my bf told me things would be ok as long as i never do it again. i promised him it would never happen again. when i said that he got down on one knee and proposed to me. I said yes to the proposal. The only thing i have a problem with is that he is a year younger then me and wants to wait to get married till he graduates. im fine with that, the only thing is that im going into the coast guard and he doesnt trust me with going in. how should i make him beleive me that nothing will happen when im at the boot camp and on duty and at college, then coming home to him at night. Is it what i did to him that is making him think that i cant be trusted with my career. he told me he forgave me for what i did. Do you guys really think he did or is he just playing a liar?????
2006-10-12 01:47:04 · 4 answers · asked by Stephanie D 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Forgiving and forgetting are two different things. You have to work to earn his trust.
2006-10-12 01:50:38 · answer #1 · answered by Joe 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
God it makes me cringe to hear people who are so young talking about marriage. He's not lying to you,.... he's hoping. He wants to trust you, but experience is against him. We all make mistakes that we regret, and I'm not judging.... but if he's voicing concerns about you pursuing your career because of mistrust, then you need to re-evaluate the relationship. A commitment like marriage is not the answer to correcting mistrust....it takes communication and time.... not a ceremony and a ring. And you're so young and have so much to experience before you tie yourself down. Young love is exciting, and can seem like the end of the world if its threatened,.... but it also opens new worlds and makes us more able to love later on. Take your time.... work on the trust issues.... but don't change who you are or what you want for him. If he's the one for you, then he'll accept you for who you are and what you do. If he can't do that and be supportive, then move on and appreciate the relationship for what it was.
2006-10-12 09:10:59 · answer #2 · answered by just_me3575 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off , what did you do that you promised that it wouldn't happen again ? Trust is very important in a relationship , and once it is broken it is very hard to just say that it will not happen again . You need to prove to him that you can be trusted again !!!
2006-10-12 08:51:48 · answer #3 · answered by rocknrod04 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he doesnt trust you then why marry him?
also chances are you'll be out at sea for weeks and even months.
2006-10-16 12:38:35 · answer #4 · answered by military and veteran advocate 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋