What does she mean?
Look, there is this girl whom I have been very kind to. However, she seems to be...you know, teasing me sometimes and I know from her tone that it is her joke. She can say bad thing about me jokingly. However, sometimes she also praises me. Why is that so?
2006-10-12 02:21:46 · 14 answers · asked by unquenchablethirst 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
She is smarter than you think. She likes you, but she also knows that guys don't respond so well to "feelings talk". She knows that guys bond with each other, through competition, joking, insulting (in fun), and bragging. She knows that women bond with each other by sharing feelings, supporting and suggestions. She is trying to express her affection on YOUR level, dude! Show some appreciation to her. Give her compliments and make positive observations. Not just on her looks, but on her character. Tell her you like her sense of humor, her generosity of spirit, and how she seems to "get you". Make her feel special. Make her day. Find ways to spend time with her and do things that engage both of you. Go to a coffee shop and make up stories about the other people there. Play tennis or rackettball. Her time, attention, and admiration is what she is willing to give you (on your level), so be willing to gove her appreciation, time, and affection (on her level). Have fun!
2006-10-12 04:52:10 · answer #1 · answered by pandora the cat 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like she likes you & thinks you're a cool guy...just be cautious about getting your heart too involved just yet. Even if she does like you, it could be that she just means it in a friendship sort of way. That kind of behavior is often a sign of affection. Some of my guy friends & I will tease eachother jokingly this way at times...as well as praise eachother other times...we care about eachother a lot, but not in a romantic or sexual way.
There is also a possibility that she's interested in dating you & this is her way of getting your attention...or sadly, she could be one of those mean girls who gets a kick out of stringing guys along just for thrills. Sometimes when women have low self-esteem, they will try to get as much attention from men as they can because it gives them a sense of power and security.
I would suggest taking things slowly & paying close attention to the way she acts around other people & also what the circumstances are when she's teasing you & praising you. That could help give you clues about where her heart really is. If in time you feel she's being genuine, you can ask her what her feelings really are...I would wait a bit before doing that though.
Good luck and take care...hope everything works out well for you.
2006-10-12 09:44:13 · answer #2 · answered by greengirl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It could be either of the two -
One - Because you have been really kind to her, and obviously then you do like her, and she knows that, so, she's taken you for granted, without really bothering much on how you feel, and then praise you a little here and there, so that you are confused about her feelings for you. At the same time, she may be knowing that you really wouldnt do anything to hurt her, or retort back when she insults you. You said she says '''bad things about you jokingly'''....and I assume you do feel bad and that can be termed as ''insult'', but then again, it depends on what you mean by ''bad things''
Two - She may be really liking you, and she just ''jokes'' thinking that you really wont take it seriuosly, and sportive enough to keep a smile on your face. Probably she does like you, so she praises you as well, because she genuinely recognises on how kind you have been to her, and there are good things in you to be praised about....
Really, thats the two things I can think of. And to really get out of your confusion, as everyone would tell you, its best if you could ask her, in your own kind ways. Tell her that you do feel upset, or a bit out of place when she says ''bad things'' jokingly. Thats the only way you could find out what she really feels for you.
Somehow, a person who likes you a lot wouldnt joke about your ''bad things''...whatever it may be. At least not always, perhaps in light situations in the right crowd...but not when it makes you feel uncomfortable.
So good luck !
2006-10-12 11:29:56 · answer #3 · answered by arya 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is ---may be --- a kind of game. We are like cats.
We play with the mouse before we "kill" it....
She wants to find out how far she can go with You.
You must fight every day. Believe me --- we are not
easy. But in the end You are the winner and she will
treat You with respect.
Imagine Charles Bronson and
his girl Jill Ireland !?
What a wonderful couple. but I think it wasn't that
easy... He had to fight too. But at the end he could show
her WHO is the boss!!!
So be a man --- be like Charles Bronson !!!
2006-10-12 09:26:17 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
She definitely likes. Talk to her see what thinks or has to say. Do you like her? Tell her you need to have a serious talk ask what the hell is going on with her and then you'll figure it out only she can tell you what her deal is.
2006-10-12 09:26:03 · answer #5 · answered by jfurlerbaby23 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ladies are like that mine does thesame thing untill i took my time and studied her, then i discovered that she is just like that no harm mearnt. The most important is be yourself to her. All the best
2006-10-12 09:27:36 · answer #6 · answered by Bobo 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
maybe she likes u, I make bad jokes about whom I like, and then kill myself for being mean to that person
2006-10-12 09:25:04 · answer #7 · answered by bad person 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
maybe shes jus sarcastic by nature... and thts jus her way of jokin aorund. hey if shes nice to u.. if u know shes jokin... y is this even a problem?? its jus her sense of humour.
2006-10-12 09:28:02 · answer #8 · answered by rag doll 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She's a fruit cake and you should run as far away as possible.
2006-10-12 14:29:21 · answer #9 · answered by crystalonyx3 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She like you or she completely playing with you....ask her straight up...What the deal??? See what she tells you....
2006-10-12 09:23:37 · answer #10 · answered by Lovely B 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋