuality.
2006-10-12 11:22:51 · answer #6 · answered by Swordfish 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go with your gut feelings, they will rarely steer you wrong. Who says that you can't test the waters with men and women. I can recognize beauty in women although I have never really had sexual feelings about them. Give yourself a few years to really understand yourself, then you will be able to find the right person for you. Otherwise you will end up a self-hating queen who hangs around the gay chat rooms all day like ihatehippies.
Peace
2006-10-12 09:56:50 · answer #7 · answered by jrayhp 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you are attracted to another person and the feeling is mutual, give it a shot. You in no way have to label yourself one or the other. You owe it to yourself to give it a shot and see where it goes. Maybee it is or is not you. i would suggest keeping it VERY discrete untill you have a better idea of what does it for you. I finally decided I didnt want to wake up one day with 3 kids and a wife that I wasnt in to and either lock myself there unhappy for the rest of my life or end up lieving a broken home behind me. No matter how hard I tried to be straight... It wasn't doing it for me.
2006-10-12 12:39:23 · answer #8 · answered by David B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think if your attracted to men, you are bi sexual or bi curious. If your not enjoying sex with women, don't have sex with them. I would personally be upset if the person I was having sex was not into me. Bottom line, if your not into sex with women, it will show in your performance and ultimately in your relationship with her. Why bother? Explore, you only live once. If you don't like it, you don't have to do it again.
2006-10-12 12:13:55 · answer #9 · answered by Love_cat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont get so down on yourself .. maybe youre bi curious.. maybe youre just doing it because you feel like you need to be fixed or something . there is nothing wrong with being gay , and there is nothing wrong with being bisexual.. just be true to yourself and be who you really are and things will work out for you in the long run.. everyone goes through phases in life that you need to find yourself.. maybe thats what youre going through now .. I think you may be isolating yourself on purpose maybe to punish yourself ..i dont know for sure but maybe you need to find someone that you can talk openly with . you sound like you may be depressed a little bit .
2006-10-13 11:04:07 · answer #10 · answered by imtokin_420 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋