I want to have sexual intercourse with my girlfriend but she is afraid. We have been dating for 10 months now and we always spend about four nights sleeping in the same bed a week. she only allows me to finger her and a bit of oral sex only.
2006-10-12 02:16:28 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I will wait for her to be ready... I love her very much and think she is worth the wait. She gives me more joy then i have experienced before without the sex.
2006-10-12 02:37:29 · update #1
the worst thing you could do is force your girlfriend to decide to sleep with you.... tho you might not know it but you breaking her will have a really huge impact on her life and trust me i dont think she wants her first time to be some thing she regrets doing... besides these things take time coz take her into consideration for a bit... it is gonna hurt like hell for her for the first few times and be slightly uncomfortable... and a word of advice from a chick to you if you are going to do it.... when you first enter her do it quick and all the way in coz it will hurt twice as much for her if you stop halfway after entering or taking your time doing it... so be quick but let her get used to the feelin so the pain can subside....
enjoy... but dont force her.
2006-10-12 02:24:35 · answer #1 · answered by Crazy_German 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It usually doesn't hurt as much as they think it will, I have heard, however I'm not a girl, so...
I suppose it's a matter of opinion and the individual situation, but using lubricant, going very gently, those things can help it be more comfortable for her.
But that only applies if she is afraid of it hurting. If she is afraid for other reasons, then you need to work those out first.
2006-10-12 02:18:46 · answer #2 · answered by Kyleontheweb 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, maybe you don't need to. She doesn't feel like she is ready yet. Don't push her. If and when she is ready you will be amazed at what she can offer, out of her own will, not from being preasured into it. So just let her choose her own time, and be incharge. Good luck.
2006-10-12 02:18:57 · answer #3 · answered by You're giving it all away! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That simple be patient and loving and wait....she will give it up when she is ready....be extra sweet and make no demands....in fact down touch her at all except for a kiss on the lips....make her want it.......
2006-10-12 02:20:31 · answer #4 · answered by Lovely B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
find out why she is scared.she might be from a very religious background or she has suffered a trauma in the past.in any case respect her virginity don't be thinking of how to break it but what to do to help her allow you to. cos without her consent, its rape.
2006-10-12 02:20:12 · answer #5 · answered by shaq 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can attain your objective by not trying... the harder you try
the more she will probably resist.. Oral sex works both ways and can be very gratifying, take your time... it will happen
2006-10-12 02:20:06 · answer #6 · answered by RiverRat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you want to marry her?If not why dont you consider that! It seems all you can think of is that fact that shes a virgin,its sad myfriend there is more to her than that.
2006-10-12 02:33:35 · answer #7 · answered by Eric c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ummmm don't try to break her, she just needs time. Just reassure her you know what you are doing, and make sure you are protected. Just show her that you care, and don't force her to do anything she doesn't wanna do she will come around.
2006-10-12 02:20:27 · answer #8 · answered by caligurrl3634 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How old is she? Why can't you wait after your could keep a promise to love her?
2006-10-12 02:18:40 · answer #9 · answered by changmw 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
SHE IS ALREADY DE-VIRGINIZED BY YOUR FINGERS AND BY YOUR TOUNGE SO WHAT ELSE DO YOU WANT? DON'T HURRY HER JUST ENJOY WHAT YOU CAN GET AND SOONER OR LATER WHEN TIME COMES IT WILL BE HER WHO WILL DECIDE AND JUST KEEP ON DOING WHATEVER YOU ARE DOING AND MAKE IT BETTER EACH TIME. BTW 10 MOS IS NOT THAT LONG A TIME , BE PATIENCE!!!
2006-10-12 02:21:59 · answer #10 · answered by livinhapi 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋