My midwife arranged for me to have a scan as she couldn't hear the heartbeat, only to find out that my baby had died recently. I had no obvious symptoms of miscarriage but knowing that I have to go through an induced labour tomorrow to deliver a dead 16 week baby is torturing me. Does anyone have any advice or past experiences?
2006-10-12 01:54:26 · 16 answers · asked by ditzycatlover 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
hi im am very very sorry that you have to go threw this i had a missed miscarriage at 19w 4d i found out at the normal u/s then it was straight into hosp and started being induced at 5 the next morning with a tablet type thing inserted every 3 hrs it was after the 5 tablet at 7pm i delivered my baby boy
he was only 13week size but had been gone for 3weeks or just over but he was still beatiful its making me cry noing you have to go threw this even though i dont no you
make sure you have your husband with you all the time as it canhappen at any time my induction lasted 12hrs sometimes its quicker or longer dont feel bad if your in pain ask for gas or pethedine ur already going threw enough but just a little so your still aware of whats going on
i wont lie i mine was worse than a normal labour(because the indction is so strong) but the delivery isnt as bad because of the size but you will get threw it
see your baby at least then you will have a piture in your mind forever
i ended up having a d/c for the placent that nite and went home the next day
it is not easy be strong if you need to talk add an addition to your message and i will give u my email i hope your ok
2006-10-12 02:16:07 · answer #1 · answered by pixieprue 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry for you loss. I had to go through fertility treatments and I miscarried my first at 7 weeks. I can't explain it, but one hour II felt fine. We were visiting my parents and when we left, I told my husband I didn't feel pregnant anymore. I went for my regularly scheduled appointment the next morning and it I had miscarried. I was devastated at 7 weeks so I can't even comprehend the loss at 16. The only advise I can give is to try to remain in a positive frame of mind. There may be a reason why the baby could not have survived. Only God knows why and sometime we're not meant to know all the answers. I do know that you can not second guess yourself or blame yourself. I cried for several days, but ultimately just being open and talking about it helped me tremendously. I won't lie... it is hard. You will still have to deal with people that knew you were pregnant and don't know of the loss. I would seek out the help of a grief counselor to help you deal with the feeling of loss. Your doctor or the hospital should be able ot get you some contact info of one. Just take things one day at a time and when your ready, you can try again. We waited a few months and tried and now have terrific little 5 year old. You have my best wishes and prayers.
2006-10-12 02:21:56 · answer #2 · answered by jigsawinc 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am really sorry to hear this. I can't imagine what you are going through. I can't speak from my own personal experience, but the same has happened to my oldest sister, twice. She was devastated the first time. And the second, was actually a tubal pregnancy, so of course, the baby couldnt survive that.
She was a wreck for a while...until the third time around and she was pregnant with twins. They are now 4 years old and doing great. She is saying that God has given her both her children back that she lost before.
If you're not a God-believing person, I'm not sure there's much I can say to you except Im really sorry and hope for you the best. If you are, please remember that God has his plan.
2006-10-12 01:58:26 · answer #3 · answered by Barbi 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Everything happens for a reason! I had a miscarriage and pasted the baby at home with out any medical help (it just happened that way). It will be the hardest thing you will do in your life but try to stay as positive as possible in this very hard situation. The best thing you can do after this has been resolved is to give you body time to heal. You nees to focus on you because right now you are the important issue here! My prayers are with you.
2006-10-12 02:15:31 · answer #4 · answered by mommy of two 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, I'm really sorry to hear that You've had to go through that too. I lost my baby at 38 weeks, and didnt know until the day I went into labour,they couldnt find the heartbeat as well, I had to Deliver her and it was the hardest thing I have ever had to do. I'm so sorry for your loss, I have no advice to give on how to cope, but maybe it is comforting to know that someone in this world knows what you are going through.
2006-10-12 02:01:30 · answer #5 · answered by shortcake554 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I am very sorry to hear your situation. This year I have had 2 early miscarriages and I am pregnant for a 3rd time and it looks like I might miscarry again. Nobody understands (until they have been through it) how isolating it can feel. All I can say is that I had no idea how common miscarriages are and as the doctors say their is NOTHING you did to cause it. Get counceling if you feel you need it, and know that even though this has happened to you you chances of having a full term pregnancy are extremely high if you consider that down the road. God speed to you.
2006-10-12 02:07:12 · answer #6 · answered by lucy 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
yes i miscarried a baby two years ago i was 11 weeks pregnant but my baby was only the size of a 6 week foetus it just stopped growing they were unable to tell me why b/c it could have been a number of things.I had to wait 2 weeks to find out if i was miscarrying and it was the worst 2 weeks of my life it was torture. It's not pleasant and my emotions were all over the place for a while you need time to grieve but time is a healer and you will learn to live with it sometimes i don't think about it at all now sometimes i still wonder if i did something wrong but the tears have stopped. Give your self time to heal and try again.
I'm so sorry for your loss my heart go's out to you
2006-10-12 02:07:20 · answer #7 · answered by tweetypie88888 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i'm fairly specific that neglected miscarriages take place once you do no longer understand your pregnant and you miscarry with a era. I had a miscarriage a splash over a 300 and sixty 5 days in the past and that i bled (very easy for a pair of days then like a popular era for a pair of weeks) and that i had some very challenge-free cramping. however the bleeding and cramping variety from man or woman to man or woman. i become 9 weeks alongside as quickly as I misplaced my infant and all my being pregnant indicators progressively went away as my hormone tiers lower back lower back to commonplace. Please attempt to loosen up! undergo in ideas rigidity is undesirable on your unborn infant and your physique. in simple terms believe that each little thing is okay and better than possibly it quite is. call your surgeon in case you commence bleeding or are having cramps that challenge you and that they might have the skill to steer you from there. reliable success!
2016-10-19 06:28:35 · answer #8 · answered by avey 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello. I just want you to know you are not alone. I'm sure everyone who has responded to your question will be thinking of you.
I am currently waiting to pass my baby. I was given the drugs last friday and was alowed home on the saturday. I have been bleeding since but have still not passed it.
I am not going to lie to you it will be both pysically and mentally painful but you need to have someone there to support you.
Over time you will be able to reflect on what has happened and then be able to get on with your life.
I had my first m/c about 4 years ago, I went on to have 2 lovely children but it was after my second child was born that I had a dream.
In this dream I was out walking with a young boy who was my son at 2 years old and a girl who was about 5 months older than him. Someone shouted to me that the girl was missing so I started shouting the name Natasha (who is my daughter). After a while someone said there she is and pointed to some bushes and my newborn daughter was there. I picked her up and went home.
It wasn't till I woke up and thought about it that I realised that the girl in my dream was the baby I had lost. She would have been a few months older than my son. I now believe that she was not meant to be born then but waited until after my son was born.
I believe that everything happens for a reason.
2006-10-12 07:12:39 · answer #9 · answered by elaine.king79@btinternet.com 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
O my gosh, I am so sorry. I lost my baby when I was 4 months also and I didn't have to give labor. They just did surgery on me like I was having an abortion. It sucked also, I woke up saying I want my baby, I want my baby. I would just say make sure you have people around you that you love and love you to for support. It is going to be a very emotional day, try to take care of yourself and remember you can have another baby someday. Tell your husband or boyfriend this is not something you can just get over and move on, your going to need time to deal with this emotionally and hopefully your husband is more caring than mine.
2006-10-12 02:21:00 · answer #10 · answered by ME 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋