I have been with my boyfriend since we were 17
How on earth do I shut them up, without seeming rude?
When I was away at college, and we had a long distance relationship, they used to tell me that he must be cheating on me behind my back, because he has loads of girls after him.
2006-10-12 02:38:39 · 24 answers · asked by jana 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
They're jealous, you can't make them stop, maybe some new friends would be better, if they can't live with it and be happy for you they can't be real real friends can they...
2006-10-12 02:45:07 · answer #1 · answered by Fu Manchu 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetheart, forget about your friends think about the relationship between you and your boyfriend. There is nothing wrong with a long standing relationship. If it has lasted that long evidently there must be a strong connection between the two of you. Another thing, you have to be very careful when you find friends that tend to stay in your business concerning your boyfriend because from experiences I've been through, they only want your boyfriend. If they really loved you they would want to see you happy. Be very careful of those type friends because theres more that meets the eye. Now on the other hand, I would suggest you all consider marriage rather than just shacking together. Living together and sleeping together without being married is not pleasing to God. I hope this advice will be of help to you. Hang on to your boyfriend. I met my boyfriend in high school and now we have been happily married for 21 years.
2006-10-12 10:59:41 · answer #2 · answered by Wendy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them point blank he is your boyfriend and you are happy with your relationship. If they can not be happy for you then you would appreciate them keeping there opinions to themselves. What kind of friends tell you he must be cheating, offer no proof and expect you to breakup with him? I think you are very lucky to have found someone so special at a young age and your friends, could they be a little jealous of your good fortune? It is time to ask why they don't want you with him. It might be as simple as they want to spend more time with you or could one of them like him and be causing the others to try to get you to break up? In the end you should do what you think is best for you. I would also take a hard look at my "friends". Good luck
2006-10-12 09:47:53 · answer #3 · answered by anntrek 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Youve been together so long and not split up previously so therefore its a natural progress to move in together. Try it you can always move back home. If you do a trial you know what hes really like. Like the saying 'you dont know what theyre like till youve lived with them'.
As for your friends just say its your life, your mistakes(if it will be one), that its your decision that they should support it if they are true mates.
As for being so serious with him, youve been with him for 7 years he may be your first serious boyfriend so just be careful.
You cant help who you fall in love with.
Also if he has been cheating in the past it cant be guaranteed that its true, you need to here it from the horses mouth, but put it to him gently he may take offend it to, ask him to have a serious talk with you.
Your friends could be jealous that you have a stable relationship at a young age but theres nothing wrong with it, you have to settle down sooner or later unless you want to be a spinster and live with loads of cats. Its better to do it with someone you really love, you may regret it if you do or dont do it.
goodluck with your decision!
2006-10-12 13:16:22 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your friends are both jealous and insecure. They are jealous that you have been able to find the type of relationship that they wish they were in. They are insecure because they feel this relationship will in some way put them second in your life. Most true friends will be genuinely happy for you and understand that your relationship is on a totally different level from the friendship you have with them. It's not fair for you to be in a position to have to chose. Basically explain to them that they can either be happy and supportive or they can just move on. I hope this helps....good luck!!
2006-10-12 12:10:14 · answer #5 · answered by mzbrwnskin 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've said it before and I'll say it again....Jealous much? Either you friends have hopeless lovelives or they are shallow empty people who think that cheap thrills are the same as a quality relationship. If it works for you, good luck and I wish you well. You are luck to have met someone you feel so strongly about and are obviously so comfortable with. Let them b*tch all they want. Just remind them when they get hooked up you'll phone them all that time and remind them how "Pathetic" they are being and see how they like it. Good luck to you both.
2006-10-12 09:43:30 · answer #6 · answered by stevensontj 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them look this is the decision that I have made for myself and being my friends I'd like a little support from you. If you guys end up being right I will accept everyones I told you so's, but for now I'd just like a little support.
If they are real friends then they will tell you what you think then leave it alone and just stand by you and if the bottom drops out they should be there for you with a shoulder to cry on.
2006-10-12 09:46:46 · answer #7 · answered by Jamie M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They are so jealous of you and your boyfriend, maybe he did have loads of girls chasing after him maybe he is a good looking bloke? Just cut them out of your life or tell them to stop being so jealous, your still their friend whether you are moving in with your boyfriend or not and if they were true friends they would be happy and excited for you.
2006-10-12 11:17:29 · answer #8 · answered by caroline b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't listern to them they don't sound like friend at all it seems like they are jelous, I think it's great how you have been together for so long not many people do well done. Tell them that you don't like the way they talk about about your partner and your relationship. If they don't listern to that then tell them calmly you have put up with it for so long and you can't cope with it anymore and that you really like them as friends but the way they are acting isnt friendly at all and to stay friends with you they will have to keep their opinion to themselves
2006-10-12 10:59:52 · answer #9 · answered by clairefleck 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why should you not be rude to them when they are being rude to you and your partner?
What does it matter how long you have been together or how long you have known him/her for?
Tell them to grow up and stop being jealous.
If they didn't have a problem with it then you wouldn't be getting so much stick.
Ask them what their problem with it all is and don't stop till you get an answer. Good luck.
2006-10-12 09:43:32 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had this problem with my hubby!! If you love him and he loves you sod everyone else!! they'll see that you're meant to be, we've been married for six years now, still have our ups and downs, but we love each other, and wouldn't be without each other! Yet everyone at the beginning said it wouldn't last! We have 3 wonderful children and most of my friend are still single!!
2006-10-12 09:46:04 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋