why do my friend never give a s.h.i.t about me and alway think of them self, It never matters how much they put me out all they care about is getting what they wont
2006-10-12 01:53:19 · 16 answers · asked by destiny 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
i so know where your coming from i bend over back wards for my friends and they never bother with me trouble is i dont know where to meet new friends im so busy with my job that i cant go to clubs and places to meet nerw people mine just care about them slves and not any one else incase they ruin there little reality it sucks your not alone sweetie
2006-10-12 01:57:16 · answer #1 · answered by chickenbutt 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They are not your true friends darlin. Trust me, and deep deep down you know this. I can count my TRUE friends on my one hand, two. People come and go in life, most of which will only use you and be jealous of you. Girls, i reckon, are more bitcher. its because our insecurities are so high due to the pressure that the image world makes us have due to girls on TV with the best outfits, banging bodies, all of us girls have to admit that we want it to, well most of us. So when we see a girl, who has something that they want, and then they get jealous and spiteful, what you got to do is play them at their own game. When someone pis*es you off and they want you to act in a certain way, don’t, just say, "Fine, whatever", and walk away. I went through college in the first year with about 5 friends, by the time we got to the second year I had fallen out with them and I was on my own. I went around for the whole year by MYSELF. And for that, people around me respected me. I didn’t leach on to another crowd or stop going; I continued to go and ignored them. Bitchy remarks would get said in class so I could hear them, but I ignored them. I made sure I came into college feeling good about myself so it wouldn’t effect me as much, I did this by buying new clothes nearly everyday, I broke myself out!! Lol xx and that made them even more jealous, I didn’t realise till I got Outta College. It makes me laugh now. THEY ARE JUST JEALOUS I promise. Ignore them and they will realise they can’t touch you.
And I would rather be RESPECTED than liked. It sounds like these "friends" like you, but don’t have respect for you, they want what they want and nothing else matters. And this is getting you mad aint it. Wouldn’t you rather them leave the bitchy crap out and you not be hanging around with them and when they see you they say hi outta respect, they know there place kind of thing. Trust me. If and when anyone tries to make you feel stupid in front of people or whatever situation, just stand up tall, (literally) and say "and who made you queen hu? PLEASE!! “Show them YOUR bitchy side.
Good luck, and don’t forget, what are they doing for you; do you really need them in your life? I bet you find the answer is nothing and no.
Take care. ",)
2006-10-12 09:10:41 · answer #2 · answered by london lady 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sounds to me like "fair weather friends" or so me dad would say...real friends make you feel good about yourself, want to spend time...and accept you just for being you..you feel you can be your self as theres nothing to prove..so ditch these guys, dont rush into friendships just cuz your lonely or something, wait til you really click, then go with it. Gud Luck Hun xx ps if u need a friend?
2006-10-12 09:03:46 · answer #3 · answered by b.hole 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe it's because that person may not really be your friend. Some people are real fakers and they really don't want to be your friend so just leave them alone. But if they come around eventually just try to work it out.
2006-10-12 09:17:03 · answer #4 · answered by mweaver32160 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am glad you care enough about yourself to reconize your friends are not friends after all. Be open to meeting new people and making new friends. Life is too short spend your time with people who are selfish. Start today fresh!!!
2006-10-12 09:01:24 · answer #5 · answered by The It Girl ∆☻乐 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's how people are these days I'm afraid. We now live in a society where it's ME ME ME and bugger any one else. I hope you can find some real friends, as these friends are not worth bothering about. Good luck...
2006-10-12 08:58:20 · answer #6 · answered by Tws 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
'cause everyone's basically got his/her own life and we generally tend to get preoccupied by ourselves. That's sad. But there are rare exceptions and I guess those are the ones to be called real friends. Maybe the ones you're speaking about are just your buddies, but not real friends. Hang on, you'll meet some real ones! :))
2006-10-12 08:57:57 · answer #7 · answered by Korso 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because you give too much of yourself to people who are not your true friends. Concentrate your efforts where it's appreciated and let these users get on with their own lives rather than bothering you! Real friendship is about what you give out, rather than what you get back.
2006-10-12 08:57:00 · answer #8 · answered by Roxy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
doesnt sound like they're very good friends hun - maybe you should look to making new ones. thank god Im lucky enough to have mates that would put their lives on the line for me - and vice versa. xx
2006-10-12 08:56:31 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Girl, better not to call him/her a friend then. Friends are not like that.
2006-10-12 08:56:37 · answer #10 · answered by falcon_lady 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋